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11 days over and want homebirth...is it possible?

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bambi06 Mon 20-Aug-07 14:23:30

i` d planned a homebirth all along..not nice memories of hospital birth for other two so pinned all my hopes on this fianal one being homebirth but now i`m getting distressed at the thought because i`m overdue by 11 days today ,that they will say i cant have one..midwves seem to be giving me conflicting info on this and i`m feeling backed against a wall to agree to a sweep tomorrow in the hope it will start it off..my other two were also late nd i`m feeling penalised because i have late babies.and getting very angry about the whole situation...why should i agree to induction[which i flatly refuse to do] just because i want a lovely homebirth ...why should their be any more risks a thome to in hospital..at least i`1l hav a midwife with me constantly at home to seein advance if problems arise in stead of having arguements about NOT being strapped to a monitor and told to lie down..i had lots of arguements with my last two labours about what i wanted..not a pleasureable experience...sorry about the rant but i`m consumed with anger a the moment about their attitude! any bodyelse had a really late homebirth?

CarGirl Mon 20-Aug-07 14:29:21

At my local hospitale their policy is up to 14 days overdue for a home birth.

When I was induced I just refused to be strapped to the monitor after I'd done 45 mins when the gel stuff was inserted and they were fine with it - it was a very concise written birth plan

NineUnlikelyTales Mon 20-Aug-07 14:30:18

Oh bambi you poor thing

If you have late babies with no ill effects, and decide to have a homebirth, there is nothing they can do to stop you. They have to come to your home, they can't make you give birth in hospital.

I refused indiction and had my DS at 42+6 (in hospital but that was because I was worried about disturbing the neighbours as our walls are so thin!). I was in the MLU rather than delivery suite and had no constant monitoring or strapping to the bed, etc. It would have made no difference whether I was there or at home. So even if you do decide to meet them halfway and have your baby in hospital, you DON'T have to be over managed.

Have you looked at this site? homebirth uk It has good information about your rights and how to deal with HCP.

I understand how you are feeling at the moment because I felt under pressure to be induced. It is so hard I know but do try as hard as you can to relax. You don't need to be wasting all your energy on anger.

Wishing you all the best

sundew Mon 20-Aug-07 14:33:52

I had my home birth at 10 days overdue - and there was certainly no talk at the time of having to have a hospital birth if I was much later.

My midwife was fab and even broke my waters to help my labour along. Try fondling your nipples - worked for me!

bambi06 Mon 20-Aug-07 14:38:28

thanks everyone..i`m feeling very emotional today!!!maybe ts a sign..oh please!! let it be tonight !!!! i want to be upright and mobile when i give birth and be at home with my own family and cleanliness and own bed without arguements and disgusting food and waiting on drs to discharge me although last time i packed my bags and stood waiting saying i`m going home ..get me a dr now or i`m walking out myself..!!!it shouldnt be like that .. one midwife has actually said tha tshe agrees whole heartedly with me about thses rules and regulations getting too much but as she works for he nhs she has her hands tied and told me she got reprimanded last week for letting a mother go overdue and having a homebirth.. i`m supposed to go and see a dr on wednesday to hear the usual..you are putting your baby at risk ..talk..blah ..blah..blah..i`ve heard it all before and my genetics predict i will always have late babies if you ask me. as i was late and so was my brother..if i go into labout past 14 days will they come out to me when i call hopital, thats the worry..

bambi06 Mon 20-Aug-07 14:41:15

bump....

CarGirl Mon 20-Aug-07 14:44:53

I also have late babies but decided not to wait beyond 14 days but tbh the sweeps never worked as by cervix was never ripened or whatever at all!

I did find it possible to have a very hands off labour and birth with the midwives really being involved in an ordinary consultant led place, I couldn't use the home from home rooms because I was induced but that really wasn't an issue for me. Just had gas and air and 2 lots of continuous monitoring just after the gel was inserted each time - and at the time I wasn't in serious pain so lying down for 45 mins wasnt an issue.

I do know how you feel though I was hysterical over the situation for my 2nd birth (went 16 days over by lying about my dates and still didn't go into labour!) and with the 3rd I insisted they book me for induction on my due date because I couldn't take the wait and then still be induced.

4th time around was wonderful though. Good luck

CarGirl Mon 20-Aug-07 14:47:43

I also wrote on my birth notes that I wasn't staying in afterwards and do my 6 hours and that was it, they were fine with it, got a bit of a hard time about going home at midnight as it was too cold for a newborn baby (it was the August heatwave of 2003 it was about 20 degrees!)

I suppose the problem is if you say you can't get to the hospital they will just send an ambulance????

bambi06 Mon 20-Aug-07 14:57:46

yes .ive thought of just calling an ambulance...

tortoiseSHELL Mon 20-Aug-07 15:01:33

I know exactly how you feel. Ds1 was 12 days over, and I hated his hospital birth, booked hb for dd. She was late too, and I remember being so ANGRY that I could be denied the homebirth simply because I have late babies.

At 8 days over, saw consultant, who was ever so laid back and said obviously this was just normal for me, go back at 15 days over. Dd was born 14 days over. But I think my mws have delivered at 21 days over at home.

Ds2 was only 8 days over and felt positively early!

However, I do know of people in our area where the consultant has really put pressure on them, and said they're putting the baby at risk etc etc. I think if dd hadn't been born at 14 days over they would have suggested daily monitoring to check the well being of the placenta.

bambi06 Mon 20-Aug-07 15:25:43

i had monitoring with ds [19 days over] but did get a lot of pressure from consultant who basically said he was writing me off as i wasnt listening to him... i`ve just had phone call from second midwife who said dont get stressed about it and that there was no cut off time limit..

betsycoe Tue 21-Aug-07 16:16:27

Hi Bambi,
My midwives have attended a home birth for a woman that was 43+5 who delivered a perfectly healthy baby at home. Apparently, the woman requested daily monitoring at the local hospital for her own peace of mind from 43 weeks. As all seemed fine she opted to stick to her plan and go with her HB.

Hope you get the HB that you've planned!

MrsScavo Tue 21-Aug-07 16:20:57

I was determined to hold out for a home birth. Luckily I went into labour at 40 + 11. Hold on in there!
I really feel for you. Good Luck!

Ceolas Tue 21-Aug-07 16:21:06

It really is your decision, you know that?

I would join the Yahoo Homebirth group if you haven't already. Lots of people there who've gone way past EDDs and had successful homebirths.

Loopymumsy Tue 21-Aug-07 19:25:17

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Ceolas Tue 21-Aug-07 21:29:12

There was a woman on some programme I was watching today - truth about Pregnancy and Birth, I think, who carried 2 babies to over 43 weeks. IIRC one was 25 days over and the other 27? Both born at home

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