The reason i ask is because i have had a few comments about how young i am (am 20) and think that its quite rude, my mum had me at 19 (admitedly she was married but that doesnt matter these days)
i feel as if people are looking down their noses at me, i feel really ready to have a baby and it annoys me that people can just make you feel insecure by saying something like that
i think that by being a young parent i will be able to do more with my children and it means that all my family will be able to meet my child before they pass away and it will have lots of family to be loved by (it will be a fifth generation baby(as i was))
people can have babies legally at 16!
i dont drink, dont smoke, or go out clubbing, we are a stay-at-home-and-watch-a-film kind of couple and we would be responsible parents
i dont think age has anything to do with it, you can see irresponsible 40yr old parents!
i feel as though im getting tarred with a dirty brush
I think you have to be old enough to be responsible and young enough to enjoy them... which I imagine means that the ideal age would vary person by person by anything up to 25 years... or more!
Careful, though, that you don't fall into a similar trap as those who criticise you for being too young, by maintaining 'younger is better'. There are a heap of pros and cons each way.
I'm a considerably older mum-to-be than you, and know several mums-to-be considerably older than me and feel perfectly able to do everything with their kids that you expect to - you won't necessarily be able to do 'more'... or less... come to that.
It is also my greatest sadness that my Dad won't be around to meet his grandchild - he passed away 2 years ago, and would have loved nothng more than to meet his little grand-daughter, I know. There's nothing I could do about that - I hadn't met the man I wanted to have children with until recently. People die at all sorts of times, for all sorts of reasons. There's no guarantees in this life, sadly
So just be a bit careful in your choice of words, lest you offend/upset as much as you have been offended/upset.