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3 under 2 moan(7 Posts)
My twin pregnancy has recently become common knowledge which is fine. However among the lovely congratulation I have received in person this is always followed with my gosh 3 under 2 how are you going to cope? Like it's not been done before or like they don't feel I'm actually capable of doing it.. I hadn't forgotten that I know it's going to be bloody hard! It's something I worry about every day but they make me doubt myself even more! Maybe it doesn't help that they know my partner can be as useful as a chocolate tea pot sometimes but still! 😔 sorry I just needed a moan and to get it off my chest x
You're going in with your eyes open and you know it'll be fine in the end.
Maybe they are just saying it to make conversation?
People are very annoying and dont think about what they say and how it might make you feel. Yes it will be much more work but lots of people do it, ignore the misery guts!
Next time I would just smile sweetly, tell them that as you are a smart and competent person, you are not worried.
Also tell your DH to buck up as I imagine he will have to!
My friends had 3 under 22 months and completely smashed it!! You do what you need to do and will be absolutely fab, you just need to be as organised as possible! Ignore all the comments (if you can, I know it's hard) It seems people need to make remarks about everyone's pregnancy regardless.
Thank you @Liverbird77 @LH1987 @Fourfoot I really appreciate your messages. I have days where I'm like I'm not even going to be able to do this at all. But then other days I have that yes I can do this and I'm going to do a damn good job of it.
I've started my hinch lists to get through life and start the complete declutter and clean out of the house cleaning isnt my favourite job at all but determined to get deep clean done and then keep ontop to make it easier when I don't really have the time. My partner I think is going to not take over but do main care for our current little boy so I can try and breastfeed when/if I can and then when they sleep try and get some sleep myself even if it's just half hour to reboot. He has a flexible job and can take our little boy out with him for a few hours through the day etc which will be helpful!
It's definitely harder said than done to try and ignore but I will definitely try and smile and move the conversation on.
Thank you for making me feel capable x
I had 3 in 4 years - I won’t lie it was hard to start with but there are benefits you get all the baby / toddler stuff like nappies prams etc all out of the way. And they grow up very close and have great relationships with each other’s which is lovely
My nan had 3 under 1 (twins born 2 weeks before their older sister turned 1). She's still around to tell the tale 55 years on. She even went on to have a 4th 2 years later.
Your posts sound like you're confident in your abilities, and you've made plans, both of which will be key. Ofc you'll have self doubt at moments. It is daunting the thought of what lies ahead, but it's not insurmountable, and it's been done before. And you are going to crush it!
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