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Missing pre preg life(6 Posts)
I feel really low today as I really miss my life pre pregnancy. Perhaps the virus situation isn't helping either as we're being extra cautious and not venturing to public spaces still.
Anyone else feeling like this? My friend is pregnant and just so excited and I don't feel like that :'(
I felt like this for ages, only recently been getting bit more excited about it. My friend is also pregnant and asks me questions like did you cry at the scan, erm no I didn’t so I felt like it was odd but I think it’s hormones and also nothing wrong with adjusting to a new kind of life, nobody can wake up to change and feel completely normal. I missed everything before where as now I’m trying to think of the new things I’ll be able to do and enjoy. I hope you feel better, just try to relax and don’t worry if you’re not feeling like other women you will go at your own pace and there’s nothing wrong with it. And to be honest even the happiest mums I’ve seen miss pre baby life, it’s all to be expected.
Me! I have yet to feel excited about the hardship of motherhood and really miss the life I had. I'm so afraid I'll regret my decision of becoming a mother I hope I don't, as I'm already at 23 weeks...
Like you said, the virus isn't making things any better. Hopefully we'll feel better when we have our babies in our arms!
This is very normal! On DC1 I had some moments of excitement but I was very realistic about how hard it would be, so I spent quite a bit of time worrying about my decision to become a Mum. I cried a lot when we talked about the changes to our lives. It's a huge life change. It's far from easy. But the love you will have for your baby when its born puts a different spin on it. It makes the hard days worth it. Try to just accept you are the way you are and dknt pressure yourself to feel something you dont.
Go easy on yourself OP, it’s a big adjustment and you will have already had to make so many changes. It’s also a really difficult time right now to be able to enjoy your pregnancy in the way other people did pre-covid - not being able to hug loved ones and get excited together, not being able to fully experience everything together with your partner if you are with one. All of us have already had to adjust to so much this year and this is another huge change for you on top of that. I think the way you’re feeling is totally understandable. I have struggled a bit with losing some of my fitness and my favourite activities like horse riding which were some of the only things I’d been able to return to doing post lockdown, while my husband has still been able to continue doing everything he loves. I’m glad for him but it sometimes makes me wish I could do the same. But it’s all temporary and while life won’t quite be the same once your baby arrives, you’ll be able to reclaim some parts of it for yourself again, and it will all be worth it. Much love and be kind to yourself x
36 weeks with my first and I completely feel the same. I think what's extra difficult at the moment is whether what we're feeling is not enjoying the pregnancy, or not enjoying what we thought it would be because of Covid... And whether we'd have felt that way anyway if everything was normal!
I spend a lot of time thinking about how it would all be if this year had been different. But I haven't cried at any of my scans, I'm enjoying shopping for bits and pieces (but have bought everything online due to Covid!) but none of it feels particularly real... And I'm definitely feeling more nervous/scared of what's to come than excited! But I'm hoping that changes as soon as the baby is here! I think everyone experiences things differently, just because your friend is floating on a cloud doesn't mean you have to be x
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