I had been TTC for 6 months and didn't expect it to happen but tested positive yesterday. It's still early days of course but I'm really scared. My parents don't live nearby and I don't have many friends here. The ones I do have aren't very baby friendly and one in particular I'm worried about telling because she wants her own baby but she doesn't have a partner currently. All my pregnant and friends with babies live back in my hometown.
I have very bad and all consuming health anxiety at times so I'm already concerned my heart is beating too fast, I've had the odd palpitation too - I know it's partly anxiety.
I'm really worried about miscarrying, ectopic pregnancy and pre eclampsia, let alone the north itself as I'm terrified of hospitals!
I thought I'd be happy and I'm really disappointed with myself my partner is happy, obviously it's still early days. I just feel like crying all the time.
OP, I have anxiety and when pregnant it amplifies it. No matter how much I want the baby, I feel anxious. It’s hormonal and it isn’t your fault.
The risk of miscarriage is fairly low, as is ectopic. I’ve had several miscarriages and most miscarriages happen before you even know you’re pregnant. I know how consuming the worry is, but it won’t change anything.
I had an ELCS because I was frightened of birth. Would that be an option?
Every time you start panicking say these words to yourself over and over.
The worries in pregnancy can be all consuming. I try not to think about them but then I don't have anxiety. I am incredibly anxious person and do obsess over things that other people wouldn't get hung up on and I do loose sleep through it, so I find that distracting myself or stop allowing myself to think about the particular thing helps a bit, although it's not always possible.
Also another thing is that we are in the process of buying a house and I want to continue with that and find somewhere as we are currently renting. I'm not planning on telling the bank I'm pregnant as I'm not sure they'll lend us the amount they've said they will. So we'll need to find somewhere before I'm showing.
@SpongeCake23 I never had to see anyone from the bank in person when applying for our mortgage - it was all online/over the phone. Also with your first you probably won't show properly until 6 or 7 months so don't panic about that!
All the other worries are totally standard. Just take each day as it comes.
Hi @SpongeCake23. Congratulations! I got my bfp today after 7 months TTC. I suffer with anxiety too but take sertraline which really helps. I discussed this with my GP before TTC and agreed it was safe to stay on it.
We are getting married next year and looking at buying a house as we are renting now also. All these things are coming and once and it's a time of anxiety but also excitement.
Please see your gp about feeling like this as they will certainly be able to help you in some way. And mumsnet is always here if you want to chat. Xx
I had what I thought were period pains at about six weeks but it was just implantation pain.
I was (still am) far away from home (about 5000 miles). I was really anxious during pregnancy but once I got to the second trimester things improved as I could count kicks and I found that really reassuring. I went on to have a really lovely pregnancy.
One hing that helped me was a CBT strategy I found online. Whenever I felt my anxiety surfacing I'd ask myself, how would a non-anxious person behave/feel right now? It helped me gain some perspective.
Best of luck OP. What you're feeling is normal, though unpleasant.