Come and talk to me if you've had 2 or more babies. Please

[MamaG]

hello, pregzilla here

Currently pg with No. 3

Assuming I don't have to have a CS and this blardy placenta shifts, I'm planning to have the same sort of birth as I did with the other two - big hospital, no fancy schmancy pool nonsense etc but I'm wondering if I should be a bit more open minded? I was fine with the other two births (first v long, had an epi, but I classed it as a positive birth experience), with DS it was much quicker with no drugs - again a positive birth experience.

I sort of feel like "if it aint broke, don't fix it" but then wonder if I'm a set-in-my-ways old hag?

Also after the birth, there's a lovely MW led unit closer to home where I was planning to transfer and have a few days after the birth. With DS I was sent packing 18 hours after having him and I immediately rushed into full on "coping mum of two" mode and absolutely exhausted myself. Now I'm starting to think I should get my arse home after the birth and look after my other two DC (not that DH isn't more than capable!)

Am waffling, I know, but I wondered if anybody had done things differently second and subsequent times and if so, what, why, did it work etc.

ta

Pregzilla x

[expatinscotland]

bumping

xx
pregfreakinouthere

[misdee]

lol

you know what i'm thinking the same.
if not being induced this time, i might opt for using the birth pool.

but am nervous.

[MamaG]

expat you bumped thius when it hadn't even been on the board for 2 minutes

I know you and misdee are both lurking as fellow pregzillas!

Mate just had her third, in a pool. Her DH apparently started yelling at the MWs to "get the baby out, it'll drown" when he saw her head (my DH would prob do the same!)

[MamaG]

Are yoiu two going to rush home after the birth, or have some time in a hosp/mw unit?

or are you having home births?

[misdee]

i'm thinking i may takle a lieasurely day or two in hospital.

dh isnt up for a home birth at all. would love one, but lack of room.

[expatinscotland]

no, no home birth.

too far from any sort of hospital round here.

was going to try for local MW led unit, but they have a 24 hour discharge policy so need to go back to plan A and see if the larger hospital will let me stay 48 hours.

my mother is coming, but not till mid-November, and then staying for a month.

[BlueDragonfly]

with my 3rd i wanted a home birth but babymonster had other plans and i went from being a risk free homebirth to having to plan a section within a week! (ended up giving birth naturally the day after i insisted a sweep!)

I had positive labours with the other 2. IN fact ds2 only took an hour start to finish with n opain relief! I rushed home after ds2 was born and wished i hadn't as i then spiralled down and down. AFter ds3 was born, i was home 3.5 hours later

wish i hadn't been tbh

[MamaG]

I think I might regret it if I rush home

My Mum said she'll come and look after teh dc, take them to school etc so I can have a few days in Mw unit and DH can work until I come home then he'll have some time off.

Thnk I'd be a bit bonkers to turn it down really and rush home, wouldn't I?

Mate transferred from same hospital to mw led unit last year, she said when htey arrived the mws made a big fuss of them and gave them toast and hot choc [thinks of stomach]

[lilyloo]

I wanted h/b waterbirth with no.3 but too overdue!
Still feel cheated that i ended up in hospital again!

[expatinscotland]

i rushed home after having DD2 and regretted it because my mum didn't get here till she was about 10 days old.

this time, DH will be on his own. no one to help until my mother gets here.

but i'd still like two days no matter what.

think discharging women 48 hours after csection is criminal.

unless they want to be, that is.

[MamaG]

Are you having a cs expat?

[BlueDragonfly]

i enjoyed being home actually and i think i relaxed better. WHat i regret is that i started being a 'mum of 3' much sooner than i really wanted instead iof relaxing and letting DP do the toddler groups and the washing and the meals and the night terrors etc

[expatinscotland]

No, not that I know of, fingers crossed, because having had major surgery in the past it's not an experience I'd want to repeat unless absolutely necessary, especially with two little kids around.

But I think you should be allowed 48 hours even after an uncomplicated vaginal birth and 5 days after a csection, FWIW.

[misdee]

i really going to milk it this time, even if i get booted out within 24hours, i am not doing the school runs etc etc like i had to after dd3 was born.

[midnightexpress]

I think it depends on what the MW unit is like. I couldn't wait to get home after ds2 was born (CS), but mostly because the food in the hospital was diabolical, the ward was overheated and the company (ds2 excepted) was a bit dull. Would far rather be with DP and DS1. But if the hossie had been a bit more alluring I'd definitely have liked to stay a bit longer to take advantage of the possibility of sleeeeeeep, which passes so quickly.

[expatinscotland]

DH has a month off - 2 weeks paternity leave + a fortnight of holiday, which will be a big help until my mother arrives.

she's excellent especially because she plays with the girls nonstop.

[PetitFilou1]

MamaG lol at pregzilla. I've got two dcs and am 36 weeks pregnant with no3. Had ds in a birth centre (was brilliant) and dd in big hospital (but only got there with 1/2 hour to go - not so brilliant) The birth centre was attached to the main hospital and mw suggested I went home straight away as postnatal care was poor - so I did. Stayed in overnight after having dd (different hospital)- postnatal care was terrible and got out as soon as I could. I'm having a homebirth this time - mainly because I have straightforward fast births, both drug free (not planned just how it happened) and I just want to sleep in my own bed, have a shower in my own shower and not have to worry where the dcs are (who are almost 3 and 4 1/2)

The idea of a couple of days respite before going home with dc3 sounds quite appealing to me though...

Can I count myself in on the hag status as am 36 ?

[misdee]

can i borrow your mum expat?



my mum and mil are good but they are close enough not to have to live-in.

dd1+2 will be at school ,adn dd3 will be at nursery in the afternoons, so will get a few hours rest each day.

[MamaG]

petitfilou - I'm 33 so yes, you are definitely a hag as well.

expat your mum sounds great, mine's like that - I note misdee's comment about living close enough not to have to live in unfortunately mine isn't quite close enough to go home at the end of the day but as I'll be in hospital I think I'll cope

Interesting to see how many of us are determined to rest this time and not rush into being supermum - wonder how many of us will actually manage it?

[PetitFilou1]

I am not supermum at the best of times so having dc3 is certainly not going to turn me into one

[MamaG]

I'm "tries-to-be-super-but-falls-into-snappishness-mum"

[sophiewd]

MamaG - stay in unit for a few days, you will cope much better at home for it. Still here for advice on section as well

[MamaG]

I'm hoping I don't need the cs at the moment! Having anothre scan in 5 weeks

[sophiewd]

You will be fine, am thinking positive thoughts for you.

[MamaG]

thanks very much