Have got 3 DS, and been thinking vaguely about having 4th baby. DH really not very keen on idea, but (ashamed to admit it) I am desperate for a girl. Now I have just discovered I am pregnant (a genuine mix-up with my dates), and I am terribly confused. DH is being lovely and supporting me with whatever decision I make, but I am just not sure I can go through with it. I feel I would be embarrassed to tell people I was having another baby (4 - are you mad?/trying again for a girl?/how will you cope?), but the alternative is not exactly appealing either. Any advice would be welcome - please don't judge me for considering a termination, it certainly wouldn't be a decision taken lightly.
Sodd what every body else thinks. This is yoou and your dh's lives and only yoou know how you feel and what you want. no one elses opinion should matter and if they havent got the decency to be anything but happy for you then sod them.
At the end of the day it is your decision but you cant make a decision to terminate based on what others will think of you, it has to be done for the right reasons for your family,.
Psychomum - ha ha re the in-laws - I am in the same situation but with my parents!
Lockets and psychomum - how do you get on with your broods?
Thank you for your comments/advice - you have cheered me up anyway!
It's not so much about the sex (of the baby!), as I wanted a girl every time, but absolutely adore my boys, so I know I would love the baby whatever it turned out to be. It's probably more the time I can dedicate to each child, and as I said earlier, everyone elses looks of horror!
TBH I think a lot of people look at you as a bit if a freak/earth mother if you have 3 children. Second what everyone says about ignoring other people's reactions...
I love my three boys and when we decided to have children, I just knew that that was the right number for me.
Having said that I'm the youngest of five and I never thought that I didn't get enough attention. Mum was a bit depressed when she found out she was pg but later got quite poorly and I know it was a big relief to everyone when I turned up well and Mum was OK. Makes me feel like she knew it would be hard work when she found out she was pg but decided that she wanted to keep me after all - which is nice to know