Sorry I expect you get annoying people posting this all the time but I really need some help.
I'm two days late for my period but I'm getting period like stomach cramps. Last week I was feeling sick all week and when I was going to the toilet, the was like (sorry this bit is a bit gross) browny blood. I've also been going to the toilet quite often which a friend of mine told me happened to her when she was pregnant. I took a test a day before I was due on (didn't realise you had to be late to take a test!) and it was negative though.
I don't know really - I feel really emotional. I'm feeling strange cos on the one hand I would really like to have a baby but on the other there's so much to worry about and I'm really not ready ...! Thanks for asking though.
I might go and get another test in a minute, I guess it would work if I did it today wouldn't it?
Hi Justwandering- I don't know if anyone is ever ready to have a baby. I know from my SIL who went into huge panic overdrive at 38 weeks despite being married for 4 years and plannign the pregnancy for as long!
I was your age when I had my first. Very much unplanned and very much a shock. But... I didn't let it stop me from doing what I wanted, we just did it together. At 20 I went off to Uni - as I always knew I would - still had a great time, but also had someone to work for.
It gave me a purpose. It is certainly never the end of the world and should never hold you back from following your dreams.
Either way, positive or negative, life is (as always) what you make of it.
ohmygod I'm so glad you just said that because if I am pregnant I really do want to go to Uni as I've planned and it makes me feel so much better than someone else has been in (potentially) the same position as me.
I was really nervous at saying my age I don't know why I just thought people might think I was just a silly little girl but you've been really nice.
I just wish my boyfriend would hurry up and get here so I can find out either way.
Sorry JW- bfp stands for big fat positive. As youknownothing said, it may be easier when you have a kid early to just sit back and take the benefits- not try to make a go of things.... or it may be a wonderful motivator. When I was at Uni, I had a classmate who had a child. I used to envy & respect her as somehow, I felt her life was more 'complete' and 'meaningful' than mine was.
As long as you & your DP (dear partner) love each other and are determined, you'll be just fine.
Back to your original question.. if you are, you ahve to go and see your gp and let them know, they'll arrange everything from there.
Again JW- at 18, you are an adult. There are many people who have babies at 35 and mess it up. Just as there are many great teenage mums. The incompetent teenage mum thing is an ignorant stereotype and is quickly reversed upon meeting a teenager who's a fantastic mum.
I'm off in a little bit but i truly wish you all the best. x
There are always judgemental arses out there, but in my humble opinion as long as you take responsibility for all your own actions and decisions in life you are always doing the right thing.
I'm not saying it's not hard, sometimes you do have to put in that extra effort to get what you want: But it's worth it. Never let anyone tell you you can't do something if you have a baby, it just means they would be too cowardly to do it themselves.
It is not something I would have chosen. Nor is it something I regret. It's a funny old thing.
I echo CS7 - being a mum is what you put into it, it has nothing to do with your age, how much money you have, where you live, it is completely down to you and the effort you put into it.