12 week scan anxiety

[emma911030]

I gave my 12 week scan this morning. I'm feeling really anxious, this is my second pregnancy so it's not that it's cause it's my first and I don't even feel anxious about my partner being there cause that doesn't bother me and at the end of the day everyone is in the same boat at the moment. I think I've worked myself up that something might be wrong and I think I'm scared to be alone if there was to be something wrong.
I have literally got to drop my boy at nursery (on hospital site as I work at the hospital too) and walk over to my app at 9. Don't know if I've drank enough, I drank too much last time so had to 'let some out' I managed this this first time my pelvic floor isn't the same anymore so if it's too full and I'm asked to let some out again it's going to be all or nothing then there will probably not be enough in there 🤦🏼‍♀️ I just feel like something is going to be wrong because no one else is there 😕
Not even after a response just needed to get it out I think. Thanks for reading if you do x

[lockdownpregnancy]

Awwwww OP! Didn't want to read and run!
Regardless if being a FTM or not it is exciting times but also super scary!
The sonographer I had was so lovely! I think that as you are by yourself they make so much more of an effort to engage with you than usual! With my scans they did anyway.
I understand your worry. I had 3 massive panic attacks before my 12 week scan and then after I'd been I felt so silly for getting so worked up!
I'm sure everything will he just fine with your little bundle!
🥰🥰

[CoalCraft]

Completely understandable to feel nervous xx Just think in a short little while it'll all be over and you'll probably be grinning ear to ear from seeing your little baby

Keep us posted!

[RunnerGirl123]

Wishing you all the best for your scan. I think nerves are normal, it's usually such a long wait between finding out you're pregnant and seeing baby for the first time that I think your mind goes into overdrive!

The sonographer i had for my dating scan was lovely and really welcoming, totally put me at ease before she even started scanning.

[wannabebump]

Good luck for your scan OP, those nerves are totally normal. Xx

[Sakura92]

Good luck with the scan! I hope it went well. I've had the exact same nerves for all of my scans and convinced myself they'll find something wrong. I had my 20 week scan yesterday and I went in prepared for bad news, but everything was perfect so now I feel like I can relax a bit.

With not knowing how much to drink, I've just stopped bothering to drink anymore than I usually would because it always seems to be too much and I have to let some out and it's been fine ☺️

[emma911030]

Thank you ladies.. I've just had the shock of a lifetime because there's two it sounds awful cause I don't know how I feel.. the sonographer has told me I'm dating a few weeks earlier than originally thought. But also there's a little bit of fluid round twin 1s head.. but also she said it looks like they're identical. I asked about the risks being much higher in a twin pregnancy which she said they are especially in this type of twin pregnancy. Which is fine I need honesty but I'm now wishing I wasn't pregnant because what if there is something really wrong with any of them.. I have a friend from a school who had twins and one of them she lost after a few hours of being born and the other only lived until he was about 18months old because of illness etc (they were born very premature) I'm literally lost.

[badtime]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Now, stop catastrophising. Most twins are absolutely fine.
The higher risks in a mono twin pregnancy means that you will be monitored much more closely (I think you would usually have scans every fortnight after 16 or 20 weeks).
Take a look at the Twins Trust website for information.

[emma911030]

@badtime thank you. They've said they're going to see me every 2 weeks through the whole thing 😳. I'm going back in 2 weeks anyway as they're dating me at 10+6 at the moment rather than the 12+3 originally predicted. Which worries me anyway cause there's quite a difference it was only 3 days out on my last pregnancy. I know I'm worrying more than I should and my partner has told me I need to calm down too cause of stress not going to help anyone.. I have a second cousin who had twins so I'm going to maybe speak to his partner and just get a bit of reassurance and just I think I need to get it out as well. My step sister and one friend knew I was pregnant anyway but now can't send a picture cause it's got Twin 1 or twin 2 printed on each image and I'm not ready for them to know that much!! I feel so stupid and selfish because there's so many people who just can't get pregnant and I've been blessed with a second pregnancy with an extra baby if you like. The financial impact was already going to be a bit but now I'm thinking how the fudge can we afford another 2 babies! My partner already has one with a previous partner (he's now 13) we don't see him other than Skype etc cause he lives in the states. I really want these babies but I just don't know how I will cope it was hard enough with one and my boy won't even be 2 when they are born.. my mind is just exploding, sat in morrisons car park trying to Will myself out of the car to go and actually do my shopping 🤦🏼‍♀️

[RunnerGirl123]

Congratulations on twins! I know it may seem daunting but try to calm down for now. I think speaking to your cousin's partner is a great start, and will hopefully help put things into perspective. You don't need to tell anyone straight away if you don't feel ready to. You'll be well looked after, so try not to worry about complications for now.

[lockdownpregnancy]

TWINS!! AMAZING!!!
Congratulations OP! Such a blessing for you both!
You're seriously freaking out so you need to take the time to talk to your nearest and dearest about it and your midwife. Talking is the best way and your hormones are also raging so you need to get it out! Don't bottle it up otherwise it will just make it worse!
Still amazing news though! 🥰

[emma911030]

So after my shock of twins at my first scan I feel like I'm getting there with that, I was due to go back for a scan tomorrow when I will actually be 12 weeks and not the 10+6 i dated last time.
Unfortunately my son was sent home from nursery yesterday with a high temperature and it was recommended I get him swabbed for covid. So I have been and had that done today but it does also mean I can't go for my scan tomorrow! Don't get me wrong I totally appreciate the importance of not going tomorrow and staying home etc until we have the results of negative or If it is positive then dealing with it. But by the time I've self isolated for 14 days if he comes back positive I'll be basically 14 weeks and I worry they won't get me in in time and I'll miss the window to have the testing I could literally cry. If I can't go tomorrow and it is negative I have to then wait until another day when I can't guarantee I'll have child care and it be such a ball ache.. obviously not important in the grand scheme of things but I guess I was just hoping to see my babies again tomorrow and now I'm not 😔😭

[badtime]

If you do miss the testing window, would you be able to get a NIPT (like Harmony)? It's much more accurate anyway.

[emma911030]

@badtime yeah the midwife when I spoke to her had my date wrong so she thought I'd already miss the window and offered me the quad test. But they've managed to get me booked in for when I'm 14+1 so I just hope to god nothing goes wrong between now and then that means I have to change that 🤦🏼‍♀️ just another 13 days to wait.