Okay, I need to rant. Am very "hormonal" as DH has just put it (first part of rant over).
I am sick of being pregnant, and I'm only 31 weeks!! I'm sick of people getting involved - everyone's at it!! I eat too much, I don't eat enough, I'm probably going to put on loads and loads and loads more weight, I'm being shown articles about stretchmarks (I don't have any yet!), I'm getting too much sleep, I'm lying about the cost of childcare, MIL wants baby to be HUGE, people are upset with us cos we don't know if it's a boy or a girl, people keep telling me labour will be awful (I'm not stupid - I know it won't be a barrel of laughs - but I can't wait to see the baby!), I shouldn't buy this - I should buy that and I JUST CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE. And a woman glared at my bump in Asda yesteday. And two weeks ago someone who is also pregnant but who weighs about 5 stone more than me pre-pregnancy said I was fat.
tell them all to sod off
eat whatever you like
go to the (blissfully smoke-free) pub with your antenatal posse and drink all the tonic you can hold
(and if you haven't got an antenatal posse, get hold of one - people are much less inclined to make 'helpful' remarks to five enormously pg women than to one on her own)
Its good practice for you Manchester, just wait until baby arrives and everyone starts giving you "really helpful advice" on breast/ formula feeding, sleeping, crying.... practice telling them to bugger off while your hormones are still functioning at relatively normal levels
all i can say is that you are not alone. My doc warned me very early on that from the minute i announce my pregnancy - everyone will have an opinion - and he was pretty much right. i am 32+2 and a few weeks ago got to the stage where colleagues were making the least helpful comments. I told them outright that i didnt find their comments particularly great and they have stopped!
I am feeling like such a bore, always tired, not much fun to be around, all that...
Used to do things all the time, fun stuff, exiting, now all I want to do is lie down and not talk to anybody. Having massive guilt attack just about now about cramping DPs style. I KNOW it's silly, but I can't HELP how the whole thing makes me feel
I'm supposed to "enjoy" my pregnancy, not to feel guilty about it....
you poor thing. you are not alone, people just can't help making comments and trying to be involved. It probably means they really care about you, but it is stressful to have to put with.
the bad news is these people tend to get worse when baby is born "he/she isn't sleeping/feeding enough, you need to put more less/clothes on them rah rah rah"
my advice is get some good pregnancy and baby books and then you can hit back with "actually i've put on the exact amount of weight" "not all labours are bad", etc, etc. you can use the baby books the same way and then finally Like i have done you can resort to
"Mum you raised us the way you thought/wanted and i'm gong to raise my dc the way i want, it is now a different generation and if i want your advice I'll ask"
It works when she remembers, otherwise i say it again.
I'm 37 weeks now, and my family are 12,000 miles away. I can't recommend it highly enough!!
I have had no comments except the occasional one's at Sainsburys (and when that's all you get then it's more bearable) and everyone has to be nice to me or they get no more updates!
A bloke at work today started telling me about his wife's piles & varicose veins during her pregnancy, then proceeded to tell me about how gory her c-section was. I told him bluntly 'I really don't want to know', but he still told me anyway.
Next person will get the fingers-in-the-ears and the 'la-la-la-I'm-not-listening' treatment. Or I'll just tell them to shut up and walk out the room. I can just blame my rudeness on being hormonal. Ain't pregnancy great?!