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20+6 and still not sure I've felt the baby move

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ButIForgetMyself Mon 18-Aug-08 11:37:27

Is this normal? I've had what I thought may be a few little flutters but still not convinced, and I certainly haven't felt those even for a couple of days. Quite worried, especially since I had an awful nightmare the other night that I went for the 20 week scan and there was no heartbeat... (we haven't had the 20 week scan yet).

I have never been so neurotic about anything in my life!

DontlookatmeImshy Mon 18-Aug-08 11:41:27

Is it your first. If so i think it's quite normal to feel things quite late. I had a few flutter with ds1 around 20 weeks but was never completely sure it was him. The around 21 weeks.out of the blue he gave me a huge kick and never stopped til he was born.

babylove123 Mon 18-Aug-08 12:08:27


Indeed i'd ask if it is your first? I wouldnt worry too much - the chances are the flutters are indeed the little one kicking. Mine used to come and go too and the midwife said its just where they have so much room to move around that they choose positions where they're in more fluid and therefore you dont feel them. If you're concerned, go along to your docs/midwife and ask them to check for the heartbeat. We did this, i had a panic after not feeling her for 3 days and i drove myself to hospital (was the evening) and they looked at me as if i was nutty! They checked and found her strong heartbeat and after that, she didnt stop kicking - little minx!

Good luck

ButIForgetMyself Mon 18-Aug-08 12:14:50

Yes, it's my first so I'm not exactly sure what it is I should be feeling anyway!

Fufulina Mon 18-Aug-08 12:15:27

Hi - I'm pregnant with my first, and I didn't feel my first proper - 'that was a kick'-kick until 24 + 1. Had been having weird vibrating baby moves before that, and found when I lay on my side in bed, he tended to kick against the mattress.

But - I was sooo worried about it, until my midwife told me at my 20 week appointment that it was far to early to be feeling regular kicks!

Everyone is different – grin.

Am 25 +1 now, and my DH felt the baby for the first time today!

aurorec Mon 18-Aug-08 12:16:06

You might have felt the baby already and not even realised!
It's completely normal.

babylove123 Mon 18-Aug-08 12:46:29

This is my first and i didnt know what to feel either - everyone said "oh you'll just know" and i was like "how?!" Its not true, the first movements you feel you dont know if they are or not - when you get belted for the first time you will know - trust me! hehe

MrsMattie Mon 18-Aug-08 12:48:43

I wasn't sure until around 20 weeks ish with either of my pregnancies. Perfectly normal.

PortAndLemon Mon 18-Aug-08 12:49:22

I didn't feel anything definite until 23 weeks first time (with hindsight, had felt some flutters before then but didn't know what they were).

Your possible flutters probably are, and you'll get some decent kicks within a couple of weeks.

bethoo Mon 18-Aug-08 12:54:57

you may have felt them but not realised as you have no other pregnancies to compare it with.
alot of things can affect when you feel movements for example if the baby is facing towards your back, the placenta is at the front therefore cushioning the kicks or you are carrying a bit of extra weight.
usually though the first preg you start to feel it no mistaking at about 23 weeks.

Seabright Mon 18-Aug-08 13:17:55

I wasn't sure for ages that I'd felt it (my first) because everyone told me how lovely it felt and I just thought, well that can't be it, that's not very nice.

I has it described to me a bubbles, butterflies and fairies. To be honest, I thought it felt more like I was a bit constipated and needed the loo or had wind.

Sorry, very unromantic!

babylove123 Tue 19-Aug-08 10:45:50

I agree with seabright! It is a rather un-pleasant feeling at times! If they're bombing around it can feel like your insides are going to explode!

waitinggirl Tue 19-Aug-08 11:58:02

it is one of the most frustrating things that people say "can you feel it yet" and i have to reply noooooooooooooo with massive disappointment.

i'm 22+2 wtih my first and may possibly have felt something a bit like pops or bubbles, but to be honest, i have to be completely still to feel it and sometimes i think it is just my heartbeat i'm feeling.

the doctor said for first babies it was usual to feel something between 18-24 weeks, but plenty of people don't feel anything for a while after that. had mw appt last week where they heard the baby's heartbeat, so presuming all is fine, but getting VERY FRUSTRATED waiting for what everyone else describes as kicking and wriggling about, or ideed bombing around.

i can't wait to feel it otherwise i feel like a bit of a fraud

babylove123 Wed 20-Aug-08 10:46:47

Dont feel like a fraud - your baby is probably just in a comfy position where it is surrounded by fluid and therefore you dont feel any movement. I have days where mine does this.....she goes quiet. It is a case where you think to yourself "i just want to feel it" but when it is 3am and you're having to get up for your 3rd wee of the night so far and your little one is wide awake and kicking the hell out of you - you begin to wish you hadn't asked them to kick sooner, lol. I'm not trying to make a joke of how you're feeling, i'm just trying to re-assure you that you will feel him/her soon and not to panic. I expect your next midwife apt is 25 weeks....?? If you havent felt anything major by then then i would ask the midwife but as long as he/she has a healthy heartbeat then that is what matters!!!

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