Hi,
My partner & I have recently been trying for a baby & I’m already very anxious about childbirth. I’ve always wanted a baby, but think I’ve subconsciously been worried about the thought of giving birth for a long time. My partner didn’t want any more children for a good while (he has a son at uni) & I felt elated when he changed his mind, but can’t stop worryingly about the birth I’m 35 & he is quite a bit older than me. If we do manage to conceive, this will be the only one.
Anyway we started ttc just before Christmas & it’s suddenly seeming very scary & real. I can’t face the thought of VB & know that I would prefer an ELCS for a number of reasons.
I’ve read so much on the subject, including the NICE guidelines, RCOG, ‘The Caesarean’ by Michel Odent as well as ‘How to Grow a Baby & Push it Out’ by Clemmie Hooper (to have a rounded view) so I know about the pros & cons of both methods of delivery. I’ve read so much it’s becoming obsessive!
A huge factor is that my mum suffered from terrible PND after her 3rd child (ironically c-section due to pelvis size) which was never treated (her midwife told her to pull herself together which led to her becoming an alcoholic. She suffers psychotic episodes & had to be hospitalised at one point. It’s had a huge affect on my whole family. I’ve always hated the idea of being out of control. I’m the same with alcohol & would never drink until I didn’t know what I was doing. I know anything can happen in childbirth, but feel an elcs would be more controlled.
Anyway, I made an appointment to see my doctor last week where I outlined my concerns & he made it clear that I wouldn’t be entitled to an elcs on the NHS & would struggle to find anyone to do it privately either (he mentioned risks of suing the hospital if anything went wrong) because i’m fit & healthy. My Doctor is usually brilliant, but I didn’t feel listened to & nearly started crying. He said if I was his wife he’d be advising Vb & if I was rich I could go to the Portland. I have actually looked into private, but we can’t really afford - it would mean loans & credit cards. My Dr also advised me to just get pregnant & speak to the
consultant
Anyway, I know this is all hypothetical as I may not get pregnant, but I just wanted to ask if anyone has had a maternal request elcs on the NHS in a staffordshire hospital? I would just like to have a choice.
Sorry this is such a long post & thank you if you have read it. I don’t feel I can’t talk to friends & family about this - though my dh has been lovely & supportive
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