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How do people function in pregnancy???? Rant

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lovelystar Tue 13-Feb-18 00:26:01

Sorry just here for a rant really.
38 + 5 days pregnant and pretty sure I'm close to becoming immobile... getting up of the sofa is a humongous effort as is simply rolling over in bed, if I even eat a little meal I feel like I'm suffocating yet I can't stop eating everything around me!? I'm also walking slower than my 90 year old nan and it's still painful down below and feels like the baby will fall out not to mention the never ending rib poking, stomach cramps, back aches etc, someone else please tell me they feel like this. I know its normal and its nearly the end but I just don't know how people cope with going up to 40 weeks +. Pretty sure baby isn't coming out because he knows it's cold hmm

Iwantaunicorn Tue 13-Feb-18 03:57:49

This time last week I felt like this. It is utterly shite, proper fucking painful, feels like it’ll never end, and the world is saying “only a couple of weeks to go” which might as well be a couple of decades, it feels so long!

You can do this! Slow and steady, only do the minimum you can get away with, and keep reminding yourself you are a superstar, and you are so close to meeting your baby!

Countingsheeeep Tue 13-Feb-18 04:05:53

Yep, 33+2 here and totally fed up. SPD, heart burn and wiggling baby have kept me awake all night.

I am unbelievably tired and have a full on day tomorrow looking after my 1 year old.

cornishmumtobe Tue 13-Feb-18 04:16:47

I was totally with you. Had baby on Saturday. Still in hospital. Now don't know how people function with a baby ahhhhhh sad

Countingsheeeep Tue 13-Feb-18 04:19:28

@cornishmumtobe you will be fine! The first few weeks are a weird time, don't be too hard on yourself smile

sayanythingelse Tue 13-Feb-18 04:34:12

Sorry you're having a hard time OP flowers
I was the same towards the end of my pregnancy, I remember walking to the antenatal clinic at 38+1 and thinking my pelvis was actually going to just split into two.
Hang in there, I know it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel now but you haven't got long to go. I promise that when you've got your baby in your arms, you'll look back and think "actually pregnancy wasnt all that bad!". I think it's something genetically hardwired into us women so that we'll reproduce again because pregnancy sucks grin

lovelystar Tue 13-Feb-18 04:58:36

iwantaunicorn I know people mean well by it but it does get so repetative, it is the slowest few weeks! I'm just having a moan but am excited deep down if a little scared!

countingsheep oh god I couldn't imagine doing it with another little one to look after, I salute you haha I'm just being moany I think , good luck with it and hope you get some rest soon!

Cornishmumtobe Congratulations!

sayanythingelse thank you that made me feel better I'm being induced Sunday so at least I can be semi prepared!

Newnaime Tue 13-Feb-18 05:05:49

My pelvis clicks EVERY time I move!
I get stomach pains which aren't contractions, just sheer "it's too effing big" pains.
I need the toilet every 2 minutes. I'm not exaggerating
I eat every 5 minutes and then all the above problems are heightened. Yet I can't not.
I can't sleep for more than 2/3 hours at a time without waking up for the toilet, or because I've had a nightmare, or for no reason in particular sometimes.
My acid reflux makes me feel like there's a hole burning in my throat.
My skin is falling off. My face, head and hands are genuinely malting with skin.
I'm shattered but darent nap because 1-DD wouldn't allow it, 2-I can't get comfortable, 3- id feel even more exhausted when I wake up as really I need a solid 2 week nap to recover and 4- my bones fall asleep and are painfully tight and almost immobilising when I wake up.
But pregnancy is beautiful no it fucking isn't

Emmastone123 Tue 13-Feb-18 05:26:26

I feel you sista!
Had chronic Utis through my whole pregnancy. Bladder feels on fire not helped by all the pressure. Back hurts, excema flare up, painful stomach muscles, swollen everywhere, acid reflux.
I'm so SICK of being pregnant but then have been since week 8. Booked in for a c section next week thank the lord!

Emmastone123 Tue 13-Feb-18 05:27:26

Oh yeah and can't sleep - hence posting on here at 5:27 confused

Oysterbabe Tue 13-Feb-18 05:41:20

I was exactly the same at the end, miserable. You can't sleep once they're born either but at least the pain stops and there's gin.

Piewraith Tue 13-Feb-18 05:49:22

Gosh yes, I feel the same and I'm only 27 weeks. Every second of it is awful. And all the people saying "once the baby is here you ll look back and think pregnancy was the easy part" just make me want to cry.

It would be amazing to feel relatively comfortable, able to breathe, and not sick just for an hour or even a minute.

The only time I have felt happiness so far in this pregnancy is when I got told the date for my c section. I was so happy this will actually be over at some point.

It makes me scared for the future, when I become sick or old or terminally ill. I can imagine the horror and hopelessness I would feel if I knew feeling this shit was never going to end.

Bananarama12 Tue 13-Feb-18 05:56:05

Everything is worse when the baby arrives.

hlr1987 Tue 13-Feb-18 06:56:42

At this point, it genuinely isn't worse when the baby arrives! Crying when I go to move in the night because I'm trying to swing a kettle bell with my vagina before I pee the bed. It's hard when the baby's here, but this is worse (2nd time around). 41w and counting sad So sick of being asked if it's labour when ever I make an involuntary
wince. No, at least I know that would have an end in sight.

bulldogmum Tue 13-Feb-18 07:00:32

Totally feel your pain. 41 weeks here with DC2. Struggle to do anything and never ending (well meaning) messages asking for news. I want to scream!
Wee myself if I cough, laugh etc. Heartburn, constantly in pain with back ache and spd and can’t get comfy cos legs under the ribs.
DC1 arrived bang on her due date so never got this far before and it’s like a form of torture...the worst is the insomnia! Average 1.5-3 hours sleep a night and genuinely no clue where I’ll have the energy to push a baby out.

scaredofthecity Tue 13-Feb-18 07:21:24

I'm only 28 weeks and seriously struggling. Only 3 frigging months...

But those who say having a newborn is worse must have had easier pregnancies.

My DS was a difficult baby, I breastfed and had he silent reflux and hardly slept BUT it was ok and I could deal with it AS I WASN'T PREGNANT anymore! I wasn't in constant pain anymore , and when I got the opportunity I could actually sleep properly for a few hours.

Prusik Tue 13-Feb-18 07:33:35

Honestly, I have a thirteen month old and a four week old and I'm 100% less tired than when I was pregnant with either of my two. Yes I'm sleep deprived as newborn was up feeding till 3am and toddler was up at 5am but my body doesn't creak, I can put my socks on, no reflux. I absolutely love not being pregnant and this is a million times easier although I do have to be very organised

Oysterbabe Tue 13-Feb-18 08:46:49

The birth of my son was the happiest day of my life as it marked the end of ever having to be pregnant again.

newmum7369 Tue 13-Feb-18 09:09:34

thanks for you OP and everyone else, I remember it well and it was rubbish.

DS was 2 weeks late (I was induced) and 9lb 5.5oz. I was enormous. We had a heatwave in June (he was July born) and I suffered from horrendous hayfever from May until the end of my pregnancy.

There is a thread on here somewhere started by me saying that I thought I might be the first woman to be pregnant forever. I think I'd gone a bit barmy confused

It honestly will be over soon and the next bit is so so much better. Don't listen to anyone who tells you to make the most of the peace and quiet and all that rubbish. Just try and get from one day to the next, it really could be any day now smile

Macarena1980 Tue 13-Feb-18 09:11:58

I’m 38 plus 5 today and since about 36 weeks have felt the same, can hardly walk, sore can’t get comfy, not sleeping etc...
Glad it’s not just me and thinking it must go away as why would people ever have more than one! Hope your wee one arrives soon.

Newnaime Tue 13-Feb-18 09:13:55

macarena I'm 38+5 today too I think. EDD 22nd Feb?

derekthe1adyhamster Tue 13-Feb-18 09:18:43

Yep. I felt like pregnancy lasted for 8 months and 1 year....

HumphreyCobblers Tue 13-Feb-18 09:23:29

I was always amazed by women who could run or walk long distances when past 25 weeks. I just hurt ALL THE TIME.

I have recently realised that my hyper-mobility might have something to do with this. I don't know why I didn't think of this before. I think I just felt inadequate and those women that could go on a four mile walk on their due date were just better people than me.

I have three children and I can assure all of you who are pregnant for the first time that being pregnant was definitely the worst bit for me, having actual children outside my body was a doddle in comparison.

lifechangesforeverinjuly Tue 13-Feb-18 09:32:26

Can I ask at what point you ladies all went on / are going on maternity leave? (If applicable)

I'm due 18th July and planning a finish date of 6th July but I have to walk 10ish minutes to a bus stop, then commute for 40-45 minutes with another walk once I'm in the centre, albeit a couple of mins. I then sit at a desk all day but have to walk to other offices for meetings.

Is it all going to be doable or should I consider leaving earlier and having less time with DD? I can work from home, which might be the answer for a couple of weeks.

Emmastone123 Tue 13-Feb-18 09:32:42

So thankful for this thread. I felt so alone in hating my pregnancy.

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