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Fed up and upset

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Miss2820 · 05/07/2020 12:29

So I have had an argument with my husband.. just really fed up and down I’m only 11 weeks pregnant don’t really need the extra stress and pressure on top of being sick..

So my mum and sisters live 3 hours away and I went after a long time to see them stayed for a few nights in the annex.. in the garden.. so i got back and he’s been quite nasty about how my daughter doesn’t see his mum that often even though we live in the same town and I see her once or twice a week.. constantly moaning about how my daughter spends more time with my mum which is a load of rubbish coz before this Covid I was seeing my mum every month and staying long weekends. I just don’t understand why the jealousy? Why does it always seem there is a competition or something between grandparents.. my daughter loves both of her grandmother and her Nani the same.. very loving to both of them I never teach her to be different with one or the other..she’s nearly 4 so she’s not stupid or gets forced into something she speaks her mind.. this bickering has been going on since she was born constant about who she spends time with etc.. one min he’s fine and then the next he has this rage of she hardly sees my mum but she doesn’t see my mum every week etc but I don’t make a big thing of it... my daughter will be starting school sept so this going every so often may not happen that much.. we will be moving in with my mil as my fil recently passed away and me being the eldest daughter in law have to look out for her not that she needs looking after she’s working etc I’ve got so much going on and he just doesn’t understand

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faithfulbird · 07/07/2020 23:43

Hi I was supposed to reply but didn't get a chance. Men can be petty like this. Tit for tat. Maybe he's tired or just annoyed or just jealous. Tell him he's welcome to take your daughter whenever he wants to his grandmas but it's his duty because you get tired. Mines is similar so don't worry x

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Miss2820 · 08/07/2020 08:11

@faithfulbird

It’s just always small petty things.. but it’s ok for him to tell her to say your granny’s your best friend I never say about her Nani? That’s just not me since I’ve had my daughter my mums always spoilt her adored her gave her so much love which is why she’s close with my mum where as her granny is very different quite lazy doesn’t like to interact we go over and she likes to be on her phone or sits there quiet.. and it’s not nice...

I just thought why be so selfish? She sees her grandma every week we are moving there in the next coming months which I’ve never said nothing to him about because he lost his dad just nearly a year ago.. and I have no issues moving there with her but not looking to be there long term as I will be having another one in January and there’s not really much room for when the next one gets a bit older and needs it’s own room..I just think it’s a big thing moving out when u have lived out for nearly 6 years my husband doesn’t really understand thinks it’s quite easy to move in there and be all happy families I’m willing to give it a go and if things just get to much we will have to just move out wether that’s in few years or 5 I just can’t be there long term.