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WWYD- summer wedding of relative

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starsandcookies · 15/12/2017 14:50

I've only recently found out I'm pregnant and I was speaking to a relative today who mentioned my cousins wedding, it then suddenly dawned on me that providing everything goes ok I'll be 38 weeks at the wedding.
Last pregnancy was horrible at the end and I just disliked everyone in general I had a serious case of bitch face.
I was having problems involving scans, consultants and was at risk of my waters going early, so had to leave work early and pretty much do nothing until I was 36 weeks. Wasn't at my best to be honest! I know this pregnancy could be completely different though.
It's literally a 20 minute drive away but I'm still stressing about what to do because they are sending invites in jan and I don't want to mess them about as I know how expensive they are and everything is obviously paid for upfront.

If I had little one early, I probably wouldn't want to take a newborn.

WWYD? Thanks in advance

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debbs77 · 15/12/2017 15:04

Still go but be prepared to leave if you need to.

I attended my sister's wedding at 39 weeks xx

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acquiescence · 15/12/2017 15:05

I don’t think you need to worry too much about this. I would probably rsvp when you feel comfortable telling them about the pregnancy as say you would love to come but for them to be aware there is a risk you may not be able to come if you have the baby early or if you are unwell. Say you will give them as much notice as possible and that you understand if they would rather you just care for the ceremony/evening do if it is a big affair and will require firm numbers for an expensive meal.

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mindutopia · 15/12/2017 17:26

It's only 20 minutes away (my hospital and our nearest shop are more than 20 minutes away!), so I wouldn't see any reason you wouldn't be able to go if you are otherwise well and baby hasn't arrived. But perhaps just plan to attend the wedding and drinks reception and leave before dinner or the evening do if you think you'll be too tired. That way they don't have to pay for a dinner for you (in case you don't feel like or can't attend), but you still make an appearance at the wedding. But I would rsvp with a note just letting them know you're pregnant (if they don't know) and that you may not be able to attend last minute if you are in labour or have a very new baby, and just check that's okay. Obviously if you are just coming for a bit, you aren't really costing them anything to attend, so it shouldn't be an issue.

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starsandcookies · 16/12/2017 11:11

Thanks everyone for the replies I think I'll just speak to them when I'm ready to announce the pregnancy and see what they say. I'd rather just commit to the ceremony and evening do, I can then pop home mid day at least. Its in a marquee too and I've been to this venue before for an event on a fairly bleak summers day and it was like a sauna! I can't imagine it will be fun on a hot day!
Thanks again x