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Anyone else with a big age gap between kids?

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Niffler2019 Sat 06-Jun-20 13:31:41

Hi all,
I'm currently expecting baby no 2 and my daughter will be 7.5 when baby arrives in November. I suffered horrendous sickness in my first pregnancy so I didn't plan on having any more but started to consider it once she started school. For various reasons it never seemed the right time, then last year we tried for several months but it didn't happen. In November I started a new job so we stopped trying again until I'd settled in to my role.
So whilst we're thrilled and my daughter is really excited I'm worried about how things will work with such a big age gap. They obviously won't be into the same things but I guess that could be the case for siblings close in age too? I feel like I'll be bringing up 2 only children because they'll be at such different stages. Anyone have any tips or advice? I think if baby 2 is another girl it will be OK because she will probably want to be just like her big sister and my older daughter will probably love having a little mini me 😁 But if we have a boy I can't stop thinking in a few years time what on earth are a 13 year old girl and a 6 year old boy going to have in common? Am I being silly? Sorry for my rambling post

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Goldenmother Sat 06-Jun-20 13:51:37

I have 2 children 16 and 14 I'm currently 38 weeks, pregnancy was a surprise but I'm looking forward to doing all the fun things I would do with my older two when they was younger they are both very excited for there brother to arrive

Treasured Sat 06-Jun-20 15:15:35

I was 16 when my sister was born and had the best bond with her growing up. She really was like my little best friend... even now as a horrible teenager we’re still close and she’s so excited to become an auntie! She’s the only one of her friends (age 14) to have a niece or nephew so she’s quite pleased with herself.
I have a younger brother who is 10 years older than her and they fight like car and dog but she has him wrapped around her little finger.
Siblings will bond in different ways depending on their age, I don’t think a big gap gets in the way of that smile

userabcname Sat 06-Jun-20 15:17:39

My brother is 11 years younger than me. I used to love helping look after him when he was a baby and then when he was older I took him to the park and the cinema and once he was a teen we'd go to theme parks together. It will be fine.

Namechange8471 Sat 06-Jun-20 15:21:00

There’s 24 years between my youngest and oldest brothers!
They get on great.

Dk20 Sat 06-Jun-20 15:24:32

My DS was almost 6 when his baby brother was born. Ds has been great because he was that little bit older. He had lots of understanding - esp when the baby had colic and would cry every evening taking up all of my time every evening for months. Lots of people said he would be jealous because he was the only child for so long, but that couldn't be further from the truth.
They are almost 1 and 7 now and adore each other.

Billyjoearmstrong Sat 06-Jun-20 15:47:35

Ds was 11 when Dd was born. Now 17 and 6 and they get on brilliantly (apart from when bickering).

I’m pregnant again and they are both very excited. If I wasn’t 40 now, I would have liked another 11 year age gap to be honest!

happymummy12345 Sat 06-Jun-20 16:06:46

My mum had all her children 10 years apart. There's 10 years between my brother and I, 10 years between my brother and sister, and 20 years between my sister and I.
I loved being much older as I could be much more involved. It worked for her.
Personally we won't be having another until our first is settled at school. He's starting in September so will be a few years yet

danidella Sat 06-Jun-20 16:07:11

Theres 20 years between me and my youngest sister. She is in her teens and we get on really well despite being 3 hours away from each other. She is excited at becoming an auntie in December.

JSLACEFAMILY Sat 06-Jun-20 16:10:09

My children are 14 and 9 and I am currently 24 weeks pregnant. Both of them are really looking forward to having another brother or sister x

twins2019 Sat 06-Jun-20 16:18:25

My oldest two are almost 12 and 9.5, I have 14 month old twin boys. The older two adore the babies. They dote on them, okay with them, think they are hilarious and the babies think their sisters are the funniest people they know.

My only point would be - if I hadn't had twins would I have wanted another. Probably yes, my girls were close in age and grew up with such a lovely bond. I know myself I'd have definitely wanted a sibling ally/friend for number 3 given the gap.

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