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Anyone newly pregnant with number 1 and works full-time? Would like someone to share this with :)

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purplegryffon Wed 16-Apr-08 18:08:23

Hi there... Am 34 and just got my BFP. Due 20th Dec (fingers crossed!) Have been reading threads since TTC but since I work days - can only get to pc in the evenings - and then I have missed loads! Anybody out there in the same boat to keep me company? Feel like such a novice at this - would love to chat to other newbies...

NotABanana Wed 16-Apr-08 18:09:07

Congrats!

Full time mum of 3 so not relevant to you but didn't want to read and not post.

purplegryffon Wed 16-Apr-08 18:10:11

Thank you - I bet your days are busy?

NotABanana Wed 16-Apr-08 18:13:43

I have no idea. I am usually wishing for bed!!!

Yes, they are pretty manic. School hols here...

purplegryffon Wed 16-Apr-08 18:16:09

I nannied for 3 boys under 5yrs - that was fun! That said it was over 10 years ago - not sure I'd have the stamina now though.. lol...

Chequers Wed 16-Apr-08 18:17:35

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NotABanana Wed 16-Apr-08 18:18:14

OH god, I know, I used to be a nanny.

I was a fab nanny

I am a crap mum

I am sure you will be fine.

AHLH Wed 16-Apr-08 18:20:50

Hi purplegryffon Congratulations, I'm 37 and 18 weeks with my first too. Due 16 Sept. I officially work full time, but was so sick from weeks 9-16 I was in hopsital or off sick at home. I am now workinmg part time, building back up to full time over a a month, so I'll be in the same boat as you again soon. Only discovered Mumsnet when I was off sick, so I didn't miss it during the day during my first few weeks of pg when I was working full time. It seems to be a much more appropriate forum than the mountain biking forums I used to fritter away my time on.

How are you doing so far?

purplegryffon Wed 16-Apr-08 18:28:29

Hi chequers - how are you managing at work? They helpful with you? I had my risk assessment today & there is so much I can't do it's frustrating already!

banana - crap mum? shock In what way do you think it differs from nanny to mum (apart from the not being paid and handing them back part?)

AHLH - was the sickness bad? I have a phobia of vomit! Not god as a) am a nurse! and b) I just know it's coming! Do you feel better now?

I feel ok, stretchy mad feelings in lower belly, achey boobs & gagged over a cup of coffee this morning - but that's it! That said, it is really early days yet...

purplegryffon Wed 16-Apr-08 18:30:11

sp - not good I mean - and obviously the sick was bad cos you wouldn't have been off or hospitalised - see pickled brain already! sorry!

Chequers Wed 16-Apr-08 18:44:52

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AHLH Thu 17-Apr-08 14:07:52

purplegryffon Yes, the sickness was bad! I coudln't keep down A THING - not even antiemetics - for 6 weeks. I'd go into hospital, get rehydrated on a drip over a few days, and then the docs would discharge me even though I told them I wasn't feeling well enough to eat and drink. This happened 4 times, until one day it just stopped. I also had a phobia of vomit, but after dealing with it several times a day for several weeks I got over it, but wouldn't go anywhere without a sick bowl!Feeling loads better now, but still week from being in bed for 6 weeks. Pre pg I used to run 10K three times a weeks - that just seems like a dim memory now.

My manager's wife is a month more pregnant than me. She works for us too, so he is well into our maternity policy! He did my risk assessment first day back. HR have been fab too, and I have been referred to Occupational Health too.

hanaflower Thu 17-Apr-08 14:10:09

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beakas Thu 17-Apr-08 14:43:14

Hi purple, am 15 weeks tomorrow with my first and work full time (I use the word 'work' loosely as v. quiet at the moment) I was a nanny about 10-12 years ago as well, to three little people and quite frankly have no idea how I did it. Am very scared that I will be rubbish and stressed out and panicky and forget everything I learnt back then!
Have been really lucky so far, no sickness, just knackered and want to crawl under my desk to go to sleep- how do people cope when they're 30+ weeks? Eek!

Daniya Thu 17-Apr-08 16:07:47

Hi - I am 11+4 today (due on 2 November) with my first pregnancy. I also work full time and I told work a few weeks ago and so far they have been good about it all saying that they value me and would want me back - thats been nice to hear as I definitely need to come back - this was an unplanned pregnancy (by about 2 years!) so we don't have any savings to allow me to stop work.

I really like my job too so I want to come back in some capacity but I am already wondering how I am going to be good at being a mum and at my job - think I might need to invest in one of those time-travel thingys that Hermione in Harry Potter had!!

So far I have had a variety of symptoms - nausea at food smells, lack of appetite, tiredness, headaches but they have all calmed down a bit now apart from my breasts which are still v sensitive.

This is a whole new world to me and I'm learning every day!!

Daniya Thu 17-Apr-08 16:07:48

Hi - I am 11+4 today (due on 2 November) with my first pregnancy. I also work full time and I told work a few weeks ago and so far they have been good about it all saying that they value me and would want me back - thats been nice to hear as I definitely need to come back - this was an unplanned pregnancy (by about 2 years!) so we don't have any savings to allow me to stop work.

I really like my job too so I want to come back in some capacity but I am already wondering how I am going to be good at being a mum and at my job - think I might need to invest in one of those time-travel thingys that Hermione in Harry Potter had!!

So far I have had a variety of symptoms - nausea at food smells, lack of appetite, tiredness, headaches but they have all calmed down a bit now apart from my breasts which are still v sensitive.

This is a whole new world to me and I'm learning every day!!

purplegryffon Thu 17-Apr-08 19:54:12

hanaflower - hi - do I recognise you from TTC threads? I 'read' them for ages - and everyone seemed so nice... How are you doing? I'd love to join the Dec threads but I think I'd miss so much throughout the day - must pop in and introduce myself - they will be a pot of info I think for all my daft questions!

Beakas - hi... Do you think all moms get scared and panicky? I felt like it took us forever to get PG, now it's here I'm more worried at it sticking cos I'm one big lady anyway - even before I sprout out the way anymore! Lol... And you know what? I think we'll just make it all up as we go along - (I can't remember the last time I held a newborn) - despite 10 years of nannying! And as for labour - oooh - don't even want to go there!

Daniya - hi... Great news about your job! Mine were ok but I have set the precedant (sp?) by being the first one to be risk assessed - so health and safety, my line manager & the bosses are all scratching their heads at the minute! Our finances are pretty crap too and we've scared ourselves silly today by going around mothercare world, mamas and papas!

But as for symptoms - it felt like a vice around my middle yesterday, lots of niggles, and the headaches - ooh - that's all normal then???

dobbins Thu 17-Apr-08 21:10:52

Hi purplegryffon. I'm 30 and pregnant with first baby too. I also work full time. Due on the 19th September. Have had really bad nausea and sickness until a few days ago. I'm still not able to eat that much- significant loss of appetite and limited diet (no hot meals- just biscuits, fruit and cereal). But work are pretty understanding about everything (female dominated environment so a lot of them have been there, done that!).

dobbins Thu 17-Apr-08 21:13:54

P.s. also fairly new to mumsnet. What do all the abbreviations mean?! Is anyone else confused- is there a glossary of terms so I can learn it! I've worked some out but some messages still leave me a little confused in places! Hope I'm not the only one otherwise would feel like a bit of a dumbo...

OffTheCoffee Thu 17-Apr-08 21:16:28

Hi Purplegryffon. Congratulations and thanks for starting this thread - I'm in exactly the same boat. 8 weeks pg, work full time in an office and really struggling to keep a lid on the panic/excitement (I'm pg after 2 m/c.) Long hours and being on the ball are expected, and I feel (and look) completely green. I haven't told them yet, dreading it, not planning to for at least another month. Does anyone have any tips on how and when to deliver the news to a boss?

purplegryffon Thu 17-Apr-08 21:46:16

AHLH - gosh you've had a hard time of it haven't you? That's just horrid... In awe of all your running pre-pg- omg - my body is built for comfort! I guess it'll be one way to cure my phobia! I hope that you are at least feeling better now...

offthecoffee - love the name - I had my first experience of 'the boak' after making a coffee for a colleague the other day... I guess that's just a sign of things to come... So sorry about your m/c's - I am so afraid of the same... Fingers crossed for us both this time... I had to tell my boss as soon as we knew as I work in a secure environment - which kind of ruined 'the telling' - if work knows then everyone should. So here I am at 4+5 and the world knows! It's going to be a long pregnancy hence this thread...

dobbins - hi there... It get's better then? That's reassuring... Look at top of page, useful stuff and there's an acronym list there - hope this helps...

And thanks to you all for responding It's lovely to know there are other newbies out there!

beakas Fri 18-Apr-08 09:40:33

hi purple- yep I do think all new mums must get panicky, only natural etc. and we tried for ages as well before we got there!I looked at myself in the mirror this morning and suddenly seemed enormous (also could never be accused of being thin before, quite the opposite-hey, children like their mums to be cuddly, don't they?!)Am going to make the announcement at work next week and am dreading it. I work with 2 guys so can't see hugs and tears and excitement, somehow..
OFFTHECOFFEE- no tips, am afraid, as just as worried as you..will let you know how it goes, and if I come up with any genius plans!

purplegryffon Fri 18-Apr-08 12:20:08

Hi there beakas - good luck with 'the tell' To be honest it's been the blokes reaction which has surprised and touched me most... they have reacted the best - and have become quite protective and caring! It's the women who have been least positive as they are all older and have 'been there, done that' - with a reaction of 'great but get on with it - it's only pregnancy!' I hope then then the guys you work with surprise you and look after you! I announced with - 'sorry if I appear a bit off - but guess what? I'm pregnant!' and they were really cool...
What do you do? Will your pregnancy affect them much? Being nosey now...

purplegryffon Fri 18-Apr-08 12:22:01

p.s at least you are past the scary part - congrats! At nearly 5 weeks - this is worrying me a lot - guess that won't help me any though eh?

lollipopmother Fri 18-Apr-08 13:05:04

This is my first baby, due 4th Sept so not in the early stages as you are, but also work F-T and also worried the hell out of myself at the start, don't worry (HA HA!) it's normal to freak out about everything, every last little thing! I've only just learned to get over the fact that I used oven cleaner (for about 2 minutes!)whilst I was pregnant, I only used it once but then read something about how I shouldn't have and so obviously nearly put myself in hospital with worry! I'm over it now! blush

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