Are pregnancy announcements always twee?

[Didntcomeheretofuckspiders]

I remember a friend posting a photo to announce her pregnancy a while ago and finding it a bit twee and silly. It was their work shoes and badges (they both work in public services) and then some booties and the scan photo. At the time I was very judgemental about it!

Fast forward a bit and I have my 12 week scan next week and all of a sudden I’m considering doing something similar! 😂 We’re having to move our wedding so I want to announce it as soon as possible and to as many of our friends and family as possible (really close people already know) so that we can pre-warn people and get the new date out ASAP so Facebook has become a good option. And I even think a cute picture would be nice! I was thinking of doing something with race numbers or bikes as we’re both very sporty. Have I gone mad?

[Jaedee93]

I think announcements are sweet specially as there’s so many diff ideas to announce it now Pinterest has loads!

Do it if you feel that’s what you wanna do x

[Buxbaum]

Well, yes, it’s twee, but it sounds like you need an efficient way to tell a lot of people as quickly as possible. I would probably email, tbh, but if Facebook is where your friends are then that might be better for you.

Just remember your own reaction to your friend’s pic and be aware that others will be similarly eye-rolly. If that doesn’t bother you then crack on!

[ClareB83]

We used a pic of my DH's cuff links that say 'baby boy' to announce we were expecting two boys. He wore them at our wedding two weeks later. It might be twee but it made us smile and any of our friends who don't think so can keep it to themselves or get told to do one!

[Foggymist]

Always twee. We just told people face to face, or over the phone or messages, can't you contact your guests that way?

[Potteryprincess30]

@Didntcomeheretofuckspiders do a whatsapp group instead and post it on there. So much more personal, private and classy then faceflaps!

Congratulations

[MrsPear]

Why do you need to do an announcement?!

[Potteryprincess30]

And if you do whatsapp then you will only be telling the people who you want to know, and who actually want to know. So you can be as cute and twee as you want as everyone on there will be thrilled for you

[KalaLaka]

Twee and yuk.

[Gladiola44]

Always ghastly and twee, second pp “yuck!”

[Atticusss]

Aww, I love them. Not for me though, I have just always posted scan photos. I cringe at wedding announcements instead, never babies.

[OakIsBetterTho]

Oh nearly always, but I find them quite sweet. People are excited, that's all. I prefer a slightly twee one to just a photo of a scan, but I find scan photos hard to see at the best of times due to personal loss.

[Oysterbabe]

Yeah a bit but who cares? First time I just posted a picture of a bun in an oven. Second time I posted a picture of my toddler looking at a book called I'm a New Big Sister and looking pissed off.

[rollingonariver]

We just put up a picture of our scan photos and said 'we're having a baby'. I don't think it was twee just quite matter of fact. We did the same when she was born

[PancakeInMaBelly]

The scan pic ones are the worst. Scans are medical investigations, as such they remind lots of people of the EXACT MOMENT that they got bad news.

Thats not to say you cant share your scan pics at all, but theyre not cool as a general announcement/post to everyone IMO.

Everyone knows people who've had traumatic scan experiences

[Evelynismycatsformerspyname]

Absolutely twee. Doesn't do anyone any harm though, so do it if you want to! Remember your own reaction and accept not everyone will swoon at your cuteness, but it will get the word out if that's your aim.

You could just do a new wedding invite with the new date including the reason if you wanted.

Scans area medical tool but the photo is the closest thing most people have to "proof" they are pregnant, so there's nothing terrible about sharing that as an announcement either IMO. There's no medical reason to print off the scan image as a souvenir, yet it's standard practice at the end of a 12 week viability scan if all seems well.

I don't think I announced my pregnancies, in any wholesale way, just told people as and when. My 3rd pregnancy I don't think I told anyone, but DC 1 and 2 did and I confirmed when asked!

[Girlwiththearabstrap]

They are a bit, but who cares! They also make me smile as I like hearing others happy news. I prefer those kind of announcements to scan pics tbh. I don't know why but I find them a bit bizarre. It's a grainy looking picture of someone's insides. Like sharing an x-ray or something!

[Thelampshadelady]

I hate Facebook announcements.
We haven’t announced our pregnancy and I’m 24 weeks. I’m glad I’ve kept quiet though as we’ve had complications along the way.
Many of our friends and family still don’t know so I’m probably completely the opposite end of the scale.

[Loosemoose28]

I did one at 20’weeks.

Used the dogs who were sat next to a book called “how to look after your new human” and I had very obviously added the new.

Yes facebook posts like that are twee but sod it, its a bit of fun. I run in a few circles of friends some closer that others so most poeople knew anyway.

[1sttimeunicorn]

I’m not sure about scan photos for the reasons described above. I lost several pregnancies and scans were always difficult even when all was well. You will most likely know someone who has lost a pregnancy as it happens to 1 in 4 women, it’s likely to make them sad in a way that’s hard to explain.
I also find it quite uncomfortable when people do Facebook announcements. I think it possibly comes from my general sense of unease about social media, like it’s turned everyone into mini celebrities behaving as if everyone needs to acknowledge their life and achievements in a way that just wasn’t necessary before. We announced DS’s safe arrival once we knew he was ok and all was well with both me and him.
I wouldn’t judge people who make announcements of pregnancy. But I guess sometimes it makes me feel funny about this day and age. Not sure that makes any sense.

[PointeShoesAndTutus]

Apologies for the potential hijack but wanting to pick brains on announcements. We're not planning on putting scan pics up, or making a formal announcement.

We'd not have put the scans up anyway (they feel too private) and have avoided an 'announcement' because my best friend sadly miscarried at the same time as our 20 week scan, and there's no way I wanted to even potentially add to her pain by flaunting my pregnancy.

I'm now pretty obviously pregnant. We went out a couple of nights ago for a friend's birthday and I was contemplating putting up a photo from the night - obviously looking pregnant - with a caption that says something along the lines of 'fab night out, happy birthday friend - and yes, baby Pointeshoes coming soon'.

Any advice on whether that is going to upset people who have struggled with pregnancy/fertility/loss?

[NotSoSprightly]

I always cringe...

[Buxbaum]

@pointe I would personally put the photo up with no mention of the pregnancy and disable comments. If it’s obvious then people will draw their own conclusions and message you privately.

[PancakeInMaBelly]

That sounds fine Pointe

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

I don't think it's terrible or anything pointe but I do think it might come across as you hijacking your friend's birthday - I think have two separate posts, one wishing her a happy birthday and one (with photo if you like) with your news.

I don't really get why people insist on putting up scan and bump pictures. We believe you're pregnant if you tell us so, no one's demanding proof!

[PointeShoesAndTutus]

Thanks all - good points to think about. I reckon I might leave the photo off and focus on the birthday!

End hijack - sorry OP!