18 wks and thinking of employing a doula. it's my first
reasons two fold - firstly, it's my first and am worried about getting bamboozled by all the medical stuff at the end and having a CSection when perhaps not needed?? would like someone experienced on my sides
(NOT in anyway to undermine docs, MWs everywhere - am at St Georges which is meant to be v good, but all the same, it's sometimes NHS overtretched, and have heard a few horror stories)
secondly, really can't imagine my poor DH being there with me -- where's the dignity??
have quite a big hippy streak, and like the idea of a doula. any experiences?? or reccomendations?
(i have done quite a bit of shiatsu training, and am particuarly keen to find out about doulas who may come from a shiatsu background)
Hi, I didn't have a doula, but after my experience with birth of ds2 I would really recommend it, for all the reasons you have given. I had an emergency section with ds1 when only 3cms dilated so hadn't really had experience of later stages of labour. When ds2 came along, I went through to 10cms dilated and when I was in transition (I think, in retrospect) the registrar decided to give me another section and dp and I were not in much of a position to resist. Looking back, I'm pretty sure I could have got him out myself, and really wish I'd had someone fighting my corner and just calming things down.
In the end, once the baby is out and well and you're OK too, that's the main thing and it doesn't really matter, but I was quite upset about it at the time (and of course then had to recover from the cs with a newborn and a 14mo toddler).
I had a doula for DS2 and DD, and it really does a lot for your confidence - Mine were VBAC's and through doula uk I managed to find someone who had done the same as me and was able to help me with the homeopathy and such. That sort of doula is worth every penny!