Is it normal to be really irritated by your partner when you're pregnant?

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allthesharks Fri 03-Jan-20 12:39:12

I don't know if it's hormones, but little things that I previously found endearing about my DP are really pissing me off. Things like he can't just say something really simple, he'll give multiple examples of it and I find myself thinking "just shut up!" Another thing is that we've always been silly with each other - tickling each other, making my DCs toys talk or dance in front of each other and now when he does it I think "Just fuck off".

He hasn't changed anything that he's doing. It's all just winding me up. I don't remember feeling this way with my XH, however he generally wound me up anyway!

Has anyone else experienced this? Are hormones just making me really irritable?

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elb1504 Fri 03-Jan-20 12:43:18

I would say it's normal, I've often snapped and found things my DH doing really irritating me.

I've just tried to bite my tongue and realise its hormonal and to be fair he understands too.

Murph90 Fri 03-Jan-20 12:46:57

God yes! I am very snappy with my husband. He is actually very good and understanding. I often feel bad and apologise then snap again 30 mins later!

LH1987 Fri 03-Jan-20 12:51:13

Yes, definitely! I also find people sneezing really irritating at the moment, I understand this isn't reasonable smile

allthesharks Fri 03-Jan-20 12:53:05

I'm not really snapping at him. Which is one good thing I suppose. I'm just thinking it all because I know it's not reasonable to say it out loud. I don't think it helps that we've both been off work over Christmas so we've been in each other's pockets. I'm looking forward to normality returning.

At what point in the pregnancy do you think I'll start becoming more rational?

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Johnson10 Fri 03-Jan-20 12:54:48


This post made me chuckle so much. I’m so glad it’s not just me. I could kill him at the moment! Haha.

WhenTwoBecomeThree Fri 03-Jan-20 13:15:47

Completely normal. I was so clingy when I first became pregnant and then as it progressed, I disliked him more and more to the point that by the time i'd reached the end, I hated being in the same room as him. 4 weeks since I gave birth and from the minute I went in to labour I love him more and more and everything has gone back to normal!

sqirrelfriends Fri 03-Jan-20 13:32:07

Completely normal, I used to be so pissed off with DH over the littlest thing. Blame the hormones.

iklboo Fri 03-Jan-20 13:34:00

Yep. And when you're peri menopausal too. grin

allthesharks Fri 03-Jan-20 13:37:23

Weirdly, the little things that he's always done that annoy me, like leaving tea bags in the sink, are still annoying but only in a "that's irritating" kind of way, not in the way that I want him to leave the country when he won't stop speaking.

I'm glad it's not just me.

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Iray357 Fri 03-Jan-20 13:47:49

😂😂 this made me laugh because it sounds like me. I’m 37 weeks and gosh my DH is so irritating ! He only has to breathe and I feel irritated poor man 🙈🙈 this is our 3rd child so hoping it’s doesn’t last and longer than pregnancy 🙊

ejmay90 Fri 03-Jan-20 14:54:51

This made me laugh so much, had to bite my tongue to stop me laughing out loud in a quiet office at work grin

I'm only 23 weeks and i feel the same on odd occasions!
Hoping it doesn't get worse lol

Emmalowri Fri 03-Jan-20 16:58:14

I feel your pain! I’m 34 weeks and some days even just the way my Hubby forgets to say ‘hi’ when he gets home from work makes my blood boil 😂 it’s horrific but it’s just our hormones.

allthesharks Fri 03-Jan-20 17:09:28

I picked a fight with DP because he offered to take my car to buy a new tyre (I've got a screw in one). Maybe snapping at him for not shutting the fuck up would be preferable to having a full on argument about him trying to do something to help me.

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AlphaLemon Fri 03-Jan-20 17:14:08

Oh gosh! 33 weeks and I feel you! Although to be fair, I find my anger directed more toward strangers! I have always been polite and placid, especially to those I don’t know, but today I wanted to scream at a woman blocking the shelf in the supermarket!
Definitely hormonal!!

TwinkleStars15 Fri 03-Jan-20 17:31:56

@allthesharks how far along are you? I feel like this and I’m only 5 weeks gringrin

allthesharks Fri 03-Jan-20 17:37:55

I'm only 9 weeks. I'm not sure how I'll cope if this irritability lasts the entire pregnancy. I definitely wasn't like this in my previous pregnancies. With those I was an emotional wreck and cried and the drop of a hat, but I wasn't snappy and irritable.

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jmacat86 Fri 03-Jan-20 17:43:52

@allthesharks I haven’t snapped, but the number of times I’ve thought “oh FFS man up” is possibly in the millions. At the moment OH is complaining about having a cold and not feeling well- imagine growing a tiny human on top of everything else!

milkjetmum Fri 03-Jan-20 17:46:21

I told my husband off for blinking too loudly when pregnant with dd1 blush

Canadianpancake Fri 03-Jan-20 17:47:06

Yes. And the smell of him made me gip.

CharlieB93 Fri 03-Jan-20 17:53:31

This made me lol

Yep 21 weeks here, rang OH on way home from work so see what he fancied for tea and he said ‘we’ll decide when you get home I’m not sure’. Not sure whether I’m hangry or what but evil thoughts crossed my mind 😁
Also the sound of him blowing his nose this morning made me see red 😂

45andfine Fri 03-Jan-20 18:53:10

Yes!!! I feel like I'm permanently PMT'Y.

sel2223 Fri 03-Jan-20 20:13:54

Not just you OP, I've been getting so annoyed by every little thing partner can't put a foot right.
He even said to me tonight that sometimes I look at him like I hate him (I really don't).
Must. Try. Harder

OhWellThatsJustGreat Fri 03-Jan-20 20:15:58

Completely normal, dh breathed way too heavily at night, he wasn't breathing any differently grin

MrsRocket Sat 04-Jan-20 15:59:32

So unfortunate that we cant control our hormones. I get annoyed with myself for being annoyed with DP!
I have the best DP who wants to look after me. I started washing up the dishes one evening and he came in, swept me off my feet and onto the sofa to rest but I went a little mad and said I wanted to wash up not be sat down! I mean what's wrong with me, who would possibly want to wash up the dishes with a bump making it hard to do so?! Find myself apologising to him and thanking him for putting up with me alot!

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