Please convince me I'm not being paranoid(21 Posts)
Yes Yes Yes! I had 4 normal pregnancies and every single time I kept thiking I wasn't feeling movements anymore but every pregnancy ended in a healthy baby. I think 17 weeks is far too early to be expecting to feel the baby every day. Wait until you are about 20 weeks and even then, the baby might kick when you are asleep and you would miss it.
Oh I do feel sorry for you as I know exactly how you are feeling and with the miscarriage it must be worse, but you know, very few pregnancies go wrong after the first trimester. You must focus on that.
BTW I have loads of ideas of how to get the baby to kick when it is a bit bigger: I made it my sole occupation sometimes!
Pamina3 - I'm pregnant with my 2nd and did feel movements a lot earlier with this one (around 15 weeks) BUT sometimes several days would go by without me feeling anything, or I wasn't sure if they were kicks or just a strange sensation. And I didn't really feel regular, definitely identifiable kicks on a daily basis till after 20 weeks again.
BUT BUT BUT, that's why you have a midwife to call on, and it would take her 5 minutes to listen to the heartbeat and reassure you. My midwife was always very clear that I could ring her any time and that if I had any concerns to just make an extra appointment and she would squeeze me in. Then your mind would be at rest.
Really wishing you well on this pregnancy - I was in the due March thread with you before the miscarriage, so have been thinking of you and was thrilled when you got pregnant again.
Totally normal.I first felt this baby move at about 15 wks,but the movements were very sporadic & sometimes I'd go all day without feeling anything at all.At the moment your baby is so tiny & light (about the size of your thumb) that even if it is moving continously,the chances of you feeling it every time are very small.Also it still has plenty of room to move about & if it is kicking inwards,you won't feel it as much as you have fewer nerve endings.
I've just looked up the subject in my pregnancy book & it says that before 20wks,you shouldn't expect much regular movement at all.
I hope this helps.I know what is like to lose a baby -nothing is ever the same again.I've had had the same panics over this baby now.If you are really worried,go & see your midwife.Thats what both myself & my friend did,when we were about 15wks & had the same worries.At that stage they could find the heartbeat & reassure us that all was ok.
Also, I remember with No4 having a scan (I had quite a few for another reason) and seeing the baby moving but not being able to feel him and that was when he was quite old IYSWIM. It can depend on which way they are facing and how much fluid surrounds them.
Good news - I'm sure everything is ok. Before long you'll be cursing as the baby kicks you in the ribs or keeps you awake doing gymnastics at 3am.
Only 4 weeks to go for me, and I seem to have a salsa dancing specialist inside.
Pamina... I experienced a similar thing and found a few helpful websites.if you have some spare time then try having a big COLD drink, and then lie down and wait. apparently cold drinks can get baby moving... website also suggested that you lie down for around an hour (if not longer) because at 17 weeks your baby will be sleeping an awful lot... but on average you can go for an hour or so and then expect SOME movement.
One pointed out that when you have been feeling the baby move for a little while you get used to it, so that when you are busy at work etc you don't really notice it! It may be that baby is moving normally, but you aren't completely aware of it all the time.
I am sure your baby is fine... but if you are really worried then call your midwife, after all your baby needs a happy mum who isn't anxious!
Am convinced this one will be a hyperactive insomniac, as my dd was a super snoozer! Certainly it seems a lot more acrobatic in the womb, have to watch out at work not to shout ouch when I get kicked in the ribs.
The Americans recommend "ice-cold OJ" according to my well-thumbed copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting, Pamina.
Hope everything is fine and they can put your mind at rest. 17 weeks is, as lonelymum says, well on the early side to be feeling lots of regular activity.
Better than it was thanks Pushalong dogs are lethal, especially cuddly-looking labradors
Pamina, big hugs ((())), it's totally different being pg after mc, isn't it? I felt kicking that early with this one too - I had bleeding from 13 - 16 weeks and so I did a lot of lying very still and was of course very anxious to feel the baby move. So I reckon that's why I felt it so early - I was really focussed on feeling it, like you. It wasn't until 20 weeks that I really felt it kick. However, I'm sure you know that I'm finding this whole pg very difficult (I've been signed off for 3 weeks and have at least another week off), and I have had a completely different attitude to the kicking to last time. I can't really explain how it's different, but I don't relish it like before, and it never feels "satisfying" enough to make me feel calm. Look after yourself
Pamina3, I got worried about the baby's movements this time at 24 weeks. I went to the hospital and they said that even at 24 weeks you cannot guarantee to feel the baby move every day so please try not to worry. Maybe it would be worth investing in or borrowing a doppler heartbeat unit? It has put my mind at ease lots of times.
oh pamina, just seen this thread. Really sorry you are feeling like this still. Lots of hugs to you.
Pamina [[[[[hugs]]]] I know what you mean. The end result is worth all the angst though.
Pamina - Like you I am lucky enough to be able to feel this baby on and off at an early stage. I am almost 16 weeks. I started feeling movement at 13 weeks (third pregnancy). I have felt no movement at all since Wednesday night. I have spent a little time concentrating on the baby this morning, but nothing. I am not really worried. I think that everything you feel before about 19-20 weeks HAS to be considered a bonus. I have had periods of 2-3 days with no activity then an obvious little movement. The baby is so small at this stage so I certainly would not expect consistent movement for a few weeks yet.
.... just to add, even at 19-20 weeks I would not expect to feel MUCH obvious movement then either.
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