Just hoping to get an idea of where is a good middle ground on a situation with me and my partner, as I moved up county to where he is from so that we could live together and now we are at a b out of a stand off with what to go straight after the birth.
I'd always pictured I'd call my mum as soon as I went into labour, and although due to Covid she can't be there for the birth I thought she'd be straight up to the house as quick as she can (4hour drive) and she would be here for when we got back from hospital and stay for a night or two to meet the baby then go back home.
My partner is saying he doesn't want her to come up as soon as we get home from the hospital as he wouldn't be able to relax in the house and wants alone time with us 3, which I understand, so we had compromised at 2 days then letting her come up, which upset her a bit only because Iv changed the expectation last minute, but she understood.
Upon talking to him more, he thinks it's okay for his family to come round and visit straight away because they live close and wouldn't have to stay over, so all of them would meet the baby before my mum, which feels a bit crap.
I'm not sensitive so don't need my side taken just some honest views here, am I being unreasonable saying no, if my mum can't visit for 2 days then why should we have anyone over for that time? If it is meant to be time just for us to bond with the baby.
Also, should I be pushing here to have my mum here when I get home? It would make me feel a lot more supported but I'm a big girl I can hold on if needed but it would have been nice to just let everyone round (in my family we always had the family waiting at home when a new baby arrived)
Also I'm well aware of Covid restrictions, please no Covid quidelines comments...
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Saraj09876 · 22/06/2020 10:59
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