Hi all
Seeing a few threads on here about some women being nervous about their BMI and how pregnancy will go for them. Of course everyone is different, but I'd like to share my own positive experience, hoping to put some minds at rest.
I have a BMI of 51, I'm 29 years old, no health conditions. After being on the mini pill for 5 years, it took 2 cycles to get pregnant.
Due to my weight, I was put on a consultant led pathway. I was weighed several times, provided with healthy eating leaflets, offered the option of meeting with the dietitian (declined). Consultants spent a lot of time talking about the possibility of having a bigger baby, shoulder dystocia and several other issues associated with a higher BMI.
When having scans, the view was so unclear, the sonographers struggled to confirm full healthy development.
I spent a lot of time uncomfortable with the extra weight, looked very fat until 7 months before starting to look pregnant. My self esteem did drop during this time.
Nevertheless, I have gone on to have a healthy baby boy 2 weeks ago via c section. He passed all health checks with flying colours and he's phenomenal.
I just wanted to share this story to all of you so that you can see that as I have, you can also give birth to a healthy baby. Whilst the journey may not be as typical as others, it's your own personal story to be proud of.
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Successful pregnancy with high BMI
Dontjumptoconclusions · 04/01/2021 19:46
Congratulations OP 
@BabyC21 I have a BMI of 43, I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. Obviously all pregnancies are different, but just to reassure you all is going well with mine, the midwives/consultants have to obviously talk about my BMI but other then the first appointment and when they booked my gestational diabetes test they haven't even mentioned my weight. They aren't that concerned. The people I have mainly felt judged by are the the ones doing the ultrasound scans but actually I think that's more my embarrassment then them actually caring what I look like!
You will have to have extra growth scans near the end but that's not a bad thing. I've had 2 healthy (but big!) Babies before although I wasn't as big before.
@Namechange8471 congratulations on your pregnancy!
Yes sometimes the view isn't clear. But it doesn't mean that things aren't going well inside. Like I said, they couldn't see my baby too much in the scan but he was perfect!
I did a private scan and did find out the (correct) sex, so there's no reason why you can't either.
I was given plenty of information for my decision. It was an emergency c section due to the baby being distressed during each contraction, so it was quite an easy decision, but everything was talked through with me. If you are unsure, please speak up and say something to them at the time. Come prepared with questions for your consultation and don't leave the room until they are answered.
One thing that's been difficult for me is the healing of the incision because my tummy overhangs. So I have to lift up my tummy to air the wound. I also struggled a lot more than the average person to get out of bed etc when the wound is healing because I'm carrying extra weight. But nothing I can't handle and nothing you can't handle either! 
Congratulations on your little one and thank you for this encouraging post.
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