Hi we got the angel care wireless - expensive!! We were super paranoid re SIDS and thought this would make us feel better. Nope it was faulty kept going off and never worked properly ended up taking it back. We also had a movement only monitor for downstairs crib (did I mention we were paranoid ) that one was better and had worked but tbh as we didn't leave baby to sleep alone - I see you have the same plan - I'm not sure it added anything. Best of luck
We never got one with our first and won't this time either. For one, last thing I need is it going off because I'm co-sleeping with him and that triggers it. But I was very aware of my first and her breathing and it's possible to regulate baby's breathing with your own when you sleep together (you can try it, it's really cool). So I trusted my instincts over some machine and didn't feel like it was necessary.
I bought a Snuza hero which clips onto the nappy. I had anxiety about miscarriage/stillbirth when I was pregnant and my daughter wasn't breathing when she was born so this just upped my anxiety and I bought one. Although it doesn't prevent SIDS it reassured me massively I wouldn't have slept without it. Downside of it is she's almost 9 months and I can't bring myself to stop using it.
I had one false alarm (which nearly gave me a heart attack!) but it coincided with her going up a size in nappy so I put it down to that. Now that she's bigger and wriggles all over her cot I have the odd false alarm. I really wish I could stop using it though I hate being this paranoid I still check her breathing constantly if she's asleep in her pram and even with the alarm attached at night I still have the odd panic moment and grab her which obviously startles her.
I agree that they are unnecessary and can make some people more anxious but personally for me and my circumstances it saved my sanity. I would go for a Snuza if I were you rather than the mat as there are no wires etc and I've read more false alarms with the mat if the baby rolls off the sensor.
For that matter, I have heard a couple stories from people I know about the wires becoming tangled around baby, which a pp mentioned. That alone actually makes me nervous, besides them seemingly unnecessary.
Thank you very much for replying. Spoke to dp and he thinks it would make anxiety worse.. He said not just for me for him too. And tangling in wires Omg! That's horrible for you x x Think ill leave it xx