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Hating second pregnancy ☹️

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readysetcake · 22/02/2018 21:07

I loved being pregnant with my DD and was so excited to be pregnant again. But I’m hating it. I had terrible sickness that was replaced at 13 weeks with awful heartburn that is just relentless. I’ve got horrendous restless legs. Varicose veins. Had pelvic girdle pain from 18 weeks which is getting worse. Can’t walk some days. Painful cramps in legs in the middle of the night. I could go on.... I seem to be getting every shitty pregnancy symptom going. Just waiting for haemorrhoids to finish the set.

I’m finding it so hard to get excited about this baby as I feel so rubbish. Then I feel awful and guilty as the poor little thing is already on the back foot compared to its sibling and it’s not their fault. I know the most important thing is a healthy baby at the end but I’m struggling to keep sight of it.

Anyone else had an awful second pregnancy? Please tell me it was all forgotten when your little one arrived? It’s really starting to get me down and I’ve got 13 weeks to go.

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Countingsheeeep · 22/02/2018 21:12

No advice but lots of sympathy. I'm 34 weeks into my second pregnancy and have found it soooo much harder. Pgp, terrible heartburn, constipation, piles, and relentless exhaustion.

I already have a 12 month old DD, and feel so guilty that she wants to climb on me and cuddle on top of my belly and I can't because it's uncomfortable and makes the baby kick around which then makes me feel guilty for him ahhhh.

Not long to go though, and neither have you, you can do it!

readysetcake · 23/02/2018 06:25

Thanks counting. It’s tough isn’t it?!. You’re in the home stretch now though 🙂 My DD is 2 and just a whirlwind of energy. When She jumps on me she lands hard!! Oh for the days of naps and relaxation that we’re my first pregnacy!

I know it’s not forever and, all being well, I’ll get something wonderful at the end of it. But I can’t help looking at the next 13 weeks stretching ahead of me with dread 😔

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Scoobysue10 · 23/02/2018 06:29

HI there. I am 12+6 with baby number 3
This is my worst so far.
Just felt crappy generally with number 1, nausea but no actual sickness.
Number 2 I felt wonderful even in moments ofor being sick. Had pelvic pain from 8wks.
This one nausea started at 6wks then had sickness with it. Got really bad at 10wks and now on tablets that I am slowly cutting down and hopefully sickness has gone.
But the sickness and newspapers was lasting all day.
My skind got spotty and had sucher greasy hair. But skin is clearing up and haven't washed hair since Monday but will wash it today but hasn't been too bad. Was having to wash it every day at one point.
I have been so tired this time round but I am 38 so put it down to being much older. My last was born 10 yrs ago. What gets me through the babday days is looking at the end product. Good luck ladies.

readysetcake · 23/02/2018 06:35

Oh scooby, the sickness is awful. Sending unmumsnetty hugs to you Flowers Hopefully that’s the end of it for you and your second trimester will be lovely.

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mustbemad17 · 23/02/2018 06:40

I'm on my third here, i totally get where you're at. Pregnancies 1&2 were so bloody easy - they were a contributing factor to why i'm carrying number 3! This time has been hell...and I don't even have it anywhere near as bad as some. Morning sickness from the word go that hasn't really eased up, ridiculous reflux especially in the evening, anaemia so i'm knackered. And the SPD, wtf is that all about?! Normal every day activities like getting out of bed now take preparation. I hate it. I am so in love with my little man already, but at 25 weeks i'm so over being pregnant. And there won't be another one!!

butterybollocks · 23/02/2018 06:42

My second pregnancy was shit. Exhaustion, high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, a chest infection that lasted almost the entire second trimester.

BUT baby is now 3 months and so far, an easy baby. Sleeps through most nights, naps for hours, super smiley and happy. Hopefully that'll be the case for you op!

fudgiebutt · 23/02/2018 06:51

Ugh I'm with you there. 2nd pregnancy and dd is 9mo. Sickness all over Christmas, had every virus going, restless legs already. I literally feel like I'm falling apart! Still nursing a virus now so feeling very sorry for myself. I was the picture of health with dd - no msickness, no illness it was great.
I feel the same as you as in I'm not enjoying this pregnancy at all and feel terribly guilty for it

mammymammyIRL · 23/02/2018 07:00

This baby is not second best though because the pregnancy is going so badly for you, you will love him/her just the same.

My second pregnancy was awful I wished the baby would arrive early several times for it to be over, hated every single day of it but I adore my ds & bonded more strongly with him than my first born dd.

There was also complications after the birth for me and I've been left with ongoing problems 4 years down the line.

We had planned not to have anymore after two pregnancies anyhow but even if we hadn't that pregnancy was so horrible I would not have entertained another. But baby is no less precious than first baby with model pregnancy

readysetcake · 23/02/2018 09:04

Thanks mammy it’s good to be reminded that all the pregnancy horror fades in the face of your newborn. Just have to start a little daily mantra I think.

fudgie some Flowers Cake for you. It’s feel never ending at times.

buttery I’ve been hoping that my reward for this torture will be an easy going baby! Nice to m ow it can happen. Fingers and toes crossed.

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mammymammyIRL · 23/02/2018 10:34

OP unfortunately my ds didn't sleep for 2.5 years, but he's an adorable little sleeping 4 year old now Grin

readysetcake · 23/02/2018 11:09

mammy shhhh don’t day that! I’m off to eat my own weight in cake for lunch.

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user1499786242 · 23/02/2018 15:11

I could have written your post
First pregnancy at the time I thought was tough, but Jesus compared to this it was a breeze, I took weekly bump photos, went on a glorious 'babymoon' did a bump to baby journal thingy, rested and napped
Barely put on any weight, had abit of hip pain but nothing a nap wouldn't fix


This time. Oh my god
It's horrific, as one posted said 'I feel like I'm falling apart'
Such severe spd I am housebound already at 25 weeks! I've gotten as big as a house and I can't even bare the thought of taking a photo of myself in this state!
Shin and foot pain? What is that about?
My poor toddler is desperate to go out and play etc but i just can't!
Can't do all the nesting that I did with the first one either! Jeez I even had time to see and paint a cot the first time round??
Feel so guilty and this will be my last pregnancy and I'm gutted I'm
Not enjoying it! But just have to keep telling ourselves it's all so worth it!

Glad I'm not the only one!

readysetcake · 23/02/2018 18:48

Oh user I feel exactly the same. We won’t be having more and I was hoping to cherish this pregnancy. But I just want it over! You reminded me that I sanded and painted an old vintage toy box for my first while pregnant. I did a three mile walk the day before I went into labour and ate well. I can’t even walk half a mile now with suffering and just stuff my face to make myself feel better. Gutted is an understatement! But like you say, we just need to try and keep our eyes on the prize.

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snailmum · 24/02/2018 19:36

I have three beautiful children but all three of my pregnancies were hard. I was sick throughout pregnancies until I gave birth. I look back now and wonder how I survived but can honestly say as soon as the baby was in my arms it was all forgotten. I really hope the next 13 weeks aren't too hard but remember the end is in sight xxxxxx

DeathByMascara · 24/02/2018 19:42

My second pregnancy is exactly why I’ve sworn off any more - it was horrendous, bone crunching, all encompassing exhaustion from the get go. Never got over that first trimester exhaustion, it was awful. Carpal tunnel at the end, couldn’t sleep for the last 4 weeks as I was so uncomfortable & had a 3 year old to look after too.

I realise that I had it easier than so many others but by god, it was the hardest thing I've ever done.

Thankfully I got a beautiful baby boy at the end of it, he’s a delightful little two year old now & has brought us no end of joy during some really difficult times.

Still. No more.

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