Studies I read say that if you had 1 vaginal birth already you have no increased liklehood to tear wether or not you did the massage. There is significant differenc if it is your first birth though... so worth it for a first vaginak birth, less so for number 2.
i would say do it again tbh, i suffered a 3rd degree tear with my dd, i did no massaging at all, i thought it was gross!!! but believe me i would definately do it if/when i get pregnant with no 2!!even if there was only a 5 % chance it would minimise!!!
When I first read up about this, I had visions of it just being a nice rub with oil on a daily basis (DH offering to help if needs be ) but when the midwife gave me the details, and I realised it was all about oiling and stretching your vagina opening with your fingers, and after trying it once, I decided it was a) too difficult to reach properly and b) bloody hurt when I did manage to contort my burgeoning body to reach!
I think you gotta get someone else to help. A bit ick but then just think about what they'll bear witness to during delivery. My DH found it painful on his thumbs (oh, poor love!) but persevered.
I definitely think it is well worth doing this if it's your first time. Just wondering whether I have to persaude DH to get stuck in again this time round (just realised that sounds a bit gross - sorry )
I probably will, just cos the thought of a bad tear makes me terrified (and I'm a bit of a sadist - he should NEVER have told me it made his thumbs ache )
Motherpeculiar...not surprised you don't have much sympathy for his 'poor thumbs'!! Had a second-degree tear myself and will be making DH's thumbs hurt if I have another one I think given the choice, they'd rather have sore thumbs than their bits torn, wouldn't they? So there!
HI, hope you don't mind me joining your conversation...YES YES YES to perineum massage, either yourself (if you can contort to the right position) or getting partner to do it. It's how you do it that makes the difference, not just about slapping a bit of oil on then rubbing around a bit, if you know what I mean and from 34 weeks onwards is best . If you'd like a detailed sheet on "how to" request one via The having a Baby Company on www.thehavingababycompany.co.uk ...we'll send one free of charge !!!!
Hi All. In my first pregnancy I could hardly reach the area and after labour I howled with laughter (some days after) at my stupidity as it made no difference at all and I had to have a huge episiotomy which just made a mockery of the whole thing and I felt cheated of all the hours I'd spent massaging! However, that's just my experience, but I won't be bothering with all that this time.