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Unsure on paternity dna??

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misscs · 12/02/2018 15:39

My son is due to be born by csection over the next week.

I am uncertain of paternity and feel like i dont want to know. Its my own stupidity and mistake but i dont want to know.

My lmp was: 10/06/17
28 day cycle
Faint positive: 3rd july
Clear blue test: 4th july 1 to 2 weeks (since conception)

Unprotected sex on 17th June no ejaculate

Unprotected sex on 20th June ejaculate.

The man on the 17th will never meet his child. He most definitely will have nothing to do with him.

The man on the 20th will have something to do with him IF he is his.

Ive created my own stress and problems and reality is hitting harder as the days near closer.

Has anyone else been through something similar.

Not looking for sympathy. My child will be loved what ever the result.

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Lifeofpies · 12/02/2018 16:24

It’s really impossible to tell with your dates. You say you don’t want to know, but it sounds like not knowing is causing a lot of stress? Knowing has benefits for your baby, obviously - parent’s health history and maintenance.

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iggleypiggly · 12/02/2018 16:26

I think you owe it to your DS to find out who his father is. It must be stressful for you. I imagine once you can establish paternity it will be a relief and help you decide what to do going forward

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PinkHeart5914 · 12/02/2018 16:29

I do understand why you are so desperate to know but nobody on here can tell you, the only way is to have a dna test once baby is here. As the dates you had sex are so close together, a dna test really is the only way

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Oysterbabe · 12/02/2018 16:37

You may not want to know but your child will some day. Also the father should pay maintenance for the child's benefit.

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dontforgetto · 12/02/2018 16:42

It seems most likely that the person from 20th is the father. Both from the point you would have been at in your cycle and the ejaculate.

Of course, it's impossible to know for certain without a DNA test though. I appreciate you don't want the complication and stress of finding out, but your son has a right to know who his father is.

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dinosaurkisses · 12/02/2018 21:02

this must be really stressful OP- please remember you aren’t the first woman to be in this boat and you definitely aren’t the last.

Having said that, your boy deserves to know who his biological father is. I had an ex who’s mother either wouldn’t or couldn’t tell him who his dad was, and it affected him very negatively.