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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 12:57:22

split with my boyfriend sep 2019 I stayed single and sex free until I had sex with #guy1 Jan 11th (cycle day 18)2020. I got checked and was all in the clear and that was the first and last time I slept with him. Me and my boyfriend got back together, we had sex Jan 29th, 4th feb and 18 feb 2020. But who’s more likely to be the dad? Due date 28/10/2020 I had remember a bleed 22nd January For 5 days.This date was the date given to start a period and came bang on time(was this my period) I never questioned it at the time.But is this baby my boyfriend’s? I’m going crazy as to my knowledge I had no doubt untill My bf mom asked for a dna test as she knows we split up! Am I just been paranoid 😟 please help.Is there any Chance it’s guy 1s from dates can I rule him out? My bf font no btw...
28 regular cycle bleed for 5 days
11th jan 2020 :guy1
29 jan 20, 4th feb 18 feb 20 :Boyfriend
I no it was a silly but I’m learning from it 😒 any help will be appreciated xx

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WhiteVixen Mon 03-Aug-20 13:35:53

Ok, first thing, what business is it of your boyfriend’s mother to be asking you to do a dna test? Tell her to butt out.

From your dates I’d say it’s your boyfriend’s baby.

howmanyroads Mon 03-Aug-20 13:50:57

Pretty sure it's your boyfriends!

Superscientist Mon 03-Aug-20 13:59:13

If you search for when did I conceive and due date a few calculator sites come up. If you put in your due date it shows you conceived in the first week of Feb from sex around the 28th Jan onwards.

You would be looking at due date at the beginning of October if it was the other guy.

Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:10:32

I no babe just what I was thinking!!! Made my head go tbh that’s when it started! When I was cool before that! She’s subliminaly fucked with my head in this pregnancy but I’m trying and have took in all the moments,I just don’t want to look a twat! And break his heart...

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:13:07

Don’t babies come when there ready though? Aww gosh if she comes early I don’t no if that will spark me off again but I’m hearing babies can come anywhere within the month of when you was due shock

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morriseysquif Mon 03-Aug-20 14:16:23

Well I had a due date of 28 October and concluded from my own dates it was conceived 30 January?

Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:30:13

Oooo really so it’s in line with yours then do you still have that due date? and tbf I did the deed the day before on my birthday 29th January😶

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:31:45

Does your dates all line up to your lmp and ovulation and scan dates Roughly ? Sorry bout asking and when you no you DTD

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SleepingStandingUp Mon 03-Aug-20 14:35:06

If you had sex with A then had your period then had sex with B, it'll be Bs

Superscientist Mon 03-Aug-20 14:37:39

The definition of full term is 40 weeks plus/minus 2 weeks, which is where the ambiguity on expected due date and actual date delivered comes from.

Im not sure of the number of weeks you are yet, but when the midwife starts measuring your bump they would notice if you were routinely measuring 3 weeks ahead.

Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:49:18

I’m 28 weeks tomorrow Iv not been seen by a midwife yet Iv just had scans my earliest scan was at aprox 6 weeks they said that was in the 4march 2020

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:53:21

I thought this then overthinking kicked in and because I have never experienced implantation bleeding I thought was it a real period or implantation bleeding.But I read there is a big difference between them From what I read

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Mama246 Mon 03-Aug-20 14:59:16

Possible dates of sexual intercourse that led to the pregnancy: Jan 28, 2020 - Feb 12, 2020

January 28th Is still 2 weeks out from the first guy on the 11th, I personally would be quite confident it’s your boyfriends based on due date but without a dna test can’t be 100% sure

Alychloe Mon 03-Aug-20 15:09:12

I would confidently say it’s your boyfriends! My due date is 17th October and my last period was 11th Jan, sex on 19th Jan! So you would have conceived after I did smile

ablisha Mon 03-Aug-20 15:23:26

I'm due October 27th and conceived very early Feb!

Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 20:53:48

Thankyou to all who took the time out to help! This is so appreciated plus you woman with Around the same due date It’s really helped me to feel a little more reassurance that I’m not going crazy and every thing put in front of me scans ect measurements ect is what it should be if I conceived after 22 jan xx

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 20:56:07

I hear you Hun thanks for input thing is like I said my bf don’t no and I never had none of this overthinking until a month in when his mother asked for dna proppa made me on edge!! Hate she asked tbh

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 20:56:28

Proper

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LovingLola Mon 03-Aug-20 20:58:11

Why would she even ask?? It’s none of her business

SilverLining89 Mon 03-Aug-20 21:16:17

Hi OP, I am 28 + 2 today and due on 24/10.

We only did the deed twice that cycle, on 31st Jan and 2nd Feb so I think it is your boyfriends 🙂

DressingGown87 Mon 03-Aug-20 21:26:43

I’m the same as most on this post...
I’m current 28+6 due 20th October, regular cycle. Was with my “ex” in December, did the deed with the baby’s father on 31st Jan, and the went away on holiday. So the only chance I could have got PG is on that date. So it will be your bfs baby unless your hospital dates are way out, tell her to mind her own and stop making her own conclusions.

Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 22:23:35

😔😊 I know but clearly just because I was single for a while before getting back with her son it’s probably made her question me 😶 it’s her fault my mind went side ways silly to say but for real my mind is sensitive and I’m a overthinking so that there was a sour concoction!

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 22:29:24

Thanks so much not far off me,no I had a 6 weeks scan along with my 12 and 20... I have a 28 week scan coming up they haven’t said nothing as of yet bout changing my due date or anything.plus when I looked at measurements for a 12 week old fetus (when I was checking every lane to be sure) she was 12oz at the time which I read was pretty average for that gestation age x

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Danilove123 Mon 03-Aug-20 22:33:05

Literally behind me makes me feel better then what I did trust me thanks

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