So my MiL has taken it upon herself to freely prod and poke and touch my belly without asking me if it is okay. I am not a big fan and have told her as much on numerous occasions but now she has resorted to actually kissing my belly. I complained because it is weird (my own mum doesnt feel the need to be so handsy) but she hasnt listened so i have stopped visiting her and avoid her at all costs. Last weekend OH and i popped in to see her and she started making her approach so i took a pillow and put it in between my belly and her and told her no.
She has now complained to my OH. he understands that her kissing my belly is going to far but thinks i should compromise because she is excited and i shouldnt take her excitement away from her. Bottom line is he thinks (kissing aside) that i am being mean. She even had the gall to try and guilt OH and say wait and see how you feel when your kid does this to you.
I have already explained to MIL and to OH that when the baby kicks hard enough, i will let her feel it but i dont see why she should have free rein to cop a feel of me just because i am carrying her grandchild.
My MIL has always been overbearing but it has gone extreme because i am pregnant. I feel like if i dont stand my ground she will just walk over me.
Examples
- She wanted to be there during my labour and when baby is born but didnt ask me, instead insisted i would want her and my mum. It wasnt my choice.
- Apparently i wont know how to wash the baby so she is insisting she show me and be the first because she has done this for her previous 3 grand children
- She keeps on calling the baby her own because without her my OH wouldnt have existed. I have explained i am mum but it doesnt get through so i may have rather rudely told her the last time she raised this in front of a room of guests that she can have her son back and i will keep my child because it is my child (i feel so childish writing this)
She is driving me nuts. I have minimal contact over the telephone and face to face because of this.
Am i being mean?
I dont want her to think it is okay to takeover when baby comes and i really want her to back off. There are lots of other little things as well and i feel like breaking point might come soon which will involve me telling her to back off and no doubt her turning on the waterworks and emotionally blackmailing OH.