Im due a baby in november, not going to go into the long story but me and my partner do not live together, we both live at our parents and will be staying that way until after the baby is here and once we get onto our feet financially (Coronavirus hit us hard financially) we will be getting our own place together. I do not get allong with his mum who he lives with and he does not get along with my parents who I live with.
My partners mum is staying at his brothers house to look after his children whilst he's away the week after my due date. She has told my partner that he is not to be out the house for long periods of time and has to be at home every night for the cat as he gets lonely. The plan was the first few nights I'm home after the baby, my partner would suck up his differences with my parents and stay over to help and support me for the first few nights. Now she has said about not leaving the cat over night this may not be possible if I go over due, it upsets me that he puts his mums wishes before supporting me and our newborn baby.
After a few days of thinking (over thinking probably). I'm worried that if I end up staying in hospital over the time that he cannot leave the house for long periods of time, he will not visit me as much whilst I'm in hospital as the hospital is a 40 minute drive away so he would also be relying on friends to take him to the hospital. It also upsets me that I would be going home with no support, of course I have my parents but I do not expect support over night from them, that's what he was staying over to do!
I am thinking I should plan to have someone else to be the birth partner, someone I can rely on fully supporting me and visiting as much as possible after I give birth. I just don't know how to approach him with telling him as I know he will be upset not being at the birth of his baby.
I'm so annoyed at his mum for putting this on him and he is such a mummy's boy still that he goes along with whatever she says as he's afraid of upsetting her. He doesnt see the issue with doing what his mum has told him and possibly not being there to support me with the baby in the early days.
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EBM20 · 28/08/2020 22:41
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