Any one else fed up of hearing this?

(6 Posts)
hibaby20 Wed 28-Oct-20 16:59:43

Since I've found out I was pregnant (now 38+3) I've had this comment a lot...

' I bet you're happy you got pregnant this year as you're not missing out on anything'

I've had so many people say it to me and it really winds me up... actually hun I've missed out on seeing my family through my pregnancy, my partners missed every scan and antenatal appt, family members birthdays have been cancelled, my baby shower got cancelled... so if anything I think I've missed out on a lot 😑 also I didn't 'plan' on getting pregnant this year me and my partner have been trying for 2 and a half years so we're lucky it's happened now.

Anyone else had any comments like this?!

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peachypetite Wed 28-Oct-20 17:08:24

Nobody has said any such thing to me! If anything they’ve been concerned at the lack of face to face care in the second trimester and all the restrictions on scans, visitors etc

Pinktruffle Wed 28-Oct-20 17:11:22

I feel like I've missed out on so much. I've not seen my family at all, some of my friends don't even know I'm pregnant! Hardly anyone has seen me pregnant, I wasn't able to celebrate my last 'free' birthday, my husbands last 'free' birthday or our anniversary. We had holidays planned -all cancelled. No baby shower, I've had to do all my baby shopping online which has probably saved me money but I've missed out on a huge experience. On the whole it's been really crap. Even medical care has been really poor in my opinion.

My poor husband has basically missed out on everything, it's been an awful time to be pregnant.

Bluejayway91 Wed 28-Oct-20 17:30:45

Absolutely, OP. No baby shower, no meals out or time away with my husband before baby comes, no cafe dates or days out with my friends, no gigs, no spa day celebration for our first wedding anniversary as we'd plan to do, no NHS scans where husband can come, and no visits to my beloved grandad who lives half a country away.

It's shit. It truly is.

I just hope by the time my baby has his own sense of self and personality, that there's a vaccine or something positive. I hate the idea of him missing out on so much.

FizzingWhizzbee123 Wed 28-Oct-20 18:57:59

I’ve not had anyone say this to me. That said, I have awful pregnancies and I think anyone who knows me would appreciate that the lack of access to support in the pandemic has been a total nightmare.

It’s not nice circumstances for anyone to be pregnant in. Antenatal care is different, partners feel excluded, mums worrying about labouring alone, missing families, missing doing normal pregnancy things like shopping on the High Street is changed by masks, hand sanitizer and feeling more vulnerable. Anyone who thinks the pandemic restrictions are a relief needs to have a reality check!

Snackasaurus Wed 28-Oct-20 19:09:30

Nobody has said this to me. In fact, they've been the opposite and very sympathetic! smile

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