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31 weeks and had enough!!!

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RFCMummy Sun 16-Aug-09 12:25:02

Hi all

Just wanted to have a moan really as am so fed up now and can't wait for pregnancy to be over!! I know that sounds really bad and I do know how lucky I am to be having a 3rd baby.

I guess as it's the third (and last!) one in 4 years I just feel fat, frumpy and really want my body back!

Anyone else feeling the same?

corblimeymadam Sun 16-Aug-09 12:32:04

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McSnail Sun 16-Aug-09 12:32:18

Yes. Five days overdue and want to KILL MYSELF.

suwoo Sun 16-Aug-09 12:34:08

I was like this. DS is now 17 days old and having 3 kids is a piece of piss compared to lugging my pregnant self around.

mosschops30 Sun 16-Aug-09 12:34:57

Oooooh I am soooo with you REC grin

Am 28 weeks, same as you 3rd and last pregnancy, Im finding it so hard, my bump is massive, I am constantly tired, cant get comfortable ever!!
I know what you mean about wanting it to be over, the weeks are dragging by so slowly now. Am finishing work in 3 weeks, didnt plan to finish so early but just cant carry on.

You are not alone smile

mosschops30 Sun 16-Aug-09 12:35:35

Congrats suwoo, I was just ramdomly thinking about you last night and wondered if youd had yours smile

suwoo Sun 16-Aug-09 12:40:14

Aww thanks Mosschops, I did a birth announcement a week or so ago. Hope you are well and not too fed up smile

RFCMummy Sun 16-Aug-09 12:40:49

Congratulations suwoo and thank you everyone for your support!!!

DH is not the sensitive sympathetic type so excuse me for venting my frustrations here where I actually get some understanding!!!

I am having a 3rd c-section at 39 weeks - 8 weeks on Tuesday but that seems like about 5 years away!!!

Isn't it crazy how pregnancy drags yet once they are born the weeks fly by!!

I am going to try and get DH to get the cot and nursery stuff down so I can start organising that and give my self something to do for the next couple of weeks!!

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 12:42:19

God yeah, it's not just you! Am 34 + 5, have SPD, can't sleep, can't get comfy, baby kicks like Jean Claude Van Damme and has really annoying hiccups seemingly the whole time he is awake. Have piles that must be visible from space, feel super hungry all the time but no room in stomach for a proper meal, can't get my breath as there is no room in my body for my lungs any more. Even if I could walk without excruciating pain I wouldn't want to go out because of people going 'oooh aren't you big' 'oooh you look ready to drop' 'oooh you look fed up' etc etc etc.

This is my 2nd, I had always wanted three, but think I will be calling it a day after this. It is so horrible!

RFCMummy Sun 16-Aug-09 12:48:38

Stay FRosty I totally sympathise with you!!!

I cannot understand these people who really enjoy pregnancy!! It's just so flippin uncomfortable!!!!

Everyone is telling me how big I look too and how they don't know how I still have 8 weeks to go - thanks that's really helpful!!!

I always wanted 3, this one however was unplanned and is still a big shock to the system!!!!! I will be taking every form of contraception going after the birth, couldn't face going through all this again!!

I really sympathise with the SPD, I have never had it and cannot imagine how bad that must be. The kicking though I do get and this one seems to favour kicking me wither in the bladder or what feels like right in my lady bits so I always feel like I am about to wet myself when he kicks!! Pregnancy is just so undignified!!!

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 12:59:12

Isn't it? Oh, and the people who go on about how big you are - oh my god! but but but, I had a MW appt last week, and before I went in, one of the GPs in the practice asked really nicely if I minded letting this student she had in with her see how you examine a pg woman, measure bump, play with doppler etc etc. And this doctor, she was sooooooo nice, I wanted to cry. She kept going 'oh you look wonderful, you look marvellous, oh it really suits you, it's all bump isn't it, nice and healthy, you don't want a little scrap of a baby, you really do look fantastic' then she printed me off a prescription for what must be a lifetime's supply of paracetomol, laxative and pile cream without being asked, she was utterly utterly lovely and I wanted to fall sobbing on her neck.

KatyS36 Sun 16-Aug-09 14:17:30

Stay frostie

So know where you are coming from. Have SPD and can no longer really walk. Only at 30 weeks.

Although what I hate is that noone can see it. I look fine until I have to move anywhere. I'm scared people think I'm just making it up. Have chatted to GP friend and she did reassure me that being in agony after walking 5 meteres was not normal.

This sounds awful but I hate it when people complain about being uncomfortable. I would love to be merely uncomfortable.

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 14:35:38

oh you poor love I have had it since 28 weeks; when I realised what it was, and counted the weeks of pregnancy still stretching out in front of me, I literally took to my bed in tears for a couple of days.

I will tell you some of the things that have helped me feel more comfy/get around:

co codamol

maternity support belt

osteopathy (this really helps loads, honestly give it a go)

wearing 'sensible' orthopaedic style shoes that support my feet, eg Birkenstocks and Scholls.

Apols if you are already doing all this and I am being horribly patronising. It is so so debilitating isn't it? I feel like my life in general and this pg in particular have had all the joy sucked out of them. I worry about bonding with my new baby because this pg has been such a negative experience. I am trying to focus on the fact that there is not long left now. Good luck.

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 15:05:37

....also, forgot to add, a lovely lovely obstetrician I've been seeing for unrelated matters told me that since I was really struggling I would be able to ask MW to do a stretch and sweep at 38 weeks - if it is possible. So that's something to think about too.

DevilsAdvocaat Sun 16-Aug-09 15:13:15

hi everyone.
i am feeling really miserable too.
am 32 weeks and recently have been letting things get on top of me.
just people's comments really. seems like i can't meet up with my sister or mum without either one of them calling me lardy/fatty/beached whale. tried to laugh it off but have ended up getting annoyed with them.
also dh recently told me he doesn't find me attractive when pg. we had a row and sorted it but his words ring around my head on a daily basis.

i want my body back.

i'm fed up with watching everyone else enjoy their lives.

DevilsAdvocaat Sun 16-Aug-09 15:14:46

sorry to those of you with spd/piles etc.
people who say pg isn't an illness are crazy!

mosschops30 Sun 16-Aug-09 15:17:23

oh yes get all that too:

'fatty'
'god look how big you are'
'youre huge'
'thats a monster'
I could go on forever grin

a lovely girl in work asked this week if she could feel my stomach, she was marvelling at how wonderful I looked hmm and said it was a lovely bump etc etc, just little comments like that make you feel so much better dont they

lazylion Sun 16-Aug-09 15:21:02

I have had enough too. I'm 36 weeks and counting the minutes. c-section is scheduled for 2 and half weeks time and I will be so happy to be lying on that operating table. I really can't beleive how slowly the time is going, it is making me feel desperate. Haven't been able to walk for weeks and I have low iron and two little DS to look after. Maternity clothes don't fit any more either.
I have the days left marked on the wall & cross them off each night. I sympathise with all of you, glad it gets better afterwards suwoo.

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 15:23:02

Yes deffo smile I know the GP was lying her arse off the other day, she was being super nice cos I was helping her student out, but it was lovely to get a compliment (or ten) for once, it gives you such a boost.

DevilsAdvocaat Sun 16-Aug-09 15:26:38

do people just forget that once you get to 30 weeks ish you really look pg? i've met a few people with smallish bumps at that point but most people look like they're about to pop.

so why do they feel the need to make me feel like i'm a billion times bigger than anyone else they've ever seen?

i will NEVER ever say anything like that to a pg woman. NEVER.

jeez.

i feel really pissed off.

mosschops, that's nice that someone said that to you. all it takes is one nice little things to lift your spirits.

lazylion Sun 16-Aug-09 15:26:38

Yes DevilsAdvoccaat - people saying that 'pregnancy isn't an illness' are realy pissing me off. So I feel worse than I ever felt in my life but I am expected to do everything as normal without help. THIS pregnancy is a bloody illness.
Poor you with your dh, I hope you made him suffer.

duchesse Sun 16-Aug-09 15:29:01

I just want to go to sleep and wake up with a baby in however many days young sir/ madam deigns to take before emerging! I think it may be the heat and the fact that it's summer and we should all be out there with bronzed bodies in bikinis that's making us feel like this. We'll get a baby at the end of it all! Hang in there, everyone. Also having 3 in 4 does rather make you feel like that- that's the reason we didn't go straight on to have a fourth.

39+6

DevilsAdvocaat Sun 16-Aug-09 15:35:07

lazylion, i was and am so gutted.
i do understand of course, it's weird and it's a great big lump etc. however, i don't think i needed to hear that from him. i know he feels bad about it and i don't want to make it any worse for him but i feel embarrased of myself almost constantly. i don't know how to 'get over it' in my head iykwim.

all i want is for the people around me to tell me that i'm doing great and that i look great. even if i don't! it's not that much to ask from the people who are supposedly closest to you, is it?

i'm going on holiday tomorrow and dreading having to wear aswimmming costume etc. even tho it's only in front of my husband and his parents and ds. i feel like i'm being sized up all the time. i can't take it anymore.

StayFrostyDMisaVileRag Sun 16-Aug-09 15:38:38

>>we should all be out there with bronzed bodies in bikinis

Ptttht, I never have a bronzed bikini body grin; at least this year I have a valid reason for being a big ole heifer.

But I am super irritable now you mention it, is anyone else really really bothered by stuff like itchy labels in clothes, the feeling of their own hair on their neck, or 'scratchy' bed linen? It is like I have got hyper sensitive skin; I don't remember feeling like this with my winter baby dd.

Devils you sound so depressed, I am sorry you are having a rough time. I'm sure you look lovely. Make sure you take advantage of being on holiday and having people around to entertain your ds for you while you go and get some quality alone time with your feet up.

lazylion Sun 16-Aug-09 15:49:23

DevilsAdvocaat - it doesn't matter what your dh thinks, he should never say it, stupid man. Do not be so nice, you need to look after yourself not the feelings of others.
Don't wear a swimming costume if it makes you miserable, you could always 'forget' to pack it. I bought a nice maternity dress & wore that on the beach.
My mother and sister are like yours too but this is my third pregnancy and I can see how shallow they are in their comments. I am huge but I look how I am supposed to look - I'm sure you do too.
Do your hair, get some nice maternity clothes and only do what you want to.

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