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27 weeks pregnant baby dad still not wanting baby

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sb3108 Fri 19-Jul-19 12:23:00

I've been with my partner 2 years and fell pregnant after being on the mini pill. My partner made it clear at the time that he didn't want the baby and wanted me to abort. I couldn't go though with this so told him I would do it myself and ask nothing from him. He already has a little boy that's 5 this year and he's a good dad to him so he decided to stay. He seems to be putting on a good face about it all but has recently admitted that he still feels a lot of resentment towards me for deciding to keep the baby. I feel like I'm forever just waiting for him to leave and it's stressing me out and leaving me upset and uncertain. I'm wondering if when he sees his little baby then things will be different or is he always going to hold it against me for going through with the pregnancy. Has anyone had any previous experience of this.?

stilldontgiveaf Fri 19-Jul-19 12:26:37

I'm all honesty, I'd save your sanity and leave and prepare yourself for doing this alone.

He may change his mind when he sees his child. But until then, don't allow him to make your pregnancy harder.

Starlight84 Fri 19-Jul-19 14:20:33

My partner asked me to abort and I said I can’t/won’t. We are no longer together and he’s not even messaged me once asking how I/we are so that’s the end of it! We were only together as many weeks I am pregnant so it was very soon into our relationship I get that but I have my feelings just like he has his. I hope your partner comes round when the baby is here. It’s not easy is it? X

sb3108 Fri 19-Jul-19 14:28:27

Thank you for your replies. It's definitely not easy when you think it should be such a happy time. It's emotionally exhausting cause he's up and down like a yoyo and it's never nice to hear that he thinks the baby has more negatives than she does positive which is what he says.

Starlight84 Fri 19-Jul-19 15:04:42

😓 no it’s not. And you’re right about it being a happy time. I however feel at times it’s not. I’m 15+2 and not many people know but those I have told I’ve cringed when I’ve been congratulated. It’s not a happy time for me really. Don’t get me wrong I can’t wait to have my baby but I just wish the circumstances were different xx

stilldontgiveaf Fri 19-Jul-19 18:09:33

Totally on board with PP. I am 19 weeks tomorrow and my baby's father doesn't want to know and kept it secret from everyone and his new girlfriend. I want to be happy.

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