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Confused about pregnancy

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scaredofbabies Mon 12-Feb-18 12:09:05

First time posting on MN's so bear with me please...

I have just found out I am pregnant with second child, we were actively trying to conceive and I was sure that we were ready for another child and was very excited about the prospect.

However, since the moment I seen the positive test result I have felt so scared and have completely convinced myself that this is the biggest mistake I have made. The fear mostly revolves around:
1. Why on earth am I changing what is a really happy family dynamic?
2. Why am I doing this to my toddler - this is going to have a detrimental effect on them and change their whole life and I can't believe how selfish I am not to have considered that before now
3. How on earth am I going to cope with being pregnant and looking after the toddler without it impacting their life?

I can't believe how quickly I have went from daydreaming about newborns and expanding our family to thinking that I've made the worst mistake and there's no way out of it. Is this just hormones? Did anyone else feel this way? Any reassurance / advice is gratefully received.

Thanks for reading!

BifsWif Mon 12-Feb-18 12:12:17

Completely normal.

I felt like I’d ruined my sons life when my daughter was born, I felt so guilty and yes the newborn stage was hard. Fast forward two years and they’re inseparable. She completed our family and none of us can imagine not having her.

Congratulations x

KalaLaka Mon 12-Feb-18 12:15:17

I think its normal: reality hits home when you get the positive test. Give yourself a few weeks to adjust.

Snowydaysarehere Mon 12-Feb-18 12:16:42

I am sure your toddler will be over the moon. Maybe not initially but when the baby is more fun than a newborn!! Stop doubting what will be a great time for you too!!

Foggymist Mon 12-Feb-18 12:39:59

If they were true nobody would have siblings or go on to have more than one child. Of course you haven't ruined your child's life, children adjust to the dynamic and get on with life. I'm an only child and have two children, it never occurred to me that I was ruining ds1's life to have ds2, I was delighted that he'd have a sibling and that we'd have another family member.

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