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To tell or not to tell (and if I do, how)?

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magnummum Fri 03-Oct-08 17:17:13

In a real dilemma. Just found out I'm pregnant after 6 cycles Clomid which is exciting. We don't really want to tell anyone as it's early days but close family and some friends know about the treatment and always ask how it's going. Most difficult is I have a friend who I work with who has been under the same fertility consultant as me and whose treatment is going really badly. It's getting hard to change the subject as we've previously had scans etc on the same day and she keeps asking me how it's going. Don't know whether to just tell her now or try and come up with excuses until further down the track. Figure if I do tell I should phone her rather than do it face to face coz I know she's understandably going to be really upset. Any advice?

broodymom Fri 03-Oct-08 17:59:14

I have a sort of similar situation. I am 12 weeks pg and my bf has been trying for 6 years and curently going for ivf, i was dreading telling her i felt so gulity as i know she has been trying for alot longer than me. She was having a party the other week and usually we have a good drink i knew i couldnt make up an excuse as she knows me too well so i told her and she was over the moon said it gave her hope, and gives her something to concentraite (sp) on while she is waitng her turn! grin bless wehen we talked she said how she was a little jealous but not in a horrid way. I know how she means as i have felt this way also when finding out others are pg but still happy for them. I think you will find she will be ok maybe a little sad but happy and hopefull as well! x

broodymom Fri 03-Oct-08 18:00:56

My spelling is getting worse with pg !!doh grin

beautifulgirls Fri 03-Oct-08 20:43:20

If she is trustworthy not to spread the news then I'd tell her now. I'm sure she will be a bit sad for her own situation but also pleased for you too as she knows what you have had to go through to get to this stage. Hopefully as broodymum said, she can take some hope out of this for her own situation too.
Congratulations!

bessmum Fri 03-Oct-08 21:38:36

Have been on both sides of this situation. If she's a close friend I'd tell her early. A good idea to do this by phone as she will have very mixed feelings but would probably be embarrassed to admit to them - it would be easier for you both for her to have some time to get used to the idea before you meet face to face. Good luck to you both.

bessmum Fri 03-Oct-08 21:42:19

Have been on both sides of this situation. If she's a close friend I'd tell her early. A good idea to do this by phone as she will have very mixed feelings but would probably be embarrassed to admit to them - it would be easier for you both for her to have some time to get used to the idea before you meet face to face. Good luck to you both.

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