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The Graduates of TTC after pregnancy loss thread #3 🐧🐧The Penguin Huddle 🐧🐧

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InDreamland Thu 08-Aug-19 22:55:43

New thread as the last one is nearing the max number of posts.

This is a supportive and safe space for ladies from the TTC after pregnancy loss thread who've had a BFP and now negotiating the scary rollercoaster world of pregnancy after loss.

If you weren't on the original thread though and have suffered a loss and are anxious about your new pregnancy please feel free to join the huddle 🐧

So ladies, I hope you are all here for the long haul until our 🌈 are delivered (and beyond if you fancy sticking around).

Let's pull on our positive pants and nerves of steel.

I'll start the roll call of EDD from the last thread:
@Melpops3638 - EDD 5/12/2019
@Beaglemum93 - 25 - EDD 22/12/19
@Amanda81 - 38 - EDD 27/12/19
@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue - 36 - EDD 3/01/20 but having an elective section so likely to be 27/12/19
@theAntsareMyFriends - 35 - EDD 04/02/2020
@Laney79 - 40 - EDD 6/1/2020 (but elective section so likely to be 30/12/19)
@Bluebelltulip - 29 - EDD 9/1/2020 likely induction 2 weeks earlier
@moonpeace - 37 - EDD 23/01/20
@KnitKitty- 31 - EDD 29/01/20
@Newbie21 - 38 - EDD 6/2/2020 (if c-section circa. 31/1/2020)
@Zznorth - 29 - EDD 17/02/20
@InDreamland- 39 - EDD 18/02/20
@Tinatsarina - 29 - EDD 26/02/20
@Frillyfarmer - 29 - EDD 29/02/20
@duvetcaterpillar - 34 - EDD 27/03/2020

Also tagging: @rubyroot @sadtoday21 @Catconfusion @boboelephant @Yukka @Russkispy @VenusStarr @Beaglemum93 @Squiff70 @Navy123 @Bellasblankexpression

So sorry if I've missed anyone. I've tried to include as many as I could.

InDreamland Thu 08-Aug-19 23:01:16

To refresh, about me:

Age 39, no living DC, was TTC for 5 years before first BFP May 2018.
MC (MMC) #1 - July 2018, discovered at 11+4, passed at 12+3.
MC #2 - November 2018 at just under 5w.
Currently 12+2 with 3rd pregnancy. Getting harmony results tomorrow and petrified.

InDreamland Thu 08-Aug-19 23:05:08

Sorry I missed you @fnej01 @Rmac90 @nzs2019

InDreamland Thu 08-Aug-19 23:14:19

@hayleyfx @Ginmonkey84 @Pancakessndwaffles

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InDreamland Thu 08-Aug-19 23:16:47

@coconutlatte44 @Unicornsandrainbows1

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Newbie21 Fri 09-Aug-19 00:12:37

@InDreamland good luck for the harmony results tomorrow

@sadtoday21 good luck with your scan tomorrow.

I keep feeling weird tightening feeling and sort of ripples in my tummy - more ripples that flutters. I'm wondering if it's baby, kind of feels like it could be. It's probably just gas though and me wishful thinking!

Newbie21 Fri 09-Aug-19 00:17:55

Refresh on me:
38yrs, 1 DS (3yrs), TTC DC2 from Dec 2017, MMC April 2018 at 11 weeks (baby passed 8-9weeks), MC at 5 weeks in Aug 2018, MMC at 9 weeks in Nov 2018.
Now 14weeks (going by due date of 6/2/2020)
Next scan 22 Aug (private reassurance scan)
Then NHS 20 week scan is 19 Sep.

Beaglemum93 Fri 09-Aug-19 01:02:36

Thanks for the new thread @InDreamland and good luck for your harmony results tomorrow!

About me:
Age 26
2 previous losses - MMC in October 2018 where the baby died at 12+2 and a chemical pregnancy in March
Currently 20+5 with a boy!
I have a private scan on Sunday.

Navy123 Fri 09-Aug-19 03:22:28

Thanks @InDreamland

Age 29
6 previous losses - 3 in 2016/17, then DS born 2018, then 3 more since January.
Currently 5+4ish, due date April I think but haven't properly calculated yet because I don't want to jinx it!!
Next scan on 22nd August to see if it is progressing and hopefully a heartbeat.

Still don't 'feel' pg, or able to say the p word properly! Most previous mcs were early/chemicals so currently I think further along than 5 previous times.

Catconfusion Fri 09-Aug-19 05:08:59

Age: 40
First baby. Mild pcos and irregular cycles.
First pregnancy first time trying in Dec on honeymoon. Severe sickness, spotting at 10 weeks then no heartbeat on scan. Baby stopped at 6 weeks. ERPC at 12 weeks in Feb.

Straight after chemical pregnancy at just over 4 weeks in March. Never got a strong positive.
Cycles unpredictable after so we were waiting for a fertility appointment but fell pregnant on cd 32. Blazing positives and ultrasound showing 'pregnant lining' but no sac yet.
Currently 4 weeks plus 3 and the sickness is kicking in.

Does anyone else suffer with IBS? I'm really struggling with a right sided low down pain. Presumably the hormones are causing it. I've had it before so not pregnancy related. Just wondering what I can take for IBS in pregnancy? Xx

VenusStarr Fri 09-Aug-19 06:40:48

Morning. Thank you for the new thread @InDreamland 🐧

I'm 35 (nearly 36), ttc for over 18 months and had a missed miscarriage in April. Currently 4+4 with my due date in April 2020, if all is well. Having an early scan around 6 weeks at the epu. Lots of symptoms that seemed to start quite early on compared to last time.

@Catconfusion I'm not sure about ibs treatment in pregnancy, sorry. Does peppermint tea help at all?

VenusStarr Fri 09-Aug-19 06:43:19

Hope all is well with your test results @InDreamland xx

Thinking of you for your scan @sadtoday21 ❤️

Catconfusion Fri 09-Aug-19 06:53:59

Hey @VenusStarr how did you sleep? Peppermint oil has helped in the past but there's differing views on whether completely safe in pregnancy. I could try the tea. I'm feeling very nauseous today. I do sympathise with you getting early symptoms. I'm hoping it's a good sign. Xx

Catconfusion Fri 09-Aug-19 06:54:45

Good luck for your test results today @InDreamland xx

I hope the scan goes ok @sadtoday21 I'll be thinking of you! Xx

Frillyfarmer Fri 09-Aug-19 07:00:43

Thanks for the new thread.

Age 29

1 DS aged 2, started TTC Oct 18, MC at 6weeks in Jan and MC at 5+3 in May. Currently 10+6, have my second early scan on Saturday and I'm swinging between positive we've got further than previously, and terrified it's going to be a MMC.

VenusStarr Fri 09-Aug-19 07:00:56

Hey @Catconfusion, I slept better last night thank you. Was up a couple of times for the loo but managed to drop off again. I've gone off tea and coffee, which isn't a bad thing because of the caffeine. I'm mainly drinking water - feel really thirsty all the time, but getting acid / burning in my throat - ginger biscuits made that worse yesterday! Hope the peppermint tea helps xx

Bluebelltulip Fri 09-Aug-19 07:17:31

Thanks for the new thread @InDreamland, good luck for today.

Age: 29.

DD1: Jan 17.

DD2: Jan 19 Stillborn due to heart condition.

EDD: 9 Jan 20.

Got my next check on Monday, seeing a fetal medicine consultant that specialises in pregnancy after stillbirth.

Catconfusion Fri 09-Aug-19 07:19:06

That's good @VenusStarr, I can't drink tea or coffee either. The thirst is bad for me too. Constant dry mouth. Also got some weird sinus symptoms. Definitely feel like I've got hormones up to my eyeballs! Xx

fnej01 Fri 09-Aug-19 07:27:01


Thanks @InDreamland

This is me
Age : 39 (today)

1 x MMC, 2 MC, 1 CP

Diagnosed sticky blood ( APS) and high uNK cells. Now on pred, progesterone, clexane, aspirin by St Mary's

Approx 7 weeks - due late March
Scan showed heartbeat at 5+5, scan due again at 8+5 at St Mary's

Living in constant fear that this will be another MMC

Nausea, insomnia, constipation, tiredness but not sure if this is pregnancy or drug related.

Hope everyone is doing ok - thank you for those that replied regarding booking appointment @rubyroot @tina @Catconfusion I think I will book after next scan.

Bluebelltulip Fri 09-Aug-19 08:01:32

@fnej01 Happy Birthday!

Catconfusion Fri 09-Aug-19 08:02:18

Happy birthday @fnej01 💐

VenusStarr Fri 09-Aug-19 08:03:38

Happy birthday @fnej01! 🎂 🎉 Hope you have a lovely day xx

Ginmonkey84 Fri 09-Aug-19 08:04:52


Thanks @InDreamland for the new thread

Me 34 nearly 35

3 MC and 1 MMC at 12 wks in 06/07 couldn’t get pregnant again naturally after car accident that injured my husband. Male factor infertility- antisperm antibodies.

ICSI in 2012 resulted in live birth of twins, DD and DS now 6. Haven’t been on contraception in 12 years. Surprise BFP in May 19 - MC at 7+6 June 19 and amazingly currently 8+4 pregnant straight after miscarriage.

Had my EPAU scan on Monday at 7+6 everything looked great so far. Was nerve wracking as it was 8 wks to the day since I was there to confirm my miscarriage but fingers crossed we are doing good.

@fnej01 happy birthday!! 🎂

@sadtoday21 good luck for your scan today x

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