Hi all... Booked in an early 8 week scan for today and it was bad news. Empty sac/blighted ovum measuring 7+1... we are both absolutely gutted. I’m struggling with the ‘not knowing’ of what happens next and so I was wondering if anyone has experienced similar? We had an early loss in December but that was only 5 weeks. One thing keeping me going is that I know I’m definitely not the only one this has happened to. It’s so strange having symptoms but knowing now they don’t mean anything. Apparently we have to get a doctors referral for EPU tomorrow. We are meant to be going away on Tuesday as it’s going to be the 1 year anniversary of my dad’s death on Valentine’s. This week is going to suck.
I'm so sorry OP. I had this in November, blighted ovum found at 11+4. I was devastated and it still makes me gutted thinking about it, it's always in the back of my mind but I'm trying to move on. I was given options for how to end the pregnancy, medical management (tablets to take at home), and MVA or just to wait (expectant management). I had an MVA and although I was terrified beforehand it was quick, the pain wasn't too bad and I was relived to have some kind of "control" over the situation. I felt less distressed once that was over and then had the equivalent of a light period for about 3 weeks. It took about 7 weeks before I had a period and my levels went to zero.
Look after yourself, you will start to feel better with time.
Similar experience to yourself had a scan at 8 weeks to be told baby died at 6 weeks I chose medical management as I didn’t want it to happen when I had no control e.g at work. It was painful emotionally and physically but I think it was the best decision for myself. I also bled for a long time after I think it was 7 weeks. I got my first period and fell pregnant that month I’m now 20 weeks, sorry to hear your news know exactly what you’re going through x
I had this. It was discovered at my dating scan around 12 weeks but they said pregnancy probably failed before 6 weeks. It's truly cruel and heartbreaking.
As we had a young child at home I opted for medical management rather than surgical. It was painful. Both emotionally and physically. I bled a lot and actually had to return to the hospital where they helped remove the sac as I wasn't passing it. After that it was less painful. I'm not sure I'd go down that route again to be honest.
On a positive note we were pregnant again within 3 months and had no further problems. I had a private scan at 7 weeks with that pregnancy and we were able to see the heartbeat. That was very reassuring! Not sure I could have waited until 12 weeks.
Thank you all so much for all of your kind words. Today just feels like a horrible dream. So pleased to hear some positive news, both time helping with healing and successful pregnancies down the line. I can’t even imagine getting through 8 weeks of another pregnancy at the moment. Thank you for advice too about the next steps, it really is a horrible thing to have to go through.