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Due May 2020 - could do with a buddy!

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Shak19 Tue 03-Sep-19 14:06:25

Hi all. So I'm due my first in May of next year. I only found out I was pregnant on Saturday. My husband is great but I have no friends at this stage they either have grown up kids or arent planning to any time soon
I have two sisters. One with grown up kids who she doesn't see and one who's getting married soon so is in her own little bubble.

I would just like someone to talk about all of this as I'm really anxious about the next 9 months.

Thanks for reading smile

Blerf Wed 04-Sep-19 12:52:49

Yeah, I'll probably do a private scan soon too, but trying to hold out as long as possible. Quite annoying as my husband is away quite a lot of the next month with work so I'm just sat at home trying not to blert it out to everyone!

Sore boobs, but not ridiculous (sometimes after ovulation they've been worse than this) but I've definitely got a new type of nausea and am super tired too!

abbyhay123 Wed 04-Sep-19 20:59:06

Hi I have just found out I'm pregnant and I'm due 12th of may. This will be my second child but feeling really anxious this time not sure why . What's everyone symptoms been so far I have sharp/stretching pain lower tummy and feeling sick but not been sick yet touch wood!! Xx

unclemontyscrumpets Fri 06-Sep-19 10:15:32

Hello! I'd like to join, please.
I'm 5 weeks today after my 1st go at IVF- and I'm failing miserably at being chill! Actually I was ok until yesterday morning when I had some pink spotting- and since then I'm peeing even more often to check for flashes or red like a nutcase.

I have low level period pains now and then across the day- mainly at night or first thing in the morning, which has been the case since I first got my BFP. Other than that I don't really have any symptoms- I can't really tell if my boobs are more sort than usual as they're quite, ahem, big anyway so I'm used to being quite uncomfortable. I'm also weirdly thirsty...

I hope everyone else is ok today- I really appreciate having somewhere where I'm allowed to talk about it? flowers

lauryloo Fri 06-Sep-19 10:20:01


can i join you guys - currently 4 weeks - found out yesterday!

this will be baby no 3 and a little surprise

wineymummy Fri 06-Sep-19 10:23:35

Hi everyone. Congratulations to you all!
Found out yesterday on an IC at 10dpo, tested again today and it's a darker line. AF not due until next Thursday according to FF but my cycles have been a bit off since having my implant out so I'm not sure exactly on my DPO. Due 20th May! This will be number 2, we already have a DD 2.5.

Herewego2020 Fri 06-Sep-19 10:32:51

Hey everyone.. first congrats 🌟💫 I would love to join too please. I found out On the 3rd at 11dpo, I'm due 14th May 🥰 I have breast tenderness, no appetite which isn't great.. and a oh who is not sleeping very well 😅

Shak19 Fri 06-Sep-19 10:35:09

Hello again everyone. I'm 5 weeks exactly today smile
It's nice so many of us due around the same time. No one in my life is ttc or preg any time soon.

So this week we told my mum dad and sister we are expecting and sworn them to secrecy lol
We are going to tell the in laws this weekend when we see them
My next issue is my landlords contract says no kids under 5... we are due in may and our contract is up in May and I'm stressed at the thought of moving with a newborn.
Really hoping she let's us stay a few months till we figure things out

Also is anyone else feeling like they're having period pains? Apparently its normal but doesn't help with my anxiety lol

Herewego2020 Fri 06-Sep-19 10:39:39

Forgot to add this will be my 3rd. I have 2 boys 9 and 13 who hardly need me anymore accept to feed them😅. My sister knows and admin at uni as I'm just starting my 2nd year of my PhD at uni which I plan to keep doing😳 prob why oh is not sleeping 😅.
@Shak19 I also have cramps here and there. They are nothing usually anything to worry about. I get anxious too 💞

KerryM1983 Fri 06-Sep-19 10:54:45

Hi all

Congratulations to you all.
I'm now 5 weeks + 5 and anxious as ever.
I've gone from feeling pregnant to feeling better which has put me on edge. I also ended up doing another test yesterday which I thought was lighter and this has bothered me as I thought it was supposed to get darker. I have woke up this morning with a dull like period pain and dull back ache. The only thing that seems to be consistent is the tiredness. Has anyone had the same experiences?

Springbaby20 Fri 06-Sep-19 11:15:22

Hey! Congrats to all smile

Can I join you too, we found out yesterday I am pregnant - very excited and very overwhelmed!! Nausea has been strong for the last week, carbs are helping :D

This is my second child xx

ejmay90 Fri 06-Sep-19 11:48:17

@Shelbustotherescue this is my 2nd pregnancy after a miscarriage in june this year also.

I completely understand why your feeling you can't enjoy it as i feel the same! I'm 6+1 today and have booked in for a private early scan at 8 weeks.
I just keep comparing to my last pregnancy. Had a few more symptoms this time but feeling so unpregnant today which is worrying me!
Was that your first miscarriage? as i haven't been offered regular scans.

Hope everything is well with your scan next week! x

ejmay90 Fri 06-Sep-19 11:53:56


Congrats on your pregnancy!
I feel the same today, felt very pregnant yesterday but nothing today and that worries me as previously miscarried in June. Dr always tells me not to go by symptoms as they can come and go so please try not to worry.
I've had a dull ache on and off for over a week but has stopped now, as long as it's not excruciating pain it should just be where everything is moving and creating room down there. I have also had a backache but at the top not lower which seems to have settled now.

If you are worried about the test why not call your dr? i wouldn't say that is an indication of anything so try not to worry i'm sure you will be fine. x

kstann Fri 06-Sep-19 11:54:53

@Herewego2020 Hi, firstly congratulations!
I am 5 + 5 today and feeling anxious too! I am also studying, about to go into my final year. Due date is 3rd May and my final exams are June confused
It's going to be a busy year! Lol x

kstann Fri 06-Sep-19 11:59:27

@KerryM1983 hey, im the same dates as you! 5+5. I'm sure It's nothing to worry about. As exciting as it is It's such an anxious time - looks like we are all feeling that way. I've been pretty tired the past few weeks and have had quite a bit of period pain like camps for the past week. My digestion is also a lot slower and I keep burping 🤦🏼‍♀️. X

kstann Fri 06-Sep-19 12:02:51

@Shak19 Hey, congratulations to you! And thanks for starting the post! It's great to have so many people in the same boat!!
I've had quite a lot of mild cramping, a bit period pain like and often worse In the evening! I've read that it's completely normal (as long as it's not agony, persistent or accompanied with bleeding) xx

Herewego2020 Fri 06-Sep-19 12:12:58

@kstann congrats to you too 💞 I'm so glad you are studying too makes me feel better lol. I am determined to keep it up and I'm part time too so im sure I will cope..I hope.
The anxious feeling is horrible. I had a miscarriage 2 years a go and my oh only just agreed to try again as he was so heartbroken.

Shelbustotherescue Fri 06-Sep-19 12:25:33

@ejmay90 no it was my third miscarriage, 2nd in 12 months - that's why I am having extra scans etc with the recurrent loss clinic

Congratulations on your pregnancy !

I am 5 weeks today - symptoms are still sore boobs, tiredness and nausea is coming thick and fast - generally first thing in the morning and the evenings.

Feel like I've got a bump confused but that could just be bloating

Hows everyone else doing x

ejmay90 Fri 06-Sep-19 12:31:59

@Shelbustotherescue i'm sorry to hear that.

Thank you, congrats on yours!

Glad your having extra scans as that will help with the anxiety.

I'm pretty much the same, sore boobs but they seem to be on and off. Nausea has also been on and off and can be any time during the day. Had dull ache cramps at night but that has eased now.

I'm so bloated too! x

KerryM1983 Fri 06-Sep-19 12:35:57

@ejmay90 Congratulations to you too 

Really trying not to worry. Half of my brain says go with the flow and the other half just completely runs off with itself.

I thought about contacting the doctor or ivf clinic but I assumed they would probably tell me not to worry with not having any significant troublesome symptoms.


It is so nice we are the same dates.
Trying to stay positive and take each day as it comes. My horrendous bloating has practically gone and last night I completely lost my appetite. Hopefully our miracle is growing exactly as it should be.

Wish you ladies the best x

ejmay90 Fri 06-Sep-19 12:41:48

@KerryM1983 thank you!

Yea i'm the same, trying to relax is easier said than done. Just constantly thinking the worst and i know i shouldn't.

I have had good and bad days though so i'm sure it will be the same for you.
That is what my Dr keeps saying, unless there is anything really wrong not to worry. x

Shelbustotherescue Fri 06-Sep-19 12:49:50

Yeah it really will, at least I'm hoping it will, I'm just at the point now where everything went wrong with the last pregnancy so I'm just mentally getting through that - it's tougher than I thought.

kstann Fri 06-Sep-19 13:07:15

@Herewego2020 So sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.

I know this sort of this isn't for everyone, but if you're on Instagram - kghypnobirthing puts up posts with little positive affirmations weve I've started using ☺️ xx

kstann Fri 06-Sep-19 13:11:43

@KerryM1983 I've been bloated too, said to my Oh I already look like I'm 12 weeks 😂
My appetite has reduced too!
Just ordered my first pregnancy book which comes today - so looking forward to tucking into that!!

Wishing you all the best too thanks

Shak19 Fri 06-Sep-19 16:42:36

Thanks for the reassurance with regards to the cramps and stuff @kstann @Herewego2020
I guess it's a normal part of all this
@kstann which book did you get? I'm wanting to get some but dunno where to begin lol

Jojowash Fri 06-Sep-19 16:46:54

Due 10th May! Rainbow babe, congrats to you all x

We lost our little one at 11 weeks, a real shock because we had strong positive tests all the way through. I had a brown staining one morning and again the next so I went straight to A&E, they did a pregnancy test, he came out and said ‘we’ll you’re still pregnant’ with a smile. I went up for a scan in the early pregnancy unit and then got the devastating news. I naturally miscarried a week later.

I’m now 5 weeks pregnant and just don’t have any symptoms. I’m petrified as I can’t rely on the tests as mine still read pregnant last time!

At what stages did you feel pregnant? My other two children I had 14 years ago and remember feeling unwell, a bit queazy and very tired but I cannot remember at what stage.

Anyone else going through this? Xx

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