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Oh my god, I'm pregnant

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dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 11:49:14

The last few months has been really stressful for me, so it never occured to me that I'd missed periods until I was going through my diary. So I've done a test and it's positive, what the hell am I gonna do. Ds is 19months, I'm a single parent now and god I can't stop bloody crying now.

KingCanuteIAm Mon 13-Jul-09 11:51:27

How far on are you Dizzy? Sorry this is not the news you were wanting sad
Do you have any support?

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 13-Jul-09 11:52:41

Oh dizzy. Is there someone in RL you can confide in and have a hug and cup of tea?
Do you know your dates?

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 11:54:55

I don't know at the moment, but I've missed 2 periods. I'll have to get in to see my dr now I suppose, but I don't know how I'm gonna cope. My family live near by but I can't expect them to be here 24/7 can i.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 11:59:44

I've just tried to work it out and I think the last time I had a period it was around the beginning of may, but I can't be sure. So if that is right, I'm a couple of months already. Is that right, I'm no good at working these things out, especially right now

KingCanuteIAm Mon 13-Jul-09 11:59:44

No you can't but some help is better than no help so it is a starting point for you. Can they offer you some support right now? I have no idea how you feel about the options that could be available to you but, if you are considering your options, it could help you to have someone you can bash things out with?

LoveMyGirls Mon 13-Jul-09 12:09:33

It's a shock for you, it's no wonder you're upset but these things usually happen for a reason and it could be the best news ever once it's sunk in and you've worked out a plan, you just need to let it sink in and talk about the things that worry you most.

What about the dad, maybe he will be more supportive than you think? I'm assuming you haven't told him yet?

At least you will already have a lot of baby things if your ds isn't very old yet so that's good.

A close age gap once they're bigger will be easier in some ways too.

Have a cuppa while you calm down smile

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 12:11:22

Whereabouts are you?

If you are near me I am happy to help in anyway I can.

First thing is to get yourself to the GP to get a midwife assigned to you and try not to panic.

You will also have to tell the father.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 16:27:37

Thanks, but I can't expect a total stranger to drag me through this, not that I don't appreciate you offering. I called and I can't be fitted in until Wednesdayhmm, and as for telling the father he's my dh but we recently seperated which is why I'm so upset about this. I wanted a new start but I'm not going to bloody get that now am I.

Thank you anyway

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 16:29:09

Oh heck.sad

When are you going to tell your H?

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 16:37:28

I really don't know, I was thinking maybe I'll wait a while first and try and get used to it myself first before I have to land this one on his lap. No wonder I've been feeling all over the place the last few months, and I feel really stupid now because this never even occured to mesad

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 16:49:54

No point beating yourself up. Sex without contraception can always end in a pregnancy but we hear so much about how hard it is to concieve, that no wonder there are so many unexpected pregnancies. It is the it won't happen to me syndrome.

I would tell him asap tbh. He has a right to know and if he finds out you knew for ages and didn't tell him it is an upset you can avoid IAH.

BecauseImWorthIt Mon 13-Jul-09 16:52:13

Sorry - don't know your story, but is it all definitely over with your DH?

Agree with FBGIB that he needs to know, and even if you're separated, he might be able to help you out/support you through it.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 17:00:41

I want to see my Dr first, before I even start to think about telling him. It's definitely over, there's been too much crap for us to carry on and now what if he thinks I've done this on purpose, which I bloody haven't. My heads a total mess anyway, and this is just a nightmare for me.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 19:58:15

He will ask how it has happened then so you will need to think about what contraception failed.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 20:39:15

The only contraception we used were condoms, so he can't really land anything at my door can he, only he won't see it that way. Thanks for listening BakerGirl

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 20:41:40

So, if you used condoms, how you do think this pregnancy happened?

I am not trying to grill you but ask you the questions he will probably ask.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 20:53:42

I really don't know, just unlucky I guess. It's not like it's never happened before is it. I mean it's not like I did what old what her name did in Eastenders, or I wouldn't be this stressed out about it.
No I know you're not trying to grill me, I appreciate this, I really do need to think about this stuff

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 20:58:02

No idea who you mean and I watch EE too!

Have you got children already with him?

Do you mean the pin in the condom?

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 21:19:45

We've already got a little boy of 19m. Yeah, the pin in the condom thing, I can't remember what her name is though.

No contraception's 100% is it, well unless you don't have sexhmmwhich we did as a last time sort of thing iukwim

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 21:25:10

Not really tbh. if i was leaving someone I doubt I would sleep with them but that is irrelevant.

You did, and now you are pregnant and I think you should tell him today.

FAQinglovely Mon 13-Jul-09 21:29:54

FabBaker - that's the only part of my relationship that was still functional before DH and I split up!

Dizzy - what a shock for you. I haven't been right where you are - but I do know where ou're coming from. My relatioinship with DH was on the rocks when I fell pg with DS3 - he thought I'd done it on purpose, and it was all planned - of course it wasn't - but it was the easiest thing for him to say then.

If you want to CAT me please do smile

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 21:38:35

BakerGirl I know it was stupid, but we all do stupid things sometimes, and I guess this was my time. And I will tell him, I'm just not ready yet, not tonight anyway, but thanks.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Mon 13-Jul-09 21:41:53

I don't think you are stupid.

dizzymare Mon 13-Jul-09 21:43:05

FAQ, that's what I was trying to say but you've managed to put it so much better than I could have tonight blush My head's kind of messed up right now.

Thanks for the offer.

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