This is just a huge moan!!!
I'm at the point where I'm avoiding talking to other people (mostly women/existing parents) as I'm so sick of hearing negative comments. Things like;
"You think you're tired now, just you wait!"
"Look forward to having no money for the next 18 years"
But most of all, it's the comments about childbirth that are p**sing me off the most!!
"My friend nearly died"
"I had a third degree tear it was awful"
For what other medical procedure would someone say such negative and scare-mongering things?! If I was going in for a heart op would you tell me how your friend nearly died having the same?? Why is it ok in pregnancy??
I've finished work now but I couldn't stand all the snarky comments from people I barely knew there. I've just moved house and constantly got told how my new furniture (that I worked my ass off to afford) is going to get ruined. Etc etc etc.
I understand that some of these comments are said in jest and aren't serious.. but it's so tiring and depressing to hear CONSTANTLY!
Yesterday someone felt the need to tell me how depressing it is to come home with your first child and how lonely maternity leave is.
I am NOT naive. I am not an idiot. I know it will be a shock but my way of coping and preparing is to stay positive and in control of my emotions. It's really upsetting me and I cried for an hour last night because I just felt like all my work at being positive was being de-railed.
If I was going for my driving test would you say "oh god its awful, you're going to fail. My friend just failed"? NO, you would give words of encouragement and excitement!!
If I was starting a new job would you say "oh wow you're going to be so tired. It's scary. I haven't moved jobs in years because I had such a bad experience"?. NO! You would congratulate and celebrate!
Why does pregnancy give everyone this sense of entitlement to tell you how shit everything is. I thought it was supposed to be a happy time.
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India999 · 05/12/2019 09:09
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