Early weeks of pregancy are no laugh at all are they(58 Posts)
God's sake. I found out I was pregnant with Lottie when I was just over 4 months, I didn't realise how lucky that was until I fell pregant this time round.
I had the early scare where GPO and I both thought I was 10 weeks and scan showed I was only 5 so either my dates were wrong of baby was 10 weeks and hadn't grown fro 5 weeks so wasn't a vciable pregancy; all turned out to be okay but went throught hell.
Waiting for my next scan now I'm about 9 weeks and haven't heard so chased hospital myself. They heard of me and am being seen by head consultant. Nice but straight away I feel like I'm a special case cos of this, due to Lottie having DS, and that makes me jittery. Then she says 'he hasn't seen your letter yet, he's only in Tuedays so we'll show it to him this afternoon', and then 5 minutes later my mobile rings asking me could I urgently fax over the results of the 2 scans I've had. Why does it all feel so..... worrying??
Also I've been feeloing really sock and really tired every day, esp in the afternoons. Friday i felt the worst yet. Then Saturday throught to today I feel fine. No sickness, no tiredness, I'm not even sure my boobs hurt that much. I was looking forward to feeliong normal again and now i am, at only 9 weeks I'm paranoid. I want to feel sick then I'll know everythng is ok.
This is no laugh at all. I'm not having fun and I want to be unworried and know for a fact, beyond any doubt at all that I am healthily pregnant. i'm back to taking deep breaths and having tight shoulders. I'm trying not to but it's not easy. Please let it all be okay and roll on 3 weeks so I can just get past the scary bit and then roll on the next 6 months.
Sorry, nothing any of you can or should say, just sounding off to the only place I can, I'm okay really, well i'm not, but i am, iykwim!
Blimey, sorry, I really went off on one, didn't realise it was such a long post.
No worries at all TC. What's to enjoy? It is a worrying time, plus we don't tend to be public yet so we are not getting the support that comes later, even though this is the most anxious time (I think). Fingers crossed for you, big hug, and hey, some virtual chocolate too xx
Oh, it's all horrid, isn't it. Huge hugs and more virtual choc from me, babes.xxxxxxxxxx
Thomcat... you're bound to be worried after everything that has gone on... and obviously not helped by unorganised hospital staff!
I had a worrying first trimester, but did feel much better after 12 week scan.
Are you having midwife appointments yet? If not then you could make one just to put your mind at rest... it's better to go and see them and be told all is fine, than to worry yourself over it!
Hey TC, normal to feel anxious. Normal also to feel up and down on the sickness and other stuff...
You and the consultant share the same aim: healthy pregnancy, happy mum, happy baby. They're probably just thinking 'bugger, we didn't realise she had a prior pg with DS' and they just want to make sure you're getting the very best care, most careful scans etc.
I am sure you know better than me related statistical stuff on your risks for your current pg, and everything's on your side (if this is a concern).
It is so crazy in the first months - and I only know 'second hand' so to speak.
Hope all goes swimmingly !
Thomcat - bless - the hospital are just demonstrating that they want to care especially well for you - when you think about it, thats quite comforting.
If it's any help, the sickness and tiredness started to diminish with me, the further along I got, it wasn't like a swtich that went off suddenly at 12 weeks.
This stage will all be over in a few weeks - hang in there - re-read your post when you found out you were pregnant and how elated you were!!
I know what you mean, it's horrible TC. I'm just over 8 weeks & time has stopped. I feel like I'm counting every second until 12 weeks comes.
I can't put it out of my mind because my boobs hurt and then I worry when I feel sick, worry when I don't feel sick. I'm really tired but when I try I can't sleep. I can't fit in any clothes but I don't want to buy any more new ones in case something goes wrong.
And then I feel terrible for feeling bad because I should be really pleased, I tried so hard to get here..............
TC, I completely agree, these weeks are no laugh at all.
(, yep, caught me on a bad day too!)
Poor Thomcat, know how you feel, am 8 wks and grateful to be feeling crap, everyday I poke my nipples for tenderness! Paranoia and obsessiveness are all part of being a Mum! I think the consultant is just being thorough if disorganised. I hope you get your scan soon and teh reassurance of a good strong heartbeat. Best of luck.
I wholeheartedly agree that the first weeks are the worst. I miscarried ny first pregnancy and as a result didn't enjoy the first 12/13 weeks of any of my subsequent pregnancies. Don't worry (or try not to) about the disappearing pregnancy symptoms as this happened to me with DDs 1 and 2 (my GP was very sympathetic and sent me for reassurance scans at that point). You just have to get through it as best you can, try to be positive and then hopefully enjoy the rest of the pregnancy once you know all is well with the baby.
Hope the next few weeks pass quickly. Take care.
No, no midwife appts, but how do I know who my midwife is? I've had one private scan that I paid for, one NHS scan on the 3rd May at a hospital I have no intention of returning to, it was just local and somewhere for me to get an early scan in with. I'm down to have this baby at Queen Charlotte's in London, and only heard from them today when i rang and chased them up to see what was happening. How do I get an appt with a midwife?
ohhhhhhhhh, I just want to be on holiday for the next month, strpped to a hammock and being feed fruit smoothies.
Did you have NO symptoms the first time you were pregnant then?
I had a scary scan and lots of bleeding with dd (though I am v lucky and never feel sick etc) so do sympathise. But I know you will be fine! You've seen the heartbeat, haven't you? That is such a postiive thing, I can't tell you.
The hospital is disorganised - so what's new
And my dd is here and lovely and fat and chortling away after all the bleeds and early mutterings about being a bit small.
I agree, re-read your mad, happy thread and remember - you are having a BABY! How utterly lovely is that?
the first time round i wretched once or twice when I brushed my teeth in the morning and didn't quite feel myself but put it all down to getting older and not being able to cope with the after effect of my social life as well as I used to!
I was taking precautions and not having periods so no reason to suspect I was pregnant. how lucky was I to find out I was carryign a healthy baby when I was 4 months gone, what utter bliss.
Just a right prod of my boobs under the desk at work and they do hurt. I feel like going and sticking my fingers down my throat now to get back the feeling of feeling sick!!!!
utterly ridiculous and no bloody fun at all.
I would read that thread again, but i'm too scared, I can't look at it again until I know we're both ok.
to all the women who are feeling the same way as me right now, to all the women who have felt this way int eh past and all who'll feel it in the future and to hub2dee, I stretch out my arms and hug you all.
Now can someone please push fast forward for me so i can just bloody relax and smile again! <half hearted weak pathetic little smile>
you need to contact your local GP's surgery. You can probably make an appointment straight with a midwife
Okay, i've spoken to my doctors surgery twice alrready this morning so I'll ring again tomorrow now. Thanks.
Hey TC, thanks for the hug.
Get on to your GP to get the midwife / hossie sorted, and liaise with this consultant so you get assured of a clued up 12 weeks sonographer (if you're going for it).
Go for a combined test (if you feel like it) to get extra certainty your baby is not DS (if this is playing on your mind), they'll tally a few extra blood tests with nuchal measurement to attempt to give you more accurate predictions. It's not 100%, but it's the best they can do without CVS / amnio).
I have a link to the sonogrpaher's training / accreditation manual on the 12 week nuchal fold test with info on combined blood testing, stat risk of various trisomies etc etc. If you feel like a read, post and I'll find it again. It's a bit overboard on the info, and you might not want more info... but if you do, just ask.
I cant express enough how your all providing a bit of comfort for me knowing that the constant worry effects us all. I had 2 m/c and one missed m/c before DD1 and now i'm convincing myself that this is all going to go wrong. I know this sounds extremely sad but I'm even sniffing toilet roll after I have wee'd to make sure that I dont have an infection that could threaten the life of my unborn baby. I think this stems from the midwives mentioning this as a possible cause for m/c.
Constantly prodding myself in the boobs to make sure they still hurt which is probably making them tender anyway.
i so wish I could throw up every morning. but I didn't with DD1 anyway.
Roll on 12 weeks.
Much sympathy TC. Hated being pregnant both times,even beyond 12 weeks. Worry,worry,worry,worry,worry,worry,worry.
That was just me though and I'm a miserable bitch. You're over the worst bit,things will be rosy in a few weeks. I'm sure too that they just want to treat you extra specially well.
TC - I understand where you are coming from. I am 13 weeks pg with no.2 and found the first bit much harder this time round. Some days I felt so sick and tired (esp with a 6 month old ds!) that I wanted to curl up and die and then for days and days I'd feel fine and that would send me off on a nightmare spiral of worry. On a couple of occasions I even re-did the pg test, just to be sure. I had my scan last week and when db appeared on the scan with his/her heart beating away I burst into tears and sobbed for what felt like an age.
I'm not sure what to recommend to get you through this bit other than take it one day at a time and ignore the fact that you don't feel too sick on somedays. I used to try to get loads of things done on days like this so that I could hang out with ds playing and watching cbeebies when I felt poop.
I hope the rest of your pg goes smoothly. And as for a midwife - phone your gp and get an appointment with one asap so you're in the system and don't miss out on any scans you want to have.
Ahhh, listen to us worried lot, so crap isn't it.
Hub2dee, not at all worried about DS, would be really nice to have a child with no SN at all, would love to know the joys and woes of raising a NT child, but not really worried about DS. I'd rather only have Lottie with it but not worried iykwim. DS is nothing, no worse than having a kid with excema or asthma. I just want to be pregant and that's the only thing I'm worried about right now. I don't want anyone fussing over me in case I might be having another child that might have DS, I don't want to be singled out and have people offer me this test and that test, I just want to be told I'm carrying my baby okay and that it's healthy and will born as planned on the week of Xmas. That's all I want right now. It would be nice to have a NT child but all that really matters is that it stays where it is for another 6 months + and is healthy.
TC you have my sympathy. I can honestly say that through out both my pregnancies I never felt completely at ease. My mum & dad was married for 10 years before they managed to have me, in between she had 8 miscarriages and one of those was quite late on, I convinced myself both times the same thing was going to happen to me. Of course it didn't but nothing anyone said to me would convince me otherwise. My ds (now 17mths) didn't move for the last week of pregnancy at all and I was sure I'd lost him, he's certainly made up for it since. . Keep thinking to the months, years ahead, when you have 2 beautiful children and Lottie will be so proud to be a big sister (just like my dd). Good Luck
Oh girls, just reading that so many of you are feeling as scared as me is just so..... sad/rubbish/awful/upsetting.
Sending you all my love and wishing/praying for you all as much as I'm wishing/paying for me.
I was just thinking to myself:
(put on voice of Jewish grandma)
"They moan when they're sick, they moan when they're not sick, what's there to do ? Oy veh."
I can understand your DS position... I just couldn't quite figure out what was worrying you.
You ARE pregnant. You WILL have the baby. Hopefully, like everyone else, it might take about 9 or 10 months.
There is a magic bean in there. It has proved itself by making magical ink turn blue. It has proved itself by having a little beating heart. It has proved itself by doing a demonstration for your various scans.
Now, calm down, so you're not giving it an adrenaline breakfast, and think about that hammock and those smoothies, and having TWO little kiddies on holiday with you, big Lottie stroking little one's hair.
Simply take every 'responsible precaution' you can and you'll know you'll be doing the very best for your fetus. Does it have a name yet ? (ie bump / shrimp / bean / pickle etc.)
Now shut up and calm down and go easy on yourself and get on with some work (that's rich coming from me).
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