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Did anyone find out the sex at the 20 week scan..

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hotpotmama · 11/09/2007 10:19

and regret it afterwards ie. wished you'd had the suprise when your baby was born?

Very early days for me still but am undecided, didn't find out with my first two, but think I would like to this time.

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JARM · 11/09/2007 10:21

didnt find out with first 2, but have this time, and am happy i did.

after 2 girls, to find out i was having a boy has made a lot more sense financially and also in clearing out all the pink to make way for blue!

Your choice, but im glad i did.

RGPargy · 11/09/2007 10:21

I found out and haven't regretted it at all! Both DP and I were convinced it was a boy (i think it was more wishful thinking) but got told we were expecting a girl. I'm glad i found out because i am now used to the idea of having a girl (it kinda freaked me out before!) and cannot wait to meet her!

sarahgg · 11/09/2007 10:23

We found out because DD1 was saying if it was a boy we would have to take it back, so wanted to have time to prepare her if it was. Luckily was a girl so we kept her!

TaLcYBuRlEsQuE · 11/09/2007 10:23

Didn't find out with dd1 (although was convinced she was a boy)
Found out with dd2...same reasons as RGPargy...

professorplum · 11/09/2007 10:24

You will get a suprise either way. It will just be earlier if you get it at your scan. Personally I think having a baby is exciting enough without having a suprise about the sex as well.

Oodle · 11/09/2007 10:24

I found out at my 20 week scan with baby number two - already had a boy. I was convinced it was going to be a girl as I felt so different in my pregnancy. Ashamed to say I cried and cried when I found out it was another boy. It did put a bit of a dampener on the rest of my pregnancy. Also, boring for friends and family - the surprise had been taken away! Wish I'd waited till he was born - don't think I'd have minded at all then - would have seen him and bonded with him. Anyway, all fine now! If you don't have a preference, then I think it's fine to find out.

Incidentally, it's my 20 week scan with preg number 3 on Thurs and I'm pretty sure I'm having another boy. Not going to find out though!

mazzystar · 11/09/2007 10:26

didn't find out with first - was very shocked as had convinced myself ds would be a girl
found out with second - and was momentarily sad for the little boy dd was never going to be, but got over it and started knitting girly things.

but, people do seem to badger you about the name if you know the sex.

btw, not always right, good mate of mine was told she was having a boy, had a wee girl - who remained nameless for a good couple of weeks - to everyones astonishment!

RGPargy · 11/09/2007 10:28

mazzy - this happened to my friend too. She was told she was having a girl, but out popped a ten pound BOY!!

muppetgirl · 11/09/2007 10:29

We found out with ds 1 as dh was convinced he was a boy and wouldn't entertain any ideas that the baby was a girl and I didn't want him to be disappointed if he was wrong. -He wasn't wrong!

Ds2 (32 weeks prgt at mo) we found out again as I have a lot of stuff that would do another boy or would clear out and give to many friends whoa re also prgt atm.

Both cases we even named our sons and told people. It was like they were part of the family even before they were born.

Don't regret it at all, still a surprise to actually see them after carrying them so long x

hotpotmama · 11/09/2007 10:30

Thanks for replies . Has made me even more undecided tho! Ah well, as I said early days still so as long as all goes well with my pregnancy got a lot of weeks to decide.

Am so indecisive!

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mixedmama · 11/09/2007 10:30

I found out this time. We have a DS already and DH really wanted a DD. We have found out we are having a DS2 and altho we had a fleeting moments disapointment I would much rather have it now than on the day evn if it is only for a second.

lispy · 11/09/2007 10:32

Professorplum is right, it's the same surprise just at different times. My thought was that the thrill of the actual baby would make the surprise at the birth non-existant. I think it would have been an after thought to even ask with the emotions of the moment for me! you've done it before, you know how you felt, did you care about the gender on the day or not?

muppetgirl · 11/09/2007 10:32

That was my thought exactly mixedmama. Dh was so convinced he wouldn't even discuss girls names!

MamaMaiasaura · 11/09/2007 10:34

I found out with both of mine. Am glad found out with this one as was able to prepare ds if it was a girl (he really didnt want a sister). We are having another boy. DP was convinced it was a gril and had convinced me too

Am glad we know as seeing what he looks like will be a surprise in itself!

Pan · 11/09/2007 10:34

Dd's mother and I did. And yep, it was the sex that did it. Anyone else?

mixedmama · 11/09/2007 10:35

Exactly, and we are now looking forward to our little boy. I was really peeved about others reactions tho nearly everyone without exception has said "oh never mind". i had "known" that the baby was a boy tho, just felt it.

heifer · 11/09/2007 10:35

I didn't regret it..

I really needed to know if I was going to have a girl, as I soo wanted a boy and I needed the time to get used to the idea of a girl..

By the time DD was born, I was more than happy, and can't believe now that I was upset for 2 weeks when I did have the scan..

I had no idea what I would do with a girl, I am a real tomboy and wanted to play footie, etc with my boy.

DD is very girlie but she also likes to play football etc, so I am more than happy, and I guess I am starting to like the things she loves (pink etc) just because she likes them..

burstingbug · 11/09/2007 10:41

We found out both times at the 20 week scan, and they were right both times.
We have 2 gorgeous boys

dkay · 11/09/2007 10:48

Didn't find out what the gender is, going to wait but really curious!! Different pregnancy this time (no sickness etc) but I know you can't really go by that, would love a boy, at the 20 wk scan I was secretly looking for signs i.e. 'dangly bits' but couldn't see any! Do you think it is probably a girl since nothing was obvious???

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 11/09/2007 10:54

i found out both times, both times were right and iddnt regret it at all, it meant i had mentally prepared myself and got all the bits i wanted before lo was born!

MrsFish · 11/09/2007 11:14

We found out both times. DH was desperate for a boy, so we found out for reasons that have already been said, I wanted him to have time to get over the disappointment if it was a girl... plus neither of us like surprises that much

This time we found out too, dh was convinced it was another boy, I wasn't so sure... it is a boy, and again for the same reasons as muppetgirl we found out as I have a number of friends who are/were pregnant too, and if this one had turned out to be a girl we could have got rid of all the boys stuff, as it is we haven;t needed to buy anything new for this one seeing as ds1 is only two and I am now 37+2. (I have though)

hotpotmama · 11/09/2007 11:15

Wasn't expecting so many replies to my thread! Is great to read all your reasons for finding out. Am swaying towards finding out now. Have got 2 DS's. Would like a DD but another DS would be great too.

With DS2 I sort of found out a few minutes before he was born as was asking the midwife if she knew from the heartbeat ie. train vs. galloping horses and she told me he was a boy.

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PregnantGrrrl · 11/09/2007 11:16

we found out both times. both times we had no preference for gender, it was just nice to know. we named them before they were even born, and called them their names when they were still bumps- we felt like we knew DS before he came, and i feel like i 'know' this baby already.

mixedmama · 11/09/2007 11:23

Yes, I definitely feel that I can talk to the baby much more proactively now that i know.

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