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Breaking the good news your pregnant

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GlmPmum Sat 11-Aug-18 21:13:05

So today we had a big family BBQ and broke the news to our parents, siblings and close friends that were expecting. We were hoping for them to be excited and yet both me and hubby agree that nobody our parents included seemed that bothered. It's my parents 2nd grandchild and in laws first, feeling very put out at there lack of enthusiasm and excitement, not what we were expecting at all.

Has anyone else had this?

student26 Sat 11-Aug-18 21:15:27

My partners parents were like ‘oh yay!’ for all of ten seconds and then lit up a cigarette next to me :/ they love their grand daughter but don’t make much effort. Sorry to hear they aren’t over the moon. I always am when I hear about babies. Congratulations!

Gottokondo Sat 11-Aug-18 21:17:53

It's very exciting for you but I do think that most people aren't that bothered, no. Tbh there are 6 billion people in the world who were all a product of pregnancies so it isn't really anything new (except for you of course).

Don't let it bother you too much. they'll probably get more excited once they actually meet the baby and it becomes more real for them. Just enjoy this special time amongst yourselves and congratulations on your pregnancy! thanks

NaomiJ11 Sat 11-Aug-18 22:09:24

I had the exact same thing today. I told my Dad (we aren't overly close) but still it's my Dad and he's going to be a grandad for the 2nd time. I thought he might at least say oh wow congratulations but it was more of a 'oh ok', then asked if I was getting married 🙄. I mean it isn't like I'm 16 and just left school I'm 27 in a stable relationship, we both have jobs. I guess it's just one of those things you think people will be excited for you but not everyone reacts the same, I had better reactions from people at work than I did my own Dad. 🤷‍♀️

PitchBlackNight Sat 11-Aug-18 22:15:23

Could they have some reservations? Reservations could be because you are too young, too old, too poor, too busy with work, don’t have enough cash, too small a house or maybe it’s just too early in the pregnancy. . Another possibility is that they have concerns over your relationship. Are any of those possibilities?

Or it could just be that they aren’t the type to be excited about a pregnancy. That doesn’t mean they won5 be excited about a baby. We were always quite low key when I was pregnant.

ManicStreetTeacher Sat 11-Aug-18 22:24:08

My in-laws had exactly the same 'big deal?' reaction. It was their first grandchild. It really upset me, so I understand how you feel. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Pinkdonkey Sat 11-Aug-18 22:33:25

We've not told many people yet as only 6 weeks, so very close family and friends only. The reaction that upset me was DHs best mate who asked if he was sure it was his!

Poptart4 Sun 12-Aug-18 12:01:56

When i was pregnant with my first child I remember feeling very upset because no one was really happy for me. I didn't want a parade but a genuine bit of enthusiasm would have been nice. As it was I got a grunt and a shoulder shrug off most of my family. I always celebrate other peoples good news and just felt like people went out of their way not to be happy for me. Its hurtful.

Work colleagues and acquaintances were happier for me than my own family was.

With my 2nd pregnancy i didnt bother to tell them, just let them find out over Facebook or through the grapevine. They were not happy but i couldn't care less. Why would i go out of my way to get shot down again.

GlmPmum Sun 12-Aug-18 13:17:31

Thank you for all your comments, me and the hubby have discussed and thinking that maybe our parents wanted telling on a more personal level and maybe we even expected too much of a response?!?! We're not the first to ever be expecting after all.

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