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Any positive pregnancy over 40 success stories?

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Liissaa Mon 02-Dec-19 16:57:15

After a mmc with my first pregnancy at 40 earlier this year, I would love to hear any success stories of any over 40s who have achieved a successful pregnancy! Xx

msflibble Wed 04-Dec-19 08:11:14

Hi OP. I'm currently subletting a flat from a family. The mum is 44 and has two beautiful, sweet healthy children aged 1 and 3.

Liissaa Wed 04-Dec-19 08:09:49

@cansantabringmeabfp congratulations!!! Hoping you have a healthy pregnancy xx

cansantabringmeabfp Wed 04-Dec-19 07:21:37

I had my first at 40 and just got my second BFP today at 43. I know I have a long road ahead but i had a great pregnancy first time round so I'm keeping everything crossed.

Liissaa Wed 04-Dec-19 07:06:30

@starflake congratulations and good luck! Xx

Moonflower12 Wed 04-Dec-19 01:21:26

@Liissaa
Forgot to add- my pregnancy was totally unexpected and uneventful- so much so it only got picked up on a scan for something else, at 31 weeks!

starflake Tue 03-Dec-19 21:58:52

I'm 41 and currently 37 weeks pregnant. I've had a fairly normal pregnancy with no complications as of yet. They won't let me go over 40 weeks due to age & I have arthritis in my hips from a teenager so getting induced in 2 weeks! Even my doctors are super impressed with me & the uneventful pregnancy I've had

Liissaa Tue 03-Dec-19 21:32:11

@Moonflower12 and @Megan2018 thank you so much. @Megan2018 huge congratulations xx

Megan2018 Tue 03-Dec-19 21:30:12

I’m sat here breastfeeding my 11 week old, conceived at 40 and born at 41. Easy pregnancy and 6.5 hour natural birth. Only complication was gestational diabetes.

She’s perfect and we are so lucky. She’s first (and only) baby for DH and I. We conceived in less than a year of not properly trying (he was 45, now 46).

Moonflower12 Tue 03-Dec-19 21:23:05

I was 44. DD is now 7. Good luck x

Liissaa Tue 03-Dec-19 21:17:39

@Rubyroost from this second on, I absolutely will. Xx

Rubyroost Tue 03-Dec-19 21:09:45

@Liissaa I have never been made to feel like I'm too old by any professionals in the nhs. In fact no one has batted an eyelid. That doctor is an arse wipe, please ignore

ferrier Tue 03-Dec-19 20:28:26

Agreed there is negativity and dismissal of concerns. Also fearmongering and overmedicalisation. However, on to the good side I had two mcs at 40 but then a successful pregnancy. I think you just have to expect it to take longer and to be prepared for mcs but that doesn't mean it won't happen.

Liissaa Tue 03-Dec-19 20:24:49

@ncncncncn congratulations! And thank you for taking the time to share xx

ncncncncn Tue 03-Dec-19 19:46:23

@Liissaa 40 and sat here cuddling my 20w old. Good luck with everything.....

Liissaa Tue 03-Dec-19 19:38:49

@Rubyroost at least there is some positive doctors out there. Honestly I was so unsure after that. @89redballoons @SirVixofVixHall @Oliversmumsarmy @Lynsinhull @Orangeandlemon @Helbelle17 @tisonlymeagain @Dinosauratemydaffodils thank you so much for taking the time to share your stories. You have no idea how much more positive I feel after hearing all of these. It has really helped xx

Dinosauratemydaffodils Tue 03-Dec-19 11:44:54

Had dd six weeks off my 41st birthday. Easy conception and pregnancy (apart from the nausea).

My family tree is full of pregnancies post 40. My Grandmother, Great Aunts x 3, 2 x Aunts and Great Grandmother (she was 46 when her last made an appearance) all had children into their 40s as did my dh's Grandmother.

The consultant and midwife I saw in my last pregnancy both thought I'd be back with another one. Certainly I was the only person who brought up my age last time and the consultant laughed and said I wasn't old. We're thinking about trying for a 3rd after Christmas and if we succeed I'll be 43 when they arrive.

tisonlymeagain Tue 03-Dec-19 10:16:06

40 and currently 31 weeks pregnant. No problem conceiving are all - basically first month of trying after stopping the pill and everything has been well so far. A few problems and a ton of extra appointments - but not age related - mainly relating to complications in previous pregnancies when I was in my twenties, and a low lying placenta!

Helbelle17 Tue 03-Dec-19 10:12:52

There is a lot of negativity around fertility when over 40 and it can be really annoying. I went to see my gp after we'd been trying for 6 months for this one and she did the basic blood test to check that I wasovulating but she said that as I was very anxious about it all, she'd prefer not to send us for any other tests until we'd been trying a year. She said it's more likely the stress that was stopping us conceiving. She was basing that on DH and I's health and fitness and the fact that we had had a healthy baby 2 years previously.
Turns out she was right. Took the pressure and here we are!
I love being an older mum. I'm well established in my career so can work 2 days a week and be paid enough to get by on that. I am confident in my decisions and feel that I've done everything I want to do for now, so can focus on our wonderful dd.
Everything crossed for you.

Orangeandlemon Tue 03-Dec-19 09:54:19

OP- when I was in hospital having my first baby at 39 the midwives were asking me if I wanted more children. I said I'd like to but now I think I'm too old and time is running out. Every single one of them told me I'm being silly and that compared to other mums I'm very young. Apparently it's very common now to have babies your 40ies, not uncommon to have them at 44-45 or even older. I know chances are lower than when you are younger but like a previous poster said, it's not always about age.

Lynsinhull Tue 03-Dec-19 09:46:29

Me. I’ve been more fertile in my 40s than any other point! Had a son at 35 then nothing so thought he’d be only child. Pregnant again unexpectedly at 40, sadly miscarried at 10 weeks and again thought my baby days were over. Amazed to again unexpectedly get pregnant at 41 and am now 26 weeks and due in March when I’ll be 42. All going great. I’m so much more ready and psychologically prepared for this baby being older and wiser! Hope it works out for you x

Oliversmumsarmy Tue 03-Dec-19 09:45:49

I had Ds at nearly 41. Friend had her 3rd at 46 and another friend after years of unsuccessful ivf decided at 49 to give up.
Her and her dh went on holiday and 9 months later at the age of 50 gave birth to their dc

SirVixofVixHall Tue 03-Dec-19 09:40:16

I had dc1 the week I turned 41, then dc2 at 43. Got pregnant easily, all fine. I have five friends who all had babies in their forties , two after being told they would never conceive naturally (one already had a baby from IVF, the other had thought she would remain childless).

89redballoons Tue 03-Dec-19 09:36:03

Out of my NCT group of 8 couples, at least two women are in their early 40s. They've both very recently given birth to gorgeous healthy babies - their first, in both cases. smile

Rubyroost Tue 03-Dec-19 09:30:15

@Liissaa bloody doctor!!
A consultant spoke to me at the fetal medicine centre when my baby was very poorly at 13 weeks. I never wanted a penus near me again at that point, she said I hope you keep on trying. I was 40 at the time and her words meant a lot, I'll never forget. If a consultant in fetal medicine advises it the likelihood of getting pregnant must be relatively good, ignore that stupid doctor.

Liissaa Tue 03-Dec-19 07:04:59

@Rubyroost sometimes you just need some positive, sensible words to keep you going. I’m really sorry about your losses. You have been really brave to keep going. It’s just about getting a good egg.
@Pipandmum that’s amazing! I don’t have anyone really around me at the moment that I know who has done this at my age so that reassured me a lot! Thank you!
@Louise91417 Thank you! Christmas in your house sounds like it is going to be brilliant this year!
@ThunderboltandLightning Congratulations to her! Hope she is having a healthy pregnancy.
After my mmc I seemed to have some retained tissue that caused a huge bleed worthy of an a&e rush. At my check up afterwards, the doctor was really negative about being 41 and I think I just had a bit of a wobble. Your stories have really helped. Thank you.

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