Please can anyone help me.
My mother is going to ruin my family life. I'm 38 weeks pregnant with my first baby.
Due to lock down etc I haven't had a family gathering / baby shower etc.
Not that I wanted one as I'm not into all that fuss..... anyway. Last night my DH was on his phone a lot and eventually while we were in bed told me that my mum was being awful to his mum via WhatsApp.
So I've since found out......
MIL started a group including my mum my SIL, MIL sister and MIL mum asking if we would like to go for a BBQ on Sunday as it would be the last time for us to get together before the baby is born. They have a massive garden And room for a few of us.
Anyway my mum has apparently kicked right off at MIL and said that she doesn't agree that it's just her side of the family to be invited as I have a sister and grandad etc too. My sister and I don't get on because she is an alcoholic who drives around with her kids in the car pissed. Gets her tee total husband arrested when she's drunk and attacks him, and we just don't get along because I don't agree with her lifestyle or morals.
MIL explained that it wasn't set in stone and was just putting the feelers out to see if people were around to go (turns out most aren't anyway).
I watched last night their on line activity and it went on well into midnight. DH has called me today and said that my mum has said some horrendous things on the WhatsApp group in front of all his family and really embarrassed herself.
MIL has called my mum to sort it out this morning as she doesn't want conflict or arguments and my mum will not apologise or accept any responsibility for being mean to her for trying to organise a gathering.
My mum is very draining and will not think before she speaks. She is nasty and mean and never apologises for her actions. We have no other family as we "don't talk to them" havent for years and I often wondered why. I think I know now.
My mum is possessive of me she calls me "my daughter" and is also controlling of me and the things I do. I have so much anxiety when it comes to her that it makes me physically sick when things like this happen.
I now know there is a divide in the family because of my mum and I'm
Embarrassed that she has created this mess all over a BBQ.
I want to say something but she has told MIL that she will not tell me about this conversation and thinks I don't know what's gone on.
Sorry for the rant. I'm now on edge because all my DH family now know what she's like and I'm gutted.
My LB is due soon and I wanted it to be a happy occasion not a family split because my mum can't hold her tongue or be nice.
What do I do? I never wanted a divide I wanted us all to get on.
My mum is very jealous of my MIL and she shows it too. She writes some shit things on Facebook for everyone to see and I can't handle the stress anymore. I want my boy to grow up in a nice family unit. No continuous arguments and nastiness that is my family.
With my mum there is always something to moan at or she is always slagging someone off. I'm totally lost
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Tilpop · 03/07/2020 15:05
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