Having a Miscarriage NOW

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Somebodyimportant1 Mon 28-Dec-20 22:34:33

Hello, looking for a bit of comfort here as I Dont really have anyone to talk to right now.
I am almost 8weeks pregnant (7weeks 4days). Although not a planned pregnancy, I was just beginning to embrace the idea and even think of names even though I am very worried about it all as I am hypertensive and of course, because of covid (I do not want to go to that petridish called a hospital or surgery 🤦🏽‍♀️)
I have been nausea feeling without actually throwing up. I woke this morning and had lobster 🦞 for breakfast (only because we have too much food from xmas as plans changed).
I then had lunch & went to bed to try and relax as I have been sleeping for England lately. But I could not sleep or relax so I decided to go cool lunch of rice & stew.
I had rice and stew, went to bed and I slept off and was awoken by a sudden feeling of wetness & jumped out of bed to find I was heavily bleeding. I ran to the bathroom to clean up and found clots of blood.
I think I have a lot my baby, haven't I? I was only just going to call my surgery to register for my antenatal care tomorrow. Should I still make that call now?
I am having missed emotions, sad, worried etc have I lot my baby Tyson??

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MumToBeMaz Mon 28-Dec-20 22:36:36

Do you have the number for your pregnancy triage? If not call NHS24. I'm sure they will give you advice on what to do. Do you have any pads you can put on? Just to monitor blood loss?

Bleeding and clots don't always mean the worst but it's best to get some advice form professionals.

joopy79 Mon 28-Dec-20 22:38:02

I'm sorry to hear this. I would call your GP tomorrow to book you in for a scan unless you are bleeding so heavily that you need a&e. flowers

Hannah1990x Mon 28-Dec-20 22:53:14

I'm so so sorry to hear you're going through this. I would pop on a pad so you can monitor the bleeding, I have heard of people having heavy red bleeds and everything being ok but it's difficult to know. I've had a miscarriage and in my experience it was very painful, lots of cramping with the bleeding and I was very aware that's what was happening. I was 8 weeks.

Either way I'd seek medical attention as soon as you can and for now rest if you can (easier said than done I know).

StopSquirtingBleachOnCaneToads Tue 29-Dec-20 04:31:24

Go to the hospital now

Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 07:57:41

Thanks all, I will be calling the surgery now. I rested all night but didn't sleep a wink. I dread going to the hospital but then I guess I have to if it is compulsory

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PurplePansy05 Tue 29-Dec-20 08:04:11

The Early Pregnancy Unit should scan you, get a referral from your GP now. You can try calling the EPU directly, in some areas they'd take you in without a prior referral in these circumstances.

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Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 14:21:20

So, I got to speak to the GP this morning and he asked me to do a test which I did and it's says pregnant 3+. I am actually 8 weeks pregnant (1st day of last period calculation).

I have called the doctor back and he said he would talk to the doctor at the hospital to book me in for a scan.

I am not optimistic at this point now because I am thinking the clear blue should read and show 7+ weeks. I think the hormones are going down now because the baby is gone. The bleeding is now reduced and almost stopped and the nausea feeling is gone. 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Dyra Tue 29-Dec-20 14:45:06

Clearblue only displays up to 3+. Doesn't matter how far beyond you are.

I know it's an awful thing to be going through, but nothing is guaranteed until you have the scan. Hope all goes well for you.

ivfbeenbusy Tue 29-Dec-20 14:46:28

Clearblue don't go higher than 3+ (which when you add on the 2 weeks for ovulation actually means 5 weeks pregnant). They aren't designed to be taken much later than 5-6 weeks as don't really tell you anything

Bleeding doesn't necessarily mean a miscarriage though especially when you obviously still have a high hcg level in your system if you are getting 3+ on the test

(Also make sure the lobster is cooked before eating as shellfish shouldn't be eaten raw in pregnancy)

Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 14:50:37

I thought as much regarding 3+weeks with Clearblue. Yes, the lobster was well cooked. Thank you all x

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lboogy Tue 29-Dec-20 14:51:33

Fingers crossed all is okay.

Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 16:49:04

The hospital just called to book me a scan for the 4th 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🙄🙆🏽‍♀️😱 I know they are busy but this seems to be a joke to be bleeding heavily and then I get an appointment for the 4th. I will turn up at the hospital for a scan once I can gather/compose myself. How on earth would I wait till the 4th? The worry would drive me potty

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ivfbeenbusy Tue 29-Dec-20 18:33:02

@Somebodyimportant1

I've had several miscarriages so word of warning if you go to a&e they most likely won't be able to scan you there and then - they don't tend to have that equipment in a&e and need a specialist sonographer and scanner from the EPU etc and they don't tend to have the staff on in the evenings/overnight either. Less than 12 weeks they wouldn't admit you to the pre natal ward either

Just wanted to manage your expectations here - that they'll likely just make arrangements for a scan next week with the impending bank holiday this week

sortmylifeoutplease Tue 29-Dec-20 19:11:48

It may be worth ringing the early pregnancy unit and seeing if they can squeeze you in or change your appointment. I don't think just turning up will help. Good luck OP x

HungryHippo20 Tue 29-Dec-20 19:12:21

Hi OP
I would agree with the previous poster. Working in an A&E dept I can tell you that our dept wouldn't ever scan a pregnant lady they would refer to EPU.

It's really awful the waiting and not knowing, I have been there twice. I think the time of year is definitely making things worse. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I think sadly the logic is that nothing can be done to change outcomes at this early stage. That doesn't help I know but sending you lots of love and strength x

Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 19:12:34

@ivfbeenbusy thanks and I have checked and looking into a private hospital and I will be going calling them in the morning.

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Somebodyimportant1 Tue 29-Dec-20 19:14:41

I Dont want to stress myself more by going to A&E or local hospital. I called the EPU this morning b4 speaking to my GP & the answering machine said they are busy with emergencies etc and there was no one to answer calls 🤷🏽‍♀️

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PurBal Tue 29-Dec-20 19:21:43

I agree with @HungryHippo20. A scan won't change the outcome. I know it's hard, I had to wait 2 weeks for a scan after I bled, but bleeding doesn't always mean the worst.

Somebodyimportant1 Sun 03-Jan-21 14:11:03

Hello all & happy new year. So, I will be going for my scan tomorrow (I am still bleeding with very little pain only on 2 occasions & banging headaches). As I am about 8+weeks, I am wondering if I would be having a tummy scan or a vaginal scan (which I had about 6 years ago when I 1st had a miscarriage very early in my pregnancy).

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kirinm Sun 03-Jan-21 14:37:42

@Somebodyimportant1 at my EPU I had tranvaginal scans until around 10 weeks I think.

Somebodyimportant1 Sun 03-Jan-21 14:40:52

@kirinm thanks. Now, I am wondering what to wear tomorrow 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Somebodyimportant1 Sun 03-Jan-21 14:50:54

I am wondering if my partner would be allowed to come in with me. I'm very nervous

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MaelyssQ Sun 03-Jan-21 14:54:09

Your partner probably won't be allowed to attend with you.Wear what you are comfortable in.

ShalomToYouJackie Sun 03-Jan-21 15:10:19

They'll probably try an abdominal scan first then use a transvaginal if they need to.

Wear a top and leggings/trousers or whatever you're comfortable in. Whether or not your partner can come depends on the hospital so I'd ask them, bring him with you and have him wait outside anyway incase you get bad news as you don't want to be alone afterwards.

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