Is there any point in seeing the GP - help resolve an argument between DH, my friend and I...

[Weegle]

I am 8 weeks tomorrow and I feel rough

So far today I woke at 2am, vomited, woke at 5am, vomited & runs, woke at 7am, vomited as getting DS brekkie because of opening the fridge (smell). Had a shower (vomited in it). Did preschool run which nearly killed me. Came home and slept for 2 hours. Neighbour picked up DS, brought him home - I vomited whilst getting his lunch. I felt so light-headed I ended up calling another friend who is here now. I have been sick once more this afternoon but to be honest the nausea hasn't stopped. From the last few days experience I will carry on like this till about 9pm when I might feel human for about an hour. BUT I am managing to eat (I don't want to but I'm forcing myself), and drink.

DH and friend who is here this afternoon are adamant I should call the doctor. The doctor on Fri (when I went to inform I was pg) said they will only prescribe something if I become dehydrated. I'm sure I'm not dehydrated (managing to wee, cry, etc).

The problem is what can we do? How the hell do I cope with my 3 year old? We can't use friends everyday and we have no family willing to help, or close enough. I had MS with DS but it was nothing like this bad this early.

So firstly - who's right on whether it's worth going to the doctor?

And secondly, how do I do this with a child in tow?

[Scorps]

Yes, if you get like this for more than 3 days you are at risk of dehydration. There are things they can give you to help. Take your dc with you, ask a neighbour to have him/her, nursery/creche?

[Scorps]

i gather you are trying accupressure bands, ginger, peppermint tea etc?

[dollius]

Definitely see the doctor. A friend of mine who was as sick as you had to hand her 3-year-old DS to her parents for most of the 20 weeks she was vomiting.

She simply couldn't look after him.

She had that option, but you don't.

[Weegle]

I can't now face ginger, I am permanently sucking a mint though. Yes, wearing accupressure bands. Eating little and often, doing all the usual advised stuff but to be honest it's having limited affect. I just feel so miserable.

I meant more what do I do with DS for the next 5-6 weeks till this passes (assuming it's 14 weeks like it was with DS). Sorry reading my OP that wasn't very clear.

[Scorps]

You just have to rest, my lovely dont stress too much on cooking etc. Cuddle up watch dvds, do you have a garden he can play in? its pants isnt it

[dollius]

Can someone come to stay?
Could he do a few more nursery sessions?
Perhaps a few sessions with a childminder?

[Weegle]

we do have a garden but it's not enclosed - will be the week I am 12 weeks though, just to be perverse.

We literally have no family who can help ie. come to stay. My mother can't be trusted with DS (long story) yet she would do it begrudgingly, my father isn't well enough, DH father lives in Cyprus and his mother works full time 200 miles away. We literally have no family who could help.

DH is currently looking in to emergency childcare but goodness knows how we can afford it. Ironically we normally have an au pair but haven't one at the moment, horrific timing. DS does 3 mornings at preschool - they won't take him on the other 2 days until Sept (he's only just turned 3 and those sessions are more geared for moving to school).

[dollius]

Could your mother be trusted if you were in the house with her? All she has to do is pick him up from pre-school, make a few meals and do a few jigsaw puzzles/read a few stories.

My mother is a nightmare, so I honestly understand if you say it's not possible, but that might have to be the solution for a few weeks??

[Weegle]

hmm I'm really not sure and I'm not sure I have the brain space to figure it out. Not least she would gloat over me forever as to how much she did to save my bacon, and see I do need her, and what a trial it is for her (at the moment she's only in my life so I can maintain a relationship with my father, and him with his grandson). She's an ex-alcoholic and when I was growing up was violent - I have vowed to never leave her alone with DS. But to be honest it's the emotional side of it as well, she's very vindictive and I'vve caught her saying some nasty things to DS before. So even though I truly am desperate, I'm not sure if he would be worse off with that than just being neglected by me constantly put in front of the telly??? But even feeding him now is an issue. I just don't know what to do

got to go for a bit, feel like I'm going to be sick again

[dollius]

Right, so I think we can rule your mother out then.

I think you will have to find the money for extra nursery/childcare sessions. Just for a few weeks. I would really do this in your place.

And no, a few weeks of a lot of telly-watching will not hurt your son. Don't worry about that at all.

[ABuzzardAndACowNamedTalent]

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so unwell Weegle. (I recognise you from ap threads, btw. I have a new name.)

My MIL was sick at least once that I know of over my dh as he was a year or so old when she was pg for the 2nd time. He was only little so got in the way I guess. My Mum was also very ill with MS when pg with several if not all of us. She used to have to make breakfast, lunch and supper for the family and I'm sure I heard that she used to eat dry toast or a plain dry biscuit before getting up in order to ease it a bit. I was really lucky and wasn't sick with either of mine so have no 1st hand advice to give, sorry.

Can you have a local school leaver to come and give ds his lunch (with you in the next room perhaps) and stay for a few hours a day? Some are already fixed up with jobs or have hols lined up for when their exams finished but I'm sure some haven't.

I hope the MS eases for you very soon and that you find some help.

[Stumblebum]

Lean on your dh as much as possible. Could he make meals up the night before for your ds so you just have to warm them through?

I think you could make a dr's appt. They may not do anything but worth a try.

I had hyperemesis in my last pg where literally nothing stayed down. When I couldn't keep water down I ended up being hospitalised on and off for 6 weeks. Obviously you can't get to that point, maybe if you see the dr they can do something to stop it going that far?

Poor you - it feels so terrible.

[FlappyCake]

Weegle I think you might benefit from some drugs to stop or ease the sickness.

Plenty of people take phenergan without it causing problems. There are others too.

Lots of sympathy xx

[quirkychick]

Oh Weegle, you poor thing. I am 8 weeks tomorrow and have a 3.5yr old. I am pretty sick but not that bad. I think you really need some advice from the doctor. If they can't give you anything they will say.

I know exactly what you mean about the fridge. My dd is living on sandwiches but even that's a bit of a struggle! Oh and lots of telly...

I am with you in sickness sympathy. When pg with dd I tried everything and if you feel really bad things help a bit but don't really stop it. Have worked my way through whole 2 boxes of tictacs today. xx

[Trikken]

orange lucozade helped me through the worst part, you have to sip it tho.

[PacificDogwood]

Go and see your doc. There are plenty of things that can be done to at least help the symptoms.

Congrats on pregnancy and commiserations for crap symptoms! Hope it settles soon.

[Weegle]

thank you everyone, I really appreciate the support. I had to go offline as I had another horrific patch. I now have a stinking headache so starting to worry about dehydration.

ok - consensus is to see the doctor and DH is organising that for tomorrow. He's currently running around trying to organise help for the next two days and is then going to start trying to figure out long term. He's rung one nanny agency already this afternoon, waiting for a call back. He also ran the local childcare colleges but they were useless but I guess we could put some ads in the local shops? He also spoke to his boss who was very understanding so that buys us some leeway there too.

quirkychick that must make us due date buddies, both on number 2!

[katz]

i'd recommend going to the GP, i had horrendus morning sickness with DD2 which sounds very like yours, she gave me anti sickness meds which took about a week to kick in and once they did i was human again!

[Tamlin]

It really seems that it varies hugely from GP to GP whether or not they'll prescribe medication for hyperemesis. My old GP would see me hospitalised with an IV drip, but wouldn't prescribe meds; my current one reassured me that if the hyperemesis recurred with this pregnancy, he'd happily medicate me.

If your current GP won't give you anything, ask to see another one.

[cairnterrier]

Weegle

Don't know if it helps but if I have to fend for myself, I find frozen foods really helpful as they don't smell and things like fishfingers, you just have to open the packet and slide onto a tray and then straight into the oven. I think that my record is 30 secs from leaving to getting back onto sofa :-)

[mummytopebs]

Dont really know if this will help but i had a nervous breakdown 2 years ago and if my dh couldnt have got the time off work social services would have paid for my dd to go in a private nursery during the day time, i know my dd private nursey does this if parents are ill etc so maybe worth a shot. Sorry to hear about your symptoms i am 7 weeks and have got nauseua and that is bad enough. My friend had really bad sickness and found it stopped when she started taking a pregnancy sanotagan everyday.

[Wilkiepedia]

I agree you should see GP re anti sickness tablets.

FWIW, I found flat coke worked well when sipped throughout the day, it seemed to settle my stomach somewhat.

Big hugs - not nice!

[IwishIwasmoreorganised]

Sorry I can't help about the ms, but I wanted to say that I'm glad you're going to see the Dr and I hope they can give you something to ease things for you.

Glad your DH is taking things seriously and that his boss is being understanding.

Hope you feel better really soon

[BiscuitStuffer]

You poor thingm, that sounds awful.
Consider putting a note through all possible letterboxes in and around your street asking if there are any older kids wanting to earn pocket money to play with your child with you there and say 'one trial run for everyone before you decide who to give the job to' and then you can choose who, if anyone, is suitable and you both like. Or have a different one for each day of the week.

[BiscuitStuffer]

oh and there's Homestart - if you google for your nearest - they are volunteers who help, either directly or can get you the help you need.