Morning all,
Wondering if anyone else experienced mixed feelings when finding out they were pregnant with their second child?
I have a 2.5 year old daughter with my husband, who is an absolute delight and has always been really easy and a good sleeper from birth really, bar illness. I have no real concerns about having two children as opposed to one, if that makes sense? I appreciate the next one could be completely different!
Her birth was really traumatic for me, I was diagnosed with obstetric cholestasis and was induced at 38 weeks, induction took 5 days and she was back to back - ended with an EMCS as she got stuck and I lost 4.5 litres of blood and was in surgery for 4 hours whilst awake (they didn't put me to sleep as my blood pressure was really erratic) and then I had sepsis after. We ended up in hospital for just over a week after, as the hospital didn't administer antibiotics to my daughter as a precaution and they then lost some samples so added delays to us leaving as they had to be repeated and took 48 hours to come back.
I've had a debriefing, and thought I'd come to terms with it all. I'm a fairly calm person, and the midwife explained that the reason I bled was due to the drugs and a really long labour as my uterus just failed to contract afterwards (uterine atony I think?) so the chances of it happening again are slim.
But since I've found out I'm pregnant again I've had a really horrible sense of unease and uncertainty about having a second child and I'm not sure if this is normal nerves? It's not that I don't want a second child, I feel a bit disconnected I guess.
Can anyone share any experiences of their feelings when they found out they were pregnant again? I haven't had my first midwife appointment yet (I'm 6 weeks) and I will be mentioning to her when I see her. I'm also planning for a C section again. What was everyone's experiences with a planned C section? Are they calmer?
Thank you in advance - sorry, it's a bit of an essay!
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willowandsage · 19/07/2020 09:15
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