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Appropriate way to tell non immediate family about pregnancy...

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ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 11:33:11

Hi! New to mn however just recently found out I am pregnant and absolutely over the moon! Only 6 weeks so not out of the danger zone yet and haven't told anyone yet..

Curious question... how did you tell your non immediate family of your pregnancy? I'm not doing any big announcements but will be telling my parents and siblings face to face. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc however, I'm not sure how to tell them. I have a huge family and even the idea of phoning each and every single one of them is exhausting. Would a text message with a scan photo suffice?

Sorry if this seems like a really trivial question. Not telling anyone until at least 12 weeks, just wondered how you let people know without it seeming impersonal.

Thanks smile

Buxbaum Sun 18-Mar-18 11:45:17

We told our parents when we were happy for them to spread the good news and they told extended family when they saw them or spoke on the phone.

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 11:52:04

@Buxbaum how refreshing. I like that idea.

My family are lovely, but there are a few sensitive souls (my aunt specifically) who I think would be upset if I didn't tell them personally.

It's all so stressful. Funny how it is MY pregnancy but I'm still worried about other people. Oh anxiety...

Thanks for your answer

mintich Sun 18-Mar-18 11:57:43

Texts or dropping it into conversation were all I did. I didn't do a Pinterest worthy announcement!

twobambinos Sun 18-Mar-18 11:59:03

Same as buxbaum. Told parents and siblings when we were happy for them to spread the news. Friends might send them a text message but thats about it

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 11:59:24

@mintich I think I'll end up texting scan photos. I think it's great that people have the time to arrange big extravagant announcements, if that's their thing. I just can't stand the idea. I like lowkey...

Thanks for answering smile

ClareB83 Sun 18-Mar-18 11:59:45

We told parents, siblings and close aunts on the phone. Text other aunts, uncles and cousins and left it to parents to tell anyone wider.

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:00:18

@twobambinos thank you for your response. I'm only 6 weeks and anxiety central! Can't wait until everyone knows and it's out in the open. 6 weeks and counting!

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:00:58

@ClareB83 lovely. Must've been nice not having to keep it secret anymore!

Thanks for your answer

PurpleDaisies Sun 18-Mar-18 12:01:06

Please don’t send scan photos with your text. You don’t know wh is struggling to conceive. People will still be happy for you without the picture.

ClareB83 Sun 18-Mar-18 12:01:26

We told friends face to face when we saw them.

Just a heads up that people who have suffered pregnancy loss sometimes find scan photos quite upsetting. So you might want to consider how appropriate that is for your friends/family.

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:02:52

Hi @PurpleDaisies - thanks for the heads up. I have had numerous miscarriages and really understand this. I will keep the scan photos for the grandparents!

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:03:38

@ClareB83 absolutely. I've been one of those people before and it really is heartbreaking. As I said in previous post, maybe I'll save scan photos for the grandparents!

mamaduckbone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:05:12

Like pp we told parents and siblings and let them spread the good news - however this was pre-social media. My nieces and nephew have all got engaged in the last couple of years and sent a group WhatsApp message to alll of us aunties, cousins etc to tell us, so I think it would be perfectly fine to do the same for baby news.
Congratulations btw!flowers

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:07:26

Thank you so much @mamaduckbone ! I really can't wait to tell people. I'm not going to post anything on social media. I occasionally post photos of me and DP so I guess people will realise when they see the bump! How exciting. Thank you smile

Sushirolls Sun 18-Mar-18 12:10:28

My daughter is the one who is Pg, not me. I was left to tell my hubbie 🙄😂 my mum is about an hour away and we put a scan pic in a frame for her, my outlaws live the other end of the country, so I sent an email with the scan pic and when we see them in person, they'll get a proper one in a frame. My daughter gave her brothers and sister a scan pic too, to tell them, and her bfs mum got a framed scan pic when they told her as it was also her bday - all these pics cost me a small fortune 🙈😂

With friends, she left it to me to announce that I was going to be a nanny 🎉 which then led to Congratulations to her too 😊

ArizonaLeone Sun 18-Mar-18 12:12:44

@Sushirolls how lovely! Congratulations! I think I may stick to photocopies in a card for scan photos 🙈 great that you did that for her. Good luck for when grandchild arrives flowers

mischiefmanaged01 Sun 18-Mar-18 16:56:23

We told my parents and DH’s. For siblings we sent a card saying something along the lines of ‘how would you like a promotion to Aunty and Uncle’ and then to our aunties and uncles we sent a text saying something along the lines of ‘you’ve always been pretty cool aunties and uncles, how do you feel about being great Aunty and uncles’. Oh and then DH’s grandparents we told on his Nan’s birthday and DH bought a great grandmother card. She opened it and was very confused and he just commented oh I got that a year early, needless to say they were over the moon 😍.

FranticallyPeaceful Sun 18-Mar-18 17:33:37

I didn’t until people started asking when I started showing, then news just spread that way

Pennywhistle Sun 18-Mar-18 17:38:20

We told parents face to face, and called siblings, our aunties and best friends.

We pretty much didn’t need to tell anyone else. We were having twins so it was prime gossip and spread really fast!

Don’t worry overly about it.

Congratulations flowers

LRL2017 Sun 18-Mar-18 17:39:42

We told parents and brothers and sisters face to face and then sent a scan photo to everybody else.

Vap0 Mon 19-Mar-18 08:39:26

We have 3 forms of communication in my family

Needless to say almost everyone knows now. I am 14 weeks though. I have only told a handful of close friends, just the ones I have seen. But we have other friends who we see often who I just haven’t told yet. I don’t like telling people really. I don’t want the whole conversation to revolve around me. I’m just expecting those who don’t know will notice over the next few months. This is baby 2, last time I didn’t announce it on social media until the birth, I will be doing the same again.

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