Everyone is different, I got a few big kicks that DH felt at 16 weeks, but then it slowed again, I think it was about 24weeks before I started getting regular big kicks. I am now 35 weeks and can grab lo's foot!!!!!!!!!
Rascal, just to let you know that even when you can feel big movements it doesn't mean that your dh will be able to. For a while, the movements will probably be all yours to relish! To an "untrained" hand, movements can be harder to feel I think. I was able to feel my SIL's baby move a while before her dh could, I think because I knew what I was feeling for and he didn't, IYSWIM.
It depends on how big you are too, i.e. i'm a big girl but didn't feel any big kicks until about 24 weeks. Before that i felt lots of movements and squirms etc. I think DP felt the kicks from about 25 weeks.
I had my first flutterings at 16 weeks, but they remained as flutters until about 19 weeks when they started turning into gentle prods. At about 21 weeks beanie discovered how to kick hard, and exactly where to kick me (bladder) to get me up in the night!